Am I Right or Wrong?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I still feel like she lied because she said she would be able to drive. Having an expired license means she can’t drive. We were too uncomfortable. It’s a lesson learned for her. She needs to be upfront from now on. She should have let us know prior to her offer that her license was expired.

Oh dear. You've got it backwards. Every SINGLE response here told you that YOU are wrong, YOU overreacted, and you are still maintaining that she was wrong. You're wrong about that. I've had a nanny for almost ten years. Driving was not a part of the job. Thus, she was not obligated to tell you anything about her driving status. She should have been asked if she had a reliable form of transportation to get to and from work, and her answer should have been yes or no. She went beyond yes by sharing her methods. YOU are wrong here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I still feel like she lied because she said she would be able to drive. Having an expired license means she can’t drive. We were too uncomfortable. It’s a lesson learned for her. She needs to be upfront from now on. She should have let us know prior to her offer that her license was expired.

Did you specifically ask her to drive or need to be able to drive? Otherwise I could understand her treating it as a bridge to cross once she gets there kind of thing and not worth mentioning until it’s an issue.

[Anonymous]

Op, you can decide to not hire her for any reason. Or not good reason too. You are entitled to a prference. No need to frame it as right vs wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I still feel like she lied because she said she would be able to drive. Having an expired license means she can’t drive. We were too uncomfortable. It’s a lesson learned for her. She needs to be upfront from now on. She should have let us know prior to her offer that her license was expired.

Um, have you read the previous responses? She CAN drive on a license that expired during the pandemic, because appointments to renew are so scarce. Congratulations, you played yourself, OP. Now you've got no nanny and you look like a dunce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I still feel like she lied because she said she would be able to drive. Having an expired license means she can’t drive. We were too uncomfortable. It’s a lesson learned for her. She needs to be upfront from now on. She should have let us know prior to her offer that her license was expired.

She is able if she renews her license. If she is not driving your kids its a non-issue. She should have disclosed it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I still feel like she lied because she said she would be able to drive. Having an expired license means she can’t drive. We were too uncomfortable. It’s a lesson learned for her. She needs to be upfront from now on. She should have let us know prior to her offer that her license was expired.

Can you articulate why a job which doesn’t require driving would require an MVR check? Also, she may not have actually lied. If her license expired during the pandemic she might still be able to drive with it (I don’t know your state’s policy) but it would come up as expired. Is that really hard to believe if you think through that logically? Like a PP said, it’s near impossible to get an appointment right now. I had to take one 2 months out when my license was expiring and it was the soonest I could get.

Anyway, you sound ridiculous and she surely dodged a bullet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I still feel like she lied because she said she would be able to drive. Having an expired license means she can’t drive. We were too uncomfortable. It’s a lesson learned for her. She needs to be upfront from now on. She should have let us know prior to her offer that her license was expired.

Ugh. OP please don't try to teach other adults lessons. You haven't walked a mile in her shoes and don't know her situation.
If you aren't comfortable with her taking care of your child, just own it and don't try to pin it on some unwritten rule she violated. I'm sure she is just trying to make a living.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I still feel like she lied because she said she would be able to drive. Having an expired license means she can’t drive. We were too uncomfortable. It’s a lesson learned for her. She needs to be upfront from now on. She should have let us know prior to her offer that her license was expired.

Did you specifically ask her to drive or need to be able to drive? Otherwise I could understand her treating it as a bridge to cross once she gets there kind of thing and not worth mentioning until it’s an issue.

OP here. We specified that a car was needed for this position. She told me that she had a car and would be driving to/from work when she wasn’t walking. That implies she has a license. She should shave disclosed the expired license prior to our background check. We would have not considered her if we knew she didn’t have a valid license.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I still feel like she lied because she said she would be able to drive. Having an expired license means she can’t drive. We were too uncomfortable. It’s a lesson learned for her. She needs to be upfront from now on. She should have let us know prior to her offer that her license was expired.

Can you articulate why a job which doesn’t require driving would require an MVR check? Also, she may not have actually lied. If her license expired during the pandemic she might still be able to drive with it (I don’t know your state’s policy) but it would come up as expired. Is that really hard to believe if you think through that logically? Like a PP said, it’s near impossible to get an appointment right now. I had to take one 2 months out when my license was expiring and it was the soonest I could get.

Anyway, you sound ridiculous and she surely dodged a bullet.

OP here. Her driving record and if she has multiple tickets or worse speaks to her level of responsibility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I still feel like she lied because she said she would be able to drive. Having an expired license means she can’t drive. We were too uncomfortable. It’s a lesson learned for her. She needs to be upfront from now on. She should have let us know prior to her offer that her license was expired.

Did you specifically ask her to drive or need to be able to drive? Otherwise I could understand her treating it as a bridge to cross once she gets there kind of thing and not worth mentioning until it’s an issue.

OP here. We specified that a car was needed for this position. She told me that she had a car and would be driving to/from work when she wasn’t walking. That implies she has a license. She should shave disclosed the expired license prior to our background check. We would have not considered her if we knew she didn’t have a valid license.

Wait, your story is changing. In your own OP you said you asked if she had a car OR a reliable form of transportation. You can’t go back and change the details now to make yourself look better. You indicated nowhere before this that a car was needed for the position.

[Anonymous]

You're wrong OP and you sound pretty awful. Either you were requiring her to drive your child, or you're not. You say that you're not. Why does she need a current DL if she's not driving your child?

[Anonymous]

Haha. You’re totally and completely wrong. The nanny dodged abullet not working for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I still feel like she lied because she said she would be able to drive. Having an expired license means she can’t drive. We were too uncomfortable. It’s a lesson learned for her. She needs to be upfront from now on. She should have let us know prior to her offer that her license was expired.

Did you specifically ask her to drive or need to be able to drive? Otherwise I could understand her treating it as a bridge to cross once she gets there kind of thing and not worth mentioning until it’s an issue.

OP here. We specified that a car was needed for this position. She told me that she had a car and would be driving to/from work when she wasn’t walking. That implies she has a license. She should shave disclosed the expired license prior to our background check. We would have not considered her if we knew she didn’t have a valid license.

Do you know what the rules are about driving on an expired license during this pandemic in your state before you blast her for being an irresponsible liar? It can both be true that her license is expired and she can drive on it during this time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I still feel like she lied because she said she would be able to drive. Having an expired license means she can’t drive. We were too uncomfortable. It’s a lesson learned for her. She needs to be upfront from now on. She should have let us know prior to her offer that her license was expired.

Ugh. OP please don't try to teach other adults lessons. You haven't walked a mile in her shoes and don't know her situation.
If you aren't comfortable with her taking care of your child, just own it and don't try to pin it on some unwritten rule she violated. I'm sure she is just trying to make a living.

Seriously. It can be really tough to get an appointment at the DMV these days. I lost my license (as in I lost the physical object), couldn't renew online, and then it was an extended ordeal to get an appointment to replace it. Next time tell candidates to provide a copy of their liscense at the initial interview and you'll save everyone time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I still feel like she lied because she said she would be able to drive. Having an expired license means she can’t drive. We were too uncomfortable. It’s a lesson learned for her. She needs to be upfront from now on. She should have let us know prior to her offer that her license was expired.

Did you specifically ask her to drive or need to be able to drive? Otherwise I could understand her treating it as a bridge to cross once she gets there kind of thing and not worth mentioning until it’s an issue.

OP here. We specified that a car was needed for this position. She told me that she had a car and would be driving to/from work when she wasn’t walking. That implies she has a license. She should shave disclosed the expired license prior to our background check. We would have not considered her if we knew she didn’t have a valid license.

Wait, your story is changing. In your own OP you said you asked if she had a car OR a reliable form of transportation. You can’t go back and change the details now to make yourself look better. You indicated nowhere before this that a car was needed for the position.

OP here. We stated we wanted a nanny with a car and reliable transportation. She said she had a car to use. At the interview she said she was wi ugh on walking distance and would walk most days until it got cold. Her telling us she had a a reliable car implied she has a valid license. In our state ( not DC) you have to have a valid license. The pandemic hasn’t changed anything. Her not having a valid license men’s she doesn’t have reliable transportation to get here. We feel she was dishonest and it made us uncomfortable.