Am I Right or Wrong?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I still feel like she lied because she said she would be able to drive. Having an expired license means she can’t drive. We were too uncomfortable. It’s a lesson learned for her. She needs to be upfront from now on. She should have let us know prior to her offer that her license was expired.

Did you specifically ask her to drive or need to be able to drive? Otherwise I could understand her treating it as a bridge to cross once she gets there kind of thing and not worth mentioning until it’s an issue.

OP here. We specified that a car was needed for this position. She told me that she had a car and would be driving to/from work when she wasn’t walking. That implies she has a license. She should shave disclosed the expired license prior to our background check. We would have not considered her if we knew she didn’t have a valid license.

Wait, your story is changing. In your own OP you said you asked if she had a car OR a reliable form of transportation. You can’t go back and change the details now to make yourself look better. You indicated nowhere before this that a car was needed for the position.

OP here. We stated we wanted a nanny with a car and reliable transportation. She said she had a car to use. At the interview she said she was wi ugh on walking distance and would walk most days until it got cold. Her telling us she had a a reliable car implied she has a valid license. In our state ( not DC) you have to have a valid license. The pandemic hasn’t changed anything. Her not having a valid license men’s she doesn’t have reliable transportation to get here. We feel she was dishonest and it made us uncomfortable.

Well, your story still isn’t adding up and I don’t understand why a) her saying she will have a reliable form of transportation isn’t enough for you (she can walk a mile; I don’t know how much more reliable you can get than her own feet) and b) having a car and/or unexpired license matters if she’s not driving for the job. My employer doesn’t give a crap about how I get to work as long as I get there.

But, you seem to be convinced you are right despite everyone telling you that you sound like a fool...so, best of luck with your search! Sounds like it’s going awesome.

[Anonymous]

Op I think you did the right thing. You were fairly clear that you needed her to drive sometimes. She replied in that case she would borrow her sisters or someone’s car. If she were pulled over with no license there is the real possibility that the police would not let her continue to drive the rest of the way home. Then where would your kids be? On the side of the road until you picked them up. So she shaded the truth. I wouldn’t feel comfortable with that. Also your gut told you “this isn’t going to work....”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op I think you did the right thing. You were fairly clear that you needed her to drive sometimes. She replied in that case she would borrow her sisters or someone’s car. If she were pulled over with no license there is the real possibility that the police would not let her continue to drive the rest of the way home. Then where would your kids be? On the side of the road until you picked them up. So she shaded the truth. I wouldn’t feel comfortable with that. Also your gut told you “this isn’t going to work....”

OP never said she had a sister and she said she did not need the nanny to drive for the job.

[Anonymous]

Start looking into how you can be a SAHM.

[Anonymous]

I can see OP going through multiple nannies if she hasn’t already. She sounds completely unfair and making a big deal over something that is irrelevant.

[Anonymous]

This nanny dodged a bullet. Everyone except the sock-puppet (OP didn't mention the sister or that she was clear that driving was required for the job, so this is clearly OP adding details) thinks you were wrong. You didn't ask, "Do you have a valid DL?" She never said she did. She didn't lie. You overreacted. She didn't learn a lesson, except to be grateful that she's not working for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op I think you did the right thing. You were fairly clear that you needed her to drive sometimes. She replied in that case she would borrow her sisters or someone’s car. If she were pulled over with no license there is the real possibility that the police would not let her continue to drive the rest of the way home. Then where would your kids be? On the side of the road until you picked them up. So she shaded the truth. I wouldn’t feel comfortable with that. Also your gut told you “this isn’t going to work....”

OP never said she had a sister and she said she did not need the nanny to drive for the job.

Sock puppet! None of this was in the OP.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like a bunch of nannies responding, OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I still feel like she lied because she said she would be able to drive. Having an expired license means she can’t drive. We were too uncomfortable. It’s a lesson learned for her. She needs to be upfront from now on. She should have let us know prior to her offer that her license was expired.

Did you specifically ask her to drive or need to be able to drive? Otherwise I could understand her treating it as a bridge to cross once she gets there kind of thing and not worth mentioning until it’s an issue.

OP here. We specified that a car was needed for this position. She told me that she had a car and would be driving to/from work when she wasn’t walking. That implies she has a license. She should shave disclosed the expired license prior to our background check. We would have not considered her if we knew she didn’t have a valid license.

Wait, your story is changing. In your own OP you said you asked if she had a car OR a reliable form of transportation. You can’t go back and change the details now to make yourself look better. You indicated nowhere before this that a car was needed for the position.

OP here. We stated we wanted a nanny with a car and reliable transportation. She said she had a car to use. At the interview she said she was wi ugh on walking distance and would walk most days until it got cold. Her telling us she had a a reliable car implied she has a valid license. In our state ( not DC) you have to have a valid license. The pandemic hasn’t changed anything. Her not having a valid license men’s she doesn’t have reliable transportation to get here. We feel she was dishonest and it made us uncomfortable.

She lives a mile away. I would NEVER drive to work if I lived a mile away. I would walk. That seems pretty reliable. Your story has totally changed. If you never asked her if she had a valid DL, or stated that a valid DL was a requirement for the job, then she never lied to you. But it's better for her that she's not working for you, because I guarantee you will be a nightmare to work for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a bunch of nannies responding, OP.

Not a nanny. OP was wrong. The nanny never lied, and OP kept changing her story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Start looking into how you can be a SAHM.

Nanny.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a bunch of nannies responding, OP.

Not a nanny. OP was wrong. The nanny never lied, and OP kept changing her story.

Nanny said she could use a family car to get there if need be. If she doesn't have a license how can she drive? Legally?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op I think you did the right thing. You were fairly clear that you needed her to drive sometimes. She replied in that case she would borrow her sisters or someone’s car. If she were pulled over with no license there is the real possibility that the police would not let her continue to drive the rest of the way home. Then where would your kids be? On the side of the road until you picked them up. So she shaded the truth. I wouldn’t feel comfortable with that. Also your gut told you “this isn’t going to work....”

OP never said she had a sister and she said she did not need the nanny to drive for the job.

. The nanny said she was going to walk ( we are only about a mile away), get a ride, or drive her family members unused car.

Nanny said she would have access to drive a car if needed.

[Anonymous]

OP I wouldn’t like it. But something told you not to trust her. Trust your gut. A lot of nannies posting here. Keep looking.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a bunch of nannies responding, OP.

Not a nanny. OP was wrong. The nanny never lied, and OP kept changing her story.

Nanny said she could use a family car to get there if need be. If she doesn't have a license how can she drive? Legally?

She could have been planning to renew her license, so at some point in the near future she would be able to drive. Or a family member could drive her.

If you need a nanny who can drive for the job, you don't ask if she has reliable transportation to work, you ask if she has a valid DL and if she is willing to use her own car for work/willing to drive whatever your nanny car is. So she didn't need to drive for the job. So that's a lie that OP added later to make herself look better.