Am I Right or Wrong?

[Anonymous]

My husband and I extended an offer to a nanny. The offer was contingent upon references and a background check. We discussed via phone and in-person interview the need for the nanny to have her own car or a reliable form of transportation. The nanny said she was going to walk ( we are only about a mile away), get a ride, or drive her family members unused car.

We go to do a background check and she said she can’t complete the MVR check because her license is expired. She said it expired this year but didn’t get it renewed yet because of the pandemic. My husband and I now feel like she lied to us. She said she didn’t see a reason to disclose it because driving isn’t part of the job, and she had other forms of ways to get to our house without taking public transportation. She didn’t lie because she will be getting her license renewed soon. She said because it’s only a 6-8 week job, she didn’t understand the concern. She didn’t think we would run a background check with a MVR check because there is no driving required.

We feel uncomfortable and rescinded the offer. I felt like she should have disclosed it upfront and was dishonest. She feels she did nothing wrong. My friend ( who has a nanny) said I overreacted. Did I or was I justified in feeling she was being dishonest?

[Anonymous]

If you didn't state upfront that a driver's license was a job requirement, then yes, you overreacted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you didn't state upfront that a driver's license was a job requirement, then yes, you overreacted.

OP here. She told me that she would be driving sometimes and had a reliable vehicle to get to/from work.

[Anonymous]

You overreacted. She didn't tell you she had a DL, and driving isn't part of the job. You asked for a reliable form of transportation, which she has, because walking a mile is a completely reasonable plan. I wouldn't drive to work if I lived a mile away.

[Anonymous]

You are wrong. It wasn't a requirement of the position, and she told you upfront what the issue was.

My license expired during the pandemic and I still haven't been able to get it renewed. The DMV was closed for months and when it reopened it was appointment only and it is hard to get an appointment. I finally got one in August and then last minute had to cancel it because my in-laws had a health scare and we had to go help them. So it's still expired.

Technically DC doesn't even consider a license that expired during the pandemic to be expired, as long as the state of emergency is in effect (which is currently until Dec. 31st).

It's a pandemic. Some stuff is harder right now. It's not like she had a drug arrest on her record. You are being unreasonable.

[Anonymous]

You overreact. I'd hate to work for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you didn't state upfront that a driver's license was a job requirement, then yes, you overreacted.

OP here. She told me that she would be driving sometimes and had a reliable vehicle to get to/from work.

Well, if she gets her DL renewed, as she said she planned to, that will be true. And she could always walk to work. Unless you said a valid DL was required and she said she had one, she didn't lie.

[Anonymous]

You way overreacted. This is a TEMPORARY nanny job, she's not driving your kid around, and stated she has reliable transportation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you didn't state upfront that a driver's license was a job requirement, then yes, you overreacted.

OP here. She told me that she would be driving sometimes and had a reliable vehicle to get to/from work.

Right, but was that something you required? Does she need a license to do the job?

Otherwise, it sounds like she did think she would be driving "sometimes" when she renewed her license, and if she was, she'd have a reliable vehicle. And it sounds like, even without a license, she had a reliable way to get to and from work.

I don't think she lied. I think she omitted information, but likely not on purpose, and it was information that wasn't crucial for the position. So, I think you overreacted.

But, at the end of the day, it's a moot point. I'm not hiring her, you were, and now you're not.

[Anonymous]

You are unreasonable. She may not be able to afford a car as they are expensive. You are only offering a 2 month job. She can walk to work or you could be decent and pick her up/drive her home if the weather is bad. She's not driving your kids so no license needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you didn't state upfront that a driver's license was a job requirement, then yes, you overreacted.

OP here. She told me that she would be driving sometimes and had a reliable vehicle to get to/from work.

She can drive on her expired license if it expired during the pandemic, under the state of emergency. A lot of people are in this position right now.

[Anonymous]

Can somebody please tell this nanny she needs to find a better job with a boss that doesn’t overreact?

[Anonymous]

Yep. Overreaction.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I still feel like she lied because she said she would be able to drive. Having an expired license means she can’t drive. We were too uncomfortable. It’s a lesson learned for her. She needs to be upfront from now on. She should have let us know prior to her offer that her license was expired.

[Anonymous]

Temporary nanny job? And her drivers license is expired? DO you have reasons to believe she is a criminal?