Husband's gender identity and sexuality revelation

[Anonymous]

Bruce Jenner.

[Anonymous]

Something similar happened to a very good friend of mine about 10 years ago. Except after he good my friend, a few months later he announced he wanted to transition. So he became she, operations and all. The couple went to serious counseling and my friend decided to stay with her partner and stay married for her children (who also went into therapy). I was pretty shocked, for many reasons, especially if her husband was going to go completely through with transitioning (which he did), would he be tempted to have the full female experience and have sex with a man (which would mean going outside the marriage). My friend drew the line there and said if she stays the marriage stays monogamous, and so far (as far as she knows) it has. But I wouldn’t be surprised if that changes. It’s been insanely stressful on my friend and her kids.

[Anonymous]

I just couldn’t live in a sham marriage like this. Get out while you still have your dignity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Something similar happened to a very good friend of mine about 10 years ago. Except after he good my friend, a few months later he announced he wanted to transition. So he became she, operations and all. The couple went to serious counseling and my friend decided to stay with her partner and stay married for her children (who also went into therapy). I was pretty shocked, for many reasons, especially if her husband was going to go completely through with transitioning (which he did), would he be tempted to have the full female experience and have sex with a man (which would mean going outside the marriage). My friend drew the line there and said if she stays the marriage stays monogamous, and so far (as far as she knows) it has. But I wouldn’t be surprised if that changes. It’s been insanely stressful on my friend and her kids.

That sounds kind of unfair to both of them. Does your friend like having sex with women now? Or does it just mean it's an entirely sexless marriage?

[Anonymous]

I have a friend whose husband came out to her about a year and a half ago, as wanting to transition. They split up for a bit, then decided to give it a go - and they seem very happy now. Her husband is now her wife, they identify as a lesbian couple. It's working, as best I can tell.

I don't see them often enough to know the ins and outs of what decisions they've made - I don't know if they are monogamous, for example. I can just say that to me, it seems like they have navigated this together and are still navigating it together.

Good luck, OP. And it sounds like you are handling this in a really compassionate way.

[Anonymous]

OP here, I’m not a troll and unfortunately this is my reality. To answer one of the previous questions, he said he wears the underwear while he’s at work but changes once he’s home so I don’t notice. I work occasional night shifts so he washes everything while I’m gone. We do have two younger children and he is a wonderful father to them. It’s one thing to break up if we were just dating but we have built a life and family together now. Honestly if he was upfront with me about this while we were dating I don’t think I would have married him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I’m not a troll and unfortunately this is my reality. To answer one of the previous questions, he said he wears the underwear while he’s at work but changes once he’s home so I don’t notice. I work occasional night shifts so he washes everything while I’m gone. We do have two younger children and he is a wonderful father to them. It’s one thing to break up if we were just dating but we have built a life and family together now. Honestly if he was upfront with me about this while we were dating I don’t think I would have married him.

UMMMM..... The URNIALS IN HIS OFFICE?!?!!! Don't the other men see his lacy female underwear??

[Anonymous]

How large is the underwear? Maybe this guy is an amazing liar and the underwear is his female affair partner's.

[Anonymous]

I couldn’t do it. But that’s me. Take your time and see what you want. You don’t have decide today or this week or this month. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How large is the underwear? Maybe this guy is an amazing liar and the underwear is his female affair partner's.

or a serial killer and those are his victim's...

[Anonymous]

It wouldnt be for me. I'm certainly woke enough, I just want my own bedroom to be one really manly man and then me. (female) Im traditional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was recently organizing my closet and discovered a bag of women's underwear hidden near my husband's things that was not mine. When I confronted my husband about it he admitted the underwear was his. He then proceeded to lay this bombshell on me. He said he has always felt confused regarding his gender. Part of him feels like a woman and wearing women's underwear is a way for him to express that side of him. He told me he has no desire to transition to a woman now but he did have thoughts about it when he was younger but never would have actually gone through with it. To make the situation even more complicated, he said he is sexually attracted to both men and women but has never explored anything with a man before. His attraction leans more towards females but the idea of being with a guy sexually turns him on. He assured me he is very much in love with me and satisfied in the marriage and has no desire to act on anything. I don't know what to think and I've been in a state of shock ever since. I am grateful that he was at least honest with me but part of me is angry that he did not reveal any of this while we were dating or during our 8 years of marriage. I'm too embarrassed to tell my friends about this so I'm posting it here. WWYD?

What are the chances OP?! Pretty low you’d end up with a gender confused spouse who is bisexual. The chances of this being a troll post are infinitely higher, especially in this ever so enlightened age.

I agree it might be a troll, since OP said 'my closet' not 'our closet'

[Anonymous]

Everybody here is a liberal until it actually impacts them

[Anonymous]

What if things just continue as they are... he wear panties in the day underneath, and no one else was the wiser.
OP, are you cool with that?

[Anonymous]

Perhaps you would like a 3 way? Might spice things up a bit for both of you. You get twice the attention and he gets a man to play with. Give it a try.