“Can you serve me some?” How would you reply?
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Anonymous
Well done, pp! |
Anonymous
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OK, so I wouldn't actually do this, but wouldn't it be funny to escalate every time, with funny inflections and faces:
Uhhhhhhh..noooooooo (Valley Girl) Nope! (Cheerfully, like Olaf when asked if he'd ever had experience with heat) Whyever would you ask little ol me such a hateful thing? (Scarlett O'Hara) YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH! |
Anonymous
| I can’t believe posters haven’t suggested he be tested for ADHD. |
Anonymous
| Is it possible he wants to make sure he doesn't over serve himself (and not leave enough for others, etc?) |
Anonymous
OP here. Interesting. His executive functioning is high (was an executive, still meticulous about home maintenance and bills, etc.) Could it be anxiety? My non professional opinion is that he has untreated anxiety, but it didn’t occur to me that this was related. |
Anonymous
If he has any type of issues, he should ask his wife or his son for specific assistance. The world does not owe him a plate, and OP does not need to Donna Reed her way through life to please him. |
Anonymous
The first is what I would do every time. But we also make plates for older relatives (even 60 year olds) and when food is passed down the table I usually offer to serve all around me anyway. Just our family style. |
Anonymous
Why not try the nice way and just serve him. It won't kill you. |
Anonymous
Nor will it kill FIL to stop with this Men Should Be Served nonsense. |
Anonymous
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Ugh! Just spoon some f$cking potatoes on the guy’s plate and be done with it.
Am I an insane person? Because more and more I’m finding that you all make no sense to me whatsoever. This post and your follow up commentary has taken more time than an entire lifetime of plopping down an extra helping of food on a relative’s plate when he asks for it. |
Anonymous
“Oh sure! I’ll get it in just a second!” Then finish up what you’re doing, get the kids their food and forget. The key is to always say “Yes! absolutely, I’m happy to. Just a sec.” Then strategically forget. |
Anonymous
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1) Pretend you didn't hear him
2) Oh, you were talking to me? 3) In a minute.... (continue your activities) 4) (Say DH's name) - your Dad needs a hand |
Anonymous
I was wondering the same thing... |
Anonymous
| This would absolutely kill me as well, OP. I’d probably act like I didn’t hear it if I could... or say something like “I‘ll keep passing this around the table” or “I’m setting the kids up right now”. I could see my FIL trying to do this type of thing. Ugh |
Anonymous
| Ignore, ignore, ignore |