It blows my mind that there isn't more agitation about the school issue

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OP isn't even doing a pod. It sounds like she hired a private teacher to teach her own children.

Anyone who still has a cleaning lady or nanny coming to their house can STFU with their hypocrisy.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not "agitating" because 1) I think it's reasonable to close schools in a pandemic and 2) I'm waiting to see if they do a better job this fall.

LOL teacher unions are already campaigning to limit parents' demands on them and the hours they will spend on the computer.

Of course it won't be any better. They don't want to work any harder than they'd have to during a non-pandemic year. That's what this is all about.

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OP Parents like you are exhausting. Truly! Stop whining and deal with reality the best you can. I’m sure your children will not do well if you keep this attitude up.

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It blows my mind that the mods of this site have let yet another poster start a thread contains the same message as roughly fifty others

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Anonymous wrote:You have a mental problem, OP. You really do. Most others don't agree with you. Those making the decisions also don't agree with you. What psychological issue do you have that you just can't accept that?

So, you didn't actually answer her question, you just slung a bunch of judgement at her. Answer her questions.

Also, you should be careful making assumptions about "most others". Maybe in your circle this is true, but don't assume its universally true. I have no problem with the OP hiring a part time teacher to facilitate DL, even if its not something I choose to do for my kids.

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Like many parenting issues, do the best thing for your child and let people hum with indignation because of differing philosophies, political bent, or plain old jealousy. You owe your children, not them. Take care of your kids first and do something for others if you can. Ignore the noise.

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Anonymous wrote:Doesn't it seem to you as if most non-parents (including teachers) expect parents to just suck it up and accept that schools can't open and that our children's educations is going to be lacking this year?

It blows my mind that the same people who rant against reopening schools because of safety ALSO rant against people hiring tutors because of privilege.

What do they want parents to do?! This is not a rhetorical question, I really want to know the answer to this. Pretty much everyone agrees that distance learning in the spring was a disaster for most kids. It certainly wasn't great for my own kids. IF they learned anything (big if), it's because my husband and I took time out of our workdays to teach them.

I hired someone for $75/hr and made the mistake of mentioning this on an online parenting group that I'm in when a question was posted asking how people are planning to work and do online schooling at the same time. Most of these people have younger kids than I do and they expect their daycare centers to be open. They also think public schools should be closed because "there's no way public schools can social distance." Such hypocrites.

We make decent money and we are good at saving. We should sacrifice our kids' educations because...why exactly? Because other people don't make as much money? What are you supposed to use your savings for if not in an emergency?


They think I should give up my job and home school my kids full time (which is what distance learning requires with them - full time supervision to make sure they are actually working and not goofing off) because I'm a woman?

I just want to know what the naysayers want us parents to do. Can't open schools because of Covid, even in states where cases are low (like ours in NY). But you also can't allow parents to hire private teachers because not everyone can do it? Why don't these people care about private schools then? WTF

OP, are you a single mom? If not, you and your spouse have to make some changes. You have to downsize. One of you has to go part time. Something has to change. This is life. You have to adapt. If you don't think you should be the one to go part time, talk to you partner about it. Someone has to make a serious compromise to make this work. Sorry that it is happening this way, but it is. Just accept it and do what you have to do. Life isn't a perfect straight line to the top.

What in the hell is the PP talking about??? The OP has found a solution for her family for the upcoming Fall. Why must she do it YOUR way PP? Who appointed you the arbiter of how to adapt to the issue of no in person school. Screw you PP - how dare you tell someone they have to quit their job because that is the only right way to address the issue.

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People aren't agitating because most people do not care about the education of kids at all. It's fairly obvious the years of upcoming DL (and do not fool yourselves into thinking it will be less than that) will have a devastating and wildly disparate educational impact. But the sad reality is that most people in this country do not care, regardless of whether they have kids or not.

If we cared about the education of children, reopening schools would be prioritized over bars and restaurants. People wouldn't go to their beach vacations and be advocating for DL at the same time.

But we don't care about education. So it's horrifically bad DL for years. Most kids will be permanently behind educationally.

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It blows my mind that people are so angry at schools / teacher / administrators and not directing their ire at our government who has failed us completely AT EVERY TURN.

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Anonymous wrote:OP Parents like you are exhausting. Truly! Stop whining and deal with reality the best you can. I’m sure your children will not do well if you keep this attitude up.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:People aren't agitating because most people do not care about the education of kids at all. It's fairly obvious the years of upcoming DL (and do not fool yourselves into thinking it will be less than that) will have a devastating and wildly disparate educational impact. But the sad reality is that most people in this country do not care, regardless of whether they have kids or not.

If we cared about the education of children, reopening schools would be prioritized over bars and restaurants. People wouldn't go to their beach vacations and be advocating for DL at the same time.

But we don't care about education. So it's horrifically bad DL for years. Most kids will be permanently behind educationally.

You lost all credibility with “years.”

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Anonymous wrote:You have a mental problem, OP. You really do. Most others don't agree with you. Those making the decisions also don't agree with you. What psychological issue do you have that you just can't accept that?

So, you didn't actually answer her question, you just slung a bunch of judgement at her. Answer her questions.

Also, you should be careful making assumptions about "most others". Maybe in your circle this is true, but don't assume its universally true. I have no problem with the OP hiring a part time teacher to facilitate DL, even if its not something I choose to do for my kids.

I did answer here question in another post. She needs to go part time, or her partner needs to go part time, or both. Families have been making adjustments to deal with hardship for forever. It's life. Either you have what it takes to weather the storm or you don't. I can't imagine with all that whining and complaining that OP and her ilk on DCUM are winners. They made the most of the economy when it was good, and now they don't have what it takes to make it during a hard time. Boo hoo.

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Anonymous wrote:It blows my mind that the mods of this site have let yet another poster start a thread contains the same message as roughly fifty others

Have you reported it? If not, and it affects you tot he point that your mind is being blown, you should. Jeff doesn't automatically police the starting of threads or read everything here, but he's good about responding to reports.

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Anonymous wrote:People aren't agitating because most people do not care about the education of kids at all. It's fairly obvious the years of upcoming DL (and do not fool yourselves into thinking it will be less than that) will have a devastating and wildly disparate educational impact. But the sad reality is that most people in this country do not care, regardless of whether they have kids or not.

If we cared about the education of children, reopening schools would be prioritized over bars and restaurants. People wouldn't go to their beach vacations and be advocating for DL at the same time.

But we don't care about education. So it's horrifically bad DL for years. Most kids will be permanently behind educationally.

You lost all credibility with “years.”

Nope. It is realistic and you are unaware of vaccine logistics, rates of vaccine, and development if you think otherwise.

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Anonymous wrote:Like many parenting issues, do the best thing for your child and let people hum with indignation because of differing philosophies, political bent, or plain old jealousy. You owe your children, not them. Take care of your kids first and do something for others if you can. Ignore the noise.

OP here. I am. But I don't enjoy being attacked for it for being overly "privileged" and supposedly unconcerned about fairness and equity. I should sacrifice my children to show that I care about others? No.

I wish public schools could open. I would 100% send my own children.

I don't blame teachers for being scared but I do blame the government. Unfortunately, nothing will change there until January so what is the point of even mentioning the glaringly obvious.