Relative misrepresented that they bought a house

[Anonymous]

dont ask questions you dont want to know the answers to...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are a jerk OP. You're judging your family member because they are excited about their first home. They are very likely partnering with their SO to manage the mortgage payments and upkeep. It may not be in their name for a variety of reasons, so MYOB. Do you not own your own home yet, and are jealous? By searching the public record, you went in with horrible intentions and negativity. How miserable must you be?

This! I own my home solely and my long-term SO is not on the deed for a few reasons, but he was there every step of the way, has put even more work into the house than I have by far, and he pays half the mortgage. Just because he didn’t technically “buy” it doesn’t mean he can’t be proud of it. It’s very much our house.

But he doesn't own it. If you two split up tomorrow would you sell the house and give him half the money?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree that this is not your information to share. I also think that you were nosy for snooping around in their personal business like that.

I would wonder about a person who purposely misled others into believing that they actually owned a property that they did not own, though. Especially, if they are not even married to their SO. Does the person understand that their name is not on the title and that they have no legal claim to the property? If not, are they being duped into paying the mortgage on a property that they do not own and have no legal claim to. That, right there, would be more of a worry to me than if they had misrepresented their home purchase in order to get housewarming gifts or even just to impress others.

It would be like me inviting family members to a college graduation party....even though I hadn't actually graduated from college or telling people that I had gotten married even if I hadn't really done so.

I really don't think it's like that at all. I've gotten housewarming presents for friends who moved into rentals even though they don't have a mortgage. I'm not a shitburger.

[Anonymous]

What the hell?

You jealous OP?

[Anonymous]

OP, either you are a troll or really, really dumb.

This is bizarre. OP, yes this person bought the house as assets are combined in a partnership or marriage.

The reason to be on the title only may be for lots of reasons, most of them having to do with getting the best interest rate from lenders. No reason to judge at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree that this is not your information to share. I also think that you were nosy for snooping around in their personal business like that.

I would wonder about a person who purposely misled others into believing that they actually owned a property that they did not own, though. Especially, if they are not even married to their SO. Does the person understand that their name is not on the title and that they have no legal claim to the property? If not, are they being duped into paying the mortgage on a property that they do not own and have no legal claim to. That, right there, would be more of a worry to me than if they had misrepresented their home purchase in order to get housewarming gifts or even just to impress others.

It would be like me inviting family members to a college graduation party....even though I hadn't actually graduated from college or telling people that I had gotten married even if I hadn't really done so.

It would be misleading if the person claimed to own it, and was really renting. This isn't that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Agree that this is not your information to share. I also think that you were nosy for snooping around in their personal business like that.

I would wonder about a person who purposely misled others into believing that they actually owned a property that they did not own, though. Especially, if they are not even married to their SO. Does the person understand that their name is not on the title and that they have no legal claim to the property? If not, are they being duped into paying the mortgage on a property that they do not own and have no legal claim to. That, right there, would be more of a worry to me than if they had misrepresented their home purchase in order to get housewarming gifts or even just to impress others.

It would be like me inviting family members to a college graduation party....even though I hadn't actually graduated from college or telling people that I had gotten married even if I hadn't really done so.

I really don't think it's like that at all. I've gotten housewarming presents for friends who moved into rentals even though they don't have a mortgage. I'm not a shitburger.

Did they tell you that they had bought their rental, though? If a friend told me "Yay! I bought a house!" I would think that they had actually bought a house.

If their boyfriend graduates from college that doesn't mean that my that my friend also graduated from college. She might very well benefit from her boyfriend graduating from college in all sorts of indirect ways but the bottom line is that he is the one who earned that degree. It doesn't belong to her.

[Anonymous]

You sound really creepy-stalker OP and I stay away from people like you who are into "finding out" things. And I ain't got nothing to hide, either -- it's just an incredibly unattractive personality trait.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Agree that this is not your information to share. I also think that you were nosy for snooping around in their personal business like that.

I would wonder about a person who purposely misled others into believing that they actually owned a property that they did not own, though. Especially, if they are not even married to their SO. Does the person understand that their name is not on the title and that they have no legal claim to the property? If not, are they being duped into paying the mortgage on a property that they do not own and have no legal claim to. That, right there, would be more of a worry to me than if they had misrepresented their home purchase in order to get housewarming gifts or even just to impress others.

It would be like me inviting family members to a college graduation party....even though I hadn't actually graduated from college or telling people that I had gotten married even if I hadn't really done so.

It would be misleading if the person claimed to own it, and was really renting. This isn't that.

I mean it's misleading because they may be going in for half of the mortgage but they still do not actually own the property. "My boyfriend let's me live in his house in exchange for me paying half of the mortgage" is not the same thing as "I own this property". If my friend was also putting her own money into fixing up/maintaining a property that she had no ownership rights to then I would be a bit concerned for her. Acting "like" and owner doesn't make you an owner.

[Anonymous]

OP, you sound like someone who is on mugshots.com daily to see which high school friends and family were locked up in jail the prior night.

[Anonymous]

People in the family must have made that relative feel really bad about themselves.

I would assume relative is in some way taking care of the house or helping SO with some expenses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree that this is not your information to share. I also think that you were nosy for snooping around in their personal business like that.

I would wonder about a person who purposely misled others into believing that they actually owned a property that they did not own, though. Especially, if they are not even married to their SO. Does the person understand that their name is not on the title and that they have no legal claim to the property? If not, are they being duped into paying the mortgage on a property that they do not own and have no legal claim to. That, right there, would be more of a worry to me than if they had misrepresented their home purchase in order to get housewarming gifts or even just to impress others.

It would be like me inviting family members to a college graduation party....even though I hadn't actually graduated from college or telling people that I had gotten married even if I hadn't really done so.

It would be misleading if the person claimed to own it, and was really renting. This isn't that.

I mean it's misleading because they may be going in for half of the mortgage but they still do not actually own the property. "My boyfriend let's me live in his house in exchange for me paying half of the mortgage" is not the same thing as "I own this property". If my friend was also putting her own money into fixing up/maintaining a property that she had no ownership rights to then I would be a bit concerned for her. Acting "like" and owner doesn't make you an owner.

It seems like a REALLY weird line to draw with a friend. I don't GAF what their personal arrangements are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree that this is not your information to share. I also think that you were nosy for snooping around in their personal business like that.

I would wonder about a person who purposely misled others into believing that they actually owned a property that they did not own, though. Especially, if they are not even married to their SO. Does the person understand that their name is not on the title and that they have no legal claim to the property? If not, are they being duped into paying the mortgage on a property that they do not own and have no legal claim to. That, right there, would be more of a worry to me than if they had misrepresented their home purchase in order to get housewarming gifts or even just to impress others.

It would be like me inviting family members to a college graduation party....even though I hadn't actually graduated from college or telling people that I had gotten married even if I hadn't really done so.

It would be misleading if the person claimed to own it, and was really renting. This isn't that.

I mean it's misleading because they may be going in for half of the mortgage but they still do not actually own the property. "My boyfriend let's me live in his house in exchange for me paying half of the mortgage" is not the same thing as "I own this property". If my friend was also putting her own money into fixing up/maintaining a property that she had no ownership rights to then I would be a bit concerned for her. Acting "like" and owner doesn't make you an owner.

It seems like a REALLY weird line to draw with a friend. I don't GAF what their personal arrangements are.

Why lie about something that other people, though? Why purposely tell your family/friends that you bought a house when you did not. That would be like your boyfriend allowing you to drive one of his cars and you saying "Look everyone! I bought a car!!" Why go out of your way to present yourself in a way that is not true? I think it's the deliberate deception that is concerning.

Back when dh and I were living together people often assumed that we were a married couple. We weren't intentionally telling people that we were married and if someone asked if we were married or mentioned that they thought that we were married we would quickly set the record straight.

Why pretend to be something your not? I just don't understand the reasoning I guess.

[Anonymous]

I agree op should keep the info private but everyone I know looks up the sale price as houses sell in the neighborhood. There are people I know who are stunned that this is public info. Op, I am like you though. I wanna know.

[Anonymous]

OP I think this says more about you than anyone else. And it’s nothing good.