I have ONE standard for men. Am I asking too much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your problem is that you waited until your 30’s. All the normal people are already in serious relationships/engaged/married. What’s left are the guys you describe. The basement dwellers nobody else wanted.

You missed the boat in your 20’s, now you’re stuck waiting the divorces start after age 40 or so. That’s when the pressure of work and young kids break a lot of marriages.

Good luck!

This. It sucks but it’s true. The best guys are snatched up by mid-twenties

[Anonymous]

Is a PlayStation okay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your problem is that you waited until your 30’s. All the normal people are already in serious relationships/engaged/married. What’s left are the guys you describe. The basement dwellers nobody else wanted.

You missed the boat in your 20’s, now you’re stuck waiting the divorces start after age 40 or so. That’s when the pressure of work and young kids break a lot of marriages.

Good luck!

This. It sucks but it’s true. The best guys are snatched up by mid-twenties

This. I even found the options to be dwindling in my late twenties! And the best I could find then drives me crazy every day now...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One standard: be an ADULT.

This means:

Have and keep a job. It doesn’t matter what it is. Blue collar, white collar, self employed. Just have a job.

Pay your own bills. You don’t need to pay mine, just yours.

Take some pride in your home residence. It doesn’t have to be a luxury condo or house. Even if you live with roommates to save money. Make your bed, do your dishes, and please don’t live in a basement with a room that only has a mattress on the floor, dirty clothes, an Xbox, and Dorito crumbs everywhere.

Take some pride in your appearance. It matters less to me if you are overweight, shorter than average, or how chiseled your bone structure is. Have good hygiene and don’t dress like a slob. I don’t care what you wear at home or just going about, but please iron a fresh shirt for our first date.

Treat others like adults. Take responsibility for your actions and respect people’s time and energy.

WHY is it that this is so hard to find? It seemed like all of the men around 30ish who aren’t already snatched up aren’t ADULTS. WHY does everyone who asks me out on a date a basement dwelling gamer??

I am giving this list to my kids. Thank you!!

I hope you give it to your boys AND girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Um...that's like 100 standards.

+1. OP doesn’t know how to count.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have ONE standard for women. That they not use "unpack" unless they are referring to a box or suitcase.

Amen

[Anonymous]

My DH is 80% of your “one” standard. Is he perfect? No. But guess what? Neither am I. OP please share what makes you such a prize!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH is 80% of your “one” standard. Is he perfect? No. But guess what? Neither am I. OP please share what makes you such a prize!

I don't think what OP stated is unreasonable at all. Op stated she wasn't expecting "perfection" - she's ok with overweight, just be clean, especially on a first date. Why wouldn't anyone not put in their best effort on a first, second or even third date? That's just having low standards. I can't imagine how such a person would be after marriage and kids. Gross.

-married to a guy who checked off all the boxes, and I found him at 30, he was mid 30s.

I'm sorry you are having such a tough time, OP. My married women friends and I have stated many times that we can't imagine having to go back out in the dating world.

[Anonymous]

At a certain age OP, all these basic low standards are hard to find.

I think all are reasonable, except for the last one. Things happen, and if they meet all other standards, I'd let that last one slide once.

My 50s single friend is down to aiming for no criminal record and a job at this point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At a certain age OP, all these basic low standards are hard to find.

I think all are reasonable, except for the last one. Things happen, and if they meet all other standards, I'd let that last one slide once.

My 50s single friend is down to aiming for no criminal record and a job at this point.

The one about treating people well? As in, the most important quality in a human?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One standard: be an ADULT.

This means:

Have and keep a job. It doesn’t matter what it is. Blue collar, white collar, self employed. Just have a job.

Pay your own bills. You don’t need to pay mine, just yours.

Take some pride in your home residence. It doesn’t have to be a luxury condo or house. Even if you live with roommates to save money. Make your bed, do your dishes, and please don’t live in a basement with a room that only has a mattress on the floor, dirty clothes, an Xbox, and Dorito crumbs everywhere.

Take some pride in your appearance. It matters less to me if you are overweight, shorter than average, or how chiseled your bone structure is. Have good hygiene and don’t dress like a slob. I don’t care what you wear at home or just going about, but please iron a fresh shirt for our first date.

Treat others like adults. Take responsibility for your actions and respect people’s time and energy.

WHY is it that this is so hard to find? It seemed like all of the men around 30ish who aren’t already snatched up aren’t ADULTS. WHY does everyone who asks me out on a date a basement dwelling gamer??

I am giving this list to my kids. Thank you!!

I hope you give it to your boys AND girls.

And when they are of legal age both the boys and girls can date OP.

[Anonymous]

I can’t wait for the one standard for women!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One standard: be an ADULT.

This means:

Have and keep a job. It doesn’t matter what it is. Blue collar, white collar, self employed. Just have a job.

Pay your own bills. You don’t need to pay mine, just yours.

Take some pride in your home residence. It doesn’t have to be a luxury condo or house. Even if you live with roommates to save money. Make your bed, do your dishes, and please don’t live in a basement with a room that only has a mattress on the floor, dirty clothes, an Xbox, and Dorito crumbs everywhere.

Take some pride in your appearance. It matters less to me if you are overweight, shorter than average, or how chiseled your bone structure is. Have good hygiene and don’t dress like a slob. I don’t care what you wear at home or just going about, but please iron a fresh shirt for our first date.

Treat others like adults. Take responsibility for your actions and respect people’s time and energy.

WHY is it that this is so hard to find? It seemed like all of the men around 30ish who aren’t already snatched up aren’t ADULTS. WHY does everyone who asks me out on a date a basement dwelling gamer??

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Dang, you ask a lot

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t wait for the one standard for women!

Hehe. The standard for women is easy. Be a WOMAN: hot, affectionate, sane, nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t wait for the one standard for women!

Hehe. The standard for women is easy. Be a WOMAN: hot, affectionate, sane, nice.

Not fat, no drama, love sex - not necessarily in that order.