Anybody said I love you very early...what happened after

[Anonymous]

We got married. He turned out to be a narcissist.

[Anonymous]

He said it early. During early love making; together almost a year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Within a week. ugh. What can i say? i was young. he said "thank you" and then sat on it and told me the next day.

We're almost to 20 years and have 6 kids and pretty dang happy.

That’s awesome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Three weeks in. I don't regret it. I knew I wouldn't hear it back and could possibly end everything. He feels like HOME. This was done over text. His response was: It's nice to be loved. Hold on to that feeling. I said: you hold on and he said he will. I asked if everything I felt was only on my side and he said no. He asked me to call him the next day (today) and said Nite Sweetie. Anybody ever done this and what happened? I am relieved I got this out of the way.

What's the saying - you'll regret the things you didn't do? That's me when it comes to this. She got away, and I never said it. Not that it would have changed anything, but I would have wanted her to know.

That being said, I would probably just let it be, and let him process it. If you press him on it, or force him to talk about it, he may feel trapped.

I'm happy for you, OP. Life is short.

[Anonymous]

He told me he loved me very early -- within a few weeks. Turned out to be love-bombing. Very emotionally manipulative relationship.

Personally, your texts sound emotionally manipulative to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Three weeks in. I don't regret it. I knew I wouldn't hear it back and could possibly end everything. He feels like HOME. This was done over text. His response was: It's nice to be loved. Hold on to that feeling. I said: you hold on and he said he will. I asked if everything I felt was only on my side and he said no. He asked me to call him the next day (today) and said Nite Sweetie. Anybody ever done this and what happened? I am relieved I got this out of the way.

What's the saying - you'll regret the things you didn't do? That's me when it comes to this. She got away, and I never said it. Not that it would have changed anything, but I would have wanted her to know.

That being said, I would probably just let it be, and let him process it. If you press him on it, or force him to talk about it, he may feel trapped.

I'm happy for you, OP. Life is short.

Thank you. Will let it be. He is a very kind person. Patient. Wise. Understanding. Fearless. I believe things will continue. And I believe I did the right thing. I am sure he already knew anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He told me he loved me very early -- within a few weeks. Turned out to be love-bombing. Very emotionally manipulative relationship.

Personally, your texts sound emotionally manipulative to me.

Understand where you are coming from. I know about love bombing all too well. So far, seen many success stories on the replies. But I understand your concern.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We got married. He turned out to be a narcissist.

Same here. Only mine was borderline. But I have learned my lesson about guys who say I love you super soon. Might be different when women do it.

[Anonymous]

I'd be pissed if my girlfriend first told me she loved me via text.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He told me he loved me very early -- within a few weeks. Turned out to be love-bombing. Very emotionally manipulative relationship.

Personally, your texts sound emotionally manipulative to me.

Understand where you are coming from. I know about love bombing all too well. So far, seen many success stories on the replies. But I understand your concern.

You have to know that saying your first I love you via txt is just pathetic, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He told me he loved me very early -- within a few weeks. Turned out to be love-bombing. Very emotionally manipulative relationship.

Personally, your texts sound emotionally manipulative to me.

Understand where you are coming from. I know about love bombing all too well. So far, seen many success stories on the replies. But I understand your concern.

You have to know that saying your first I love you via txt is just pathetic, right?

Time will tell. I don't feel pathetic. I know the dynamics. It was the right thing at the right time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be pissed if my girlfriend first told me she loved me via text.

Pissed? What’s wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Over TEXT? I... I just... I can't even with that mess. OVER TEXT?!!! What is WRONG with people?

x a million

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Three weeks in. I don't regret it. I knew I wouldn't hear it back and could possibly end everything. He feels like HOME. This was done over text. His response was: It's nice to be loved. Hold on to that feeling. I said: you hold on and he said he will. I asked if everything I felt was only on my side and he said no. He asked me to call him the next day (today) and said Nite Sweetie. Anybody ever done this and what happened? I am relieved I got this out of the way.

Did you know him from before or you guys just met?
I think it's slightly different is you knew him from before. You had a crush on him and lalala. And now you guys are trying to see what happens.

If you just met him… DANG! Three weeks?
Anyhow, I wish you guys the best!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Within a week. ugh. What can i say? i was young. he said "thank you" and then sat on it and told me the next day.

We're almost to 20 years and have 6 kids and pretty dang happy.

Mine said “thank you” too!