Anybody said I love you very early...what happened after
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Anonymous
| Three weeks in. I don't regret it. I knew I wouldn't hear it back and could possibly end everything. He feels like HOME. This was done over text. His response was: It's nice to be loved. Hold on to that feeling. I said: you hold on and he said he will. I asked if everything I felt was only on my side and he said no. He asked me to call him the next day (today) and said Nite Sweetie. Anybody ever done this and what happened? I am relieved I got this out of the way. |
Anonymous
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I never said it early in relationships. I sometimes thought it early and would just sit on it. Because you don't REALLY love this person. You love how you feel when you're with this person. As a recipient of an early I love you, it was always a tiny bit of a red flag to me. That the other person was looking for something that wasn't even necessarily about me. Because again, a few weeks in you don't know each other. Good luck. |
Anonymous
| We got married. |
Anonymous
^eventually. Two years later. |
Anonymous
Thanks for your kind response. I understand all of it. |
Anonymous
How early was the I love you and what was the response? |
Anonymous
| I said it at like 4 months. Took DH like another year and a half to say it. We're married, super happily. |
Anonymous
| Said it three weeks in. Looking back— it was pure lust/chemicals but it felt so right. Dated 18 months, got engaged. Married now for 17 years. |
Anonymous
What was initial reaction? |
Anonymous
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Within two months when we were in college.
Still together in our late 30s. -dh |
Anonymous
| We got married, as well. Although, it was awkward after I said it (four months after we started dating). |
Anonymous
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It's a gamble.
You love the idea of him at this point but mostly what you feel is infatuation and chemistry. It can come across as a red flag for sure or if the other person feels kind of the same way and seems similar potential, you can ride it out. Don't say it again soon. |
Anonymous
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Within a week. ugh. What can i say? i was young. he said "thank you" and then sat on it and told me the next day.
We're almost to 20 years and have 6 kids and pretty dang happy. |
Anonymous
| We said it three weeks in, but it was mutual. Got married a year later. Been happily married 8 years now with kids. Although, we said it in person. I would just wait now and not bring it up again until he makes the next move. |
Anonymous
| Over TEXT? I... I just... I can't even with that mess. OVER TEXT?!!! What is WRONG with people? |