DH texting much younger woman on Signal, should I worry?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Almost everyone I know uses Signal as the default messaging app. It's not crazy to want to keep apple and facebook and at&t from spying on you. Regular SMS is transmitted basically in plain text.

Zero people I know use this. Zero. Unless I don't know about it because they are having an affair.

[Anonymous]

OP, is your DH usually this tech savvy? If not, then she led him to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Almost everyone I know uses Signal as the default messaging app. It's not crazy to want to keep apple and facebook and at&t from spying on you. Regular SMS is transmitted basically in plain text.

I'd honestly never head of Signal until this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's definitely after your mid-60's DH. Is he balding and with a nice paunch and man-boobs? I hear that turns women in their 30s on.

Signal is popular in Eastern Europe since they get kind of concerned about spying and so on.

You forgot the saggy balls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Almost everyone I know uses Signal as the default messaging app. It's not crazy to want to keep apple and facebook and at&t from spying on you. Regular SMS is transmitted basically in plain text.

OMG, another dim one. If he uses the stock phone app for all his normal texts, but uses Signal just for her, something is very fishy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's definitely after your mid-60's DH. Is he balding and with a nice paunch and man-boobs? I hear that turns women in their 30s on.

Signal is popular in Eastern Europe since they get kind of concerned about spying and so on.

You know nothing about dating and mating in other cultures. I do. I lived there for five years. OP has good reason to worry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Almost everyone I know uses Signal as the default messaging app. It's not crazy to want to keep apple and facebook and at&t from spying on you. Regular SMS is transmitted basically in plain text.

I'd honestly never head of Signal until this thread.

I'm going to install it now. Thanks for the tip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, why is the signal app bad? I use that app for texting my sister overseas as it is free and I can also use it to video chat. My husband did recommend it. Is it a “cheater” app for some reason?

It’s encrypted end to end and carriers can’t access. It’s hard to even for feds to read.

My husband works for NASA and he’s required to use it.

[Anonymous]

Make sure you change passwords on your bank accounts online.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: *cheaters taking notes*

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Almost everyone I know uses Signal as the default messaging app. It's not crazy to want to keep apple and facebook and at&t from spying on you. Regular SMS is transmitted basically in plain text.

Oh, please, are you an old man? Its not normal for a 65 year old man to download Signal and use it just to communicate with one person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I remember your thread, and I think I replied on it.

My response is the same. I spent a number of years in Eastern Europe, and I am familiar with the cultural attitudes toward young women/older men AND I watched a number of expat marriages implode due to middle aged (or older) men having affairs with young women who threw themselves at them.

You have good reason to worry. I would never, ever have just let this go, and I'm not surprised it is progressing in this way.

Your DH's age means nothing in this situation.

Is it a cultural thing that young Eastern european women are into old men?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make sure you change passwords on your bank accounts online.

agree 100%.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Almost everyone I know uses Signal as the default messaging app. It's not crazy to want to keep apple and facebook and at&t from spying on you. Regular SMS is transmitted basically in plain text.

Oh, please, are you an old man? Its not normal for a 65 year old man to download Signal and use it just to communicate with one person.

It’s possible that this is an app that the woman uses to communicate with her friends and family overseas, and asked OP’s DH to communicate with her that way, cheating or not. Maybe that’s the only way that she texts. If I were OP, though, I would be obsessively finding a way to access his account to see if he is hiding something.

[Anonymous]

OP ask him! Then I would tell him she can call you if she needs something. Then I'd go right over there, tell her to stop contacting your husband. If she wants to chat or needs something she can ask you.