Nonexistent SIL/Aunt - am I being petty?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't share info about my kids online. We do have a family group, and I share info there. SIL is in the group and has always been up and down. The last few years, she has had a nonexistent relationship with us or the kids. The kids barely know who she is. I would like to not share pictures, updates, etc about my kids with her because I don't share that with other random people (or even not random people). The group consists only of grandparents and aunts and uncles who really are interested in getting daily/weekly updates.

Should I just let this go and continue to share? Removing her will cause a lot of drama, and DH's parents will be sad. However, I feel like it's an invasion of my kids' privacy and she doesn't really deserve this level of detail. Tell me I'm being petty and should let this go. I guess at the heart of it, I'm also hurt that she takes no time to get to know the kids. They have no role in whatever anger she has toward my in-laws (which is the reason for the nonexistent relationship).

Your feelings are hurt so you are retaliating. Not a good look, OP.

[Anonymous]

Either stop posting your kids’ pics to the group or let it go. Focus on the important people and things in your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Life is good and peaceful, but that is not enough for me. How can I get into fights with the family and make a mess of things? Only then will I be truly happy.

Nailed it. If that's the road you choose OP, then at least own it.

+2

[Anonymous]

It’s so very cute where OP feels like some FB group designation will keep her pictures private.

Don’t post ANYTHING anywhere, don’t even email it, if you aren’t cool with it on a billboard in Times Square

As for your Sil, you are defiantly ridiculous

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:See this is why shit gets nasty. Someone is not extremely enthusiastic about your kids life. So what. Describes about 78 percent of my own family. You KNOW removing her from said group will do harm but you still want to do it? FFS people! Talk about stiring the pot. And I highly doubt pictures of lil Timmys scout promotion will ever be used against them by sil and greatly invade their privacy.

+1 Most of these moms are so upset that their kids are not the center of everybody in their family's lives that they pull petty crap like this in the name of "protecting" their children. Get over yourself, OP. This is much ado about nothing.

+1 Rather than taking it personally, think that maybe she isn't in to social media.

This completely doesn't matter and you are being petty.

[Anonymous]

I’m a SIL who doesn’t have much to do with my brother or his wife anymore because they’re both crazy. We are on a group thread. I don’t even look at the pictures so I’m sure you’re safe honey. We don’t care.

[Anonymous]

Seems doubtful that SIL is paying attention the FB group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s so very cute where OP feels like some FB group designation will keep her pictures private.

Don’t post ANYTHING anywhere, don’t even email it, if you aren’t cool with it on a billboard in Times Square

As for your Sil, you are defiantly ridiculous

OP here. It's not an FB group. It's WhatsApp. I don't care that she doesn't respond etc. I just don't really see why she should know so many details about them when I don't share that with others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why social media suck.

Yes, OP, you're stirring the pot. The life of a drama queen is not a happy one.

This is not a social media problem. This is an OP problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s so very cute where OP feels like some FB group designation will keep her pictures private.

Don’t post ANYTHING anywhere, don’t even email it, if you aren’t cool with it on a billboard in Times Square

As for your Sil, you are defiantly ridiculous

OP here. It's not an FB group. It's WhatsApp. I don't care that she doesn't respond etc. I just don't really see why she should know so many details about them when I don't share that with others.

I have a crazy idea. Why not tell her that you love her and wish she had a closer relationship with your kids and ask how you can help make that happen.

[Anonymous]

Oh HELL YES, you’re being petty!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s so very cute where OP feels like some FB group designation will keep her pictures private.

Don’t post ANYTHING anywhere, don’t even email it, if you aren’t cool with it on a billboard in Times Square

As for your Sil, you are defiantly ridiculous

OP here. It's not an FB group. It's WhatsApp. I don't care that she doesn't respond etc. I just don't really see why she should know so many details about them when I don't share that with others.

You want to degrade her position from family member to random stranger and nobody here is buying it. Life doesn't work that way. If you have a relative who is a murderer or pedophile then maybe you would have a point but in this case you are just being bitchy.

[Anonymous]

Removing her from the group would purposely cruel.

You are a witch

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s so very cute where OP feels like some FB group designation will keep her pictures private.

Don’t post ANYTHING anywhere, don’t even email it, if you aren’t cool with it on a billboard in Times Square

As for your Sil, you are defiantly ridiculous

OP here. It's not an FB group. It's WhatsApp. I don't care that she doesn't respond etc. I just don't really see why she should know so many details about them when I don't share that with others.

How many times you respond to her posts and call her? And your dh, her brother?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s so very cute where OP feels like some FB group designation will keep her pictures private.

Don’t post ANYTHING anywhere, don’t even email it, if you aren’t cool with it on a billboard in Times Square

As for your Sil, you are defiantly ridiculous

OP here. It's not an FB group. It's WhatsApp. I don't care that she doesn't respond etc. I just don't really see why she should know so many details about them when I don't share that with others.

Oh, OP. It's not her--it's you.

And you clearly care very much that she doesn't respond.

But it seems obvious that you don't make an effort to reach out and connect to her.

What on earth do you think she's going to do with photos of your kids? Do you seriously think she's going to send it to pedos or something? Relegating your SIL to stranger status seems like a very deliberate and very petty thing to do.