Nonexistent SIL/Aunt - am I being petty?

[Anonymous]

I don’t think you are being petty, just delusional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The group consists only of grandparents and aunts and uncles who really are interested in getting daily/weekly updates.

It's sweet that you think that. Just send the grandparents some pics or stories from time to time, and gradually slow down with the daily updates on the other platform. You don't really think all your other siblings are interested in your daily newsletter, do you?

[Anonymous]

Grow the eff up!
Period. Point Blank. End of Story

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s so very cute where OP feels like some FB group designation will keep her pictures private.

Don’t post ANYTHING anywhere, don’t even email it, if you aren’t cool with it on a billboard in Times Square

As for your Sil, you are defiantly ridiculous

OP here. It's not an FB group. It's WhatsApp. I don't care that she doesn't respond etc. I just don't really see why she should know so many details about them when I don't share that with others.

Lady, the level of crazy you are demonstrating is phenomenal.
Trust and believe your damn husband is not into your kids on the level your nutty ass is looking for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't share info about my kids online. We do have a family group, and I share info there. SIL is in the group and has always been up and down. The last few years, she has had a nonexistent relationship with us or the kids. The kids barely know who she is. I would like to not share pictures, updates, etc about my kids with her because I don't share that with other random people (or even not random people). The group consists only of grandparents and aunts and uncles who really are interested in getting daily/weekly updates.

Should I just let this go and continue to share? Removing her will cause a lot of drama, and DH's parents will be sad. However, I feel like it's an invasion of my kids' privacy and she doesn't really deserve this level of detail. Tell me I'm being petty and should let this go. I guess at the heart of it, I'm also hurt that she takes no time to get to know the kids. They have no role in whatever anger she has toward my in-laws (which is the reason for the nonexistent relationship).

Beyonce is that you?
If not, NO ONE GIVES A DAMN ABOUT YOUR KIDS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s so very cute where OP feels like some FB group designation will keep her pictures private.

Don’t post ANYTHING anywhere, don’t even email it, if you aren’t cool with it on a billboard in Times Square

As for your Sil, you are defiantly ridiculous

OP here. It's not an FB group. It's WhatsApp. I don't care that she doesn't respond etc. I just don't really see why she should know so many details about them when I don't share that with others.

I have a crazy idea. Why not tell her that you love her and wish she had a closer relationship with your kids and ask how you can help make that happen.

ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh you mean be a grown up -- think OP has it in her?

[Anonymous]

I doubt the other aunties & uncles care for the daily/weekly updates either, but are just being polite about it as they know you need the validation.

[Anonymous]

Just reset the group. I have beautiful girls. Their pics don’t need to be all over the internet. Brother who doesn’t have kids took their images and posted reposted all over the place. Obviously I don’t send him pic anymore. Pic of my kid in a t shirt now selling tee shirts in China.
In your case SIL not interested, that’s fine, just reset the group. I’m sure she doesn’t care.

[Anonymous]

OP after resetting you might want to rethink posting all the time also.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The group consists only of grandparents and aunts and uncles who really are interested in getting daily/weekly updates.

It's sweet that you think that. Just send the grandparents some pics or stories from time to time, and gradually slow down with the daily updates on the other platform. You don't really think all your other siblings are interested in your daily newsletter, do you?

Right? Maybe the grandparents, but no one else cares whether or not they get daily updates on your kids. You want to remove SIL, who is NOT a random stranger, no matter how you feel about it, because she shows insufficient enthusiasm for your kids. You know this will create drama, and then you can play the victim and somehow claim it was about protecting your kids' privacy and bring up all her shortcomings as an aunt. This is a petty and stupid thing to do, and no good will come of it. Get over yourself and let it go.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you are being petty.

[Anonymous]

I'm laughing about "deserving" a daily update about your kids.

[Anonymous]

Single SIL here who does not care- No one and I mean no one care about your snowflake updates! And for the record, no one except maybe grandma wants your Xmas albums either! Please stop and get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

I’m starting to understand why SIL avoids OP...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your husband’s sister is not and can never be a random stranger. She is family even if you don’t regularly speak to her. Unless she does something dangerous to your children, you are being crazy.

+100 Unless she has been meddling or doing/saying something nasty or rude to you/your kids it's petty to cut her completely out of the loop like that. You're just sharing family news with family. She may not look at every update you put out there but she probably sees enough to at least know how things are going with you and your family. Suddenly cutting her, and only her, out of the loop would just be weird on your part.