Nonexistent SIL/Aunt - am I being petty?

[Anonymous]

I don't share info about my kids online. We do have a family group, and I share info there. SIL is in the group and has always been up and down. The last few years, she has had a nonexistent relationship with us or the kids. The kids barely know who she is. I would like to not share pictures, updates, etc about my kids with her because I don't share that with other random people (or even not random people). The group consists only of grandparents and aunts and uncles who really are interested in getting daily/weekly updates.

Should I just let this go and continue to share? Removing her will cause a lot of drama, and DH's parents will be sad. However, I feel like it's an invasion of my kids' privacy and she doesn't really deserve this level of detail. Tell me I'm being petty and should let this go. I guess at the heart of it, I'm also hurt that she takes no time to get to know the kids. They have no role in whatever anger she has toward my in-laws (which is the reason for the nonexistent relationship).

[Anonymous]

This is the imperfect arrangement, and your burden, when you choose to use social media.

Don't be so dramatic. No one can really answer what should be your own preference.

[Anonymous]

See this is why shit gets nasty. Someone is not extremely enthusiastic about your kids life. So what. Describes about 78 percent of my own family. You KNOW removing her from said group will do harm but you still want to do it? FFS people! Talk about stiring the pot. And I highly doubt pictures of lil Timmys scout promotion will ever be used against them by sil and greatly invade their privacy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:See this is why shit gets nasty. Someone is not extremely enthusiastic about your kids life. So what. Describes about 78 percent of my own family. You KNOW removing her from said group will do harm but you still want to do it? FFS people! Talk about stiring the pot. And I highly doubt pictures of lil Timmys scout promotion will ever be used against them by sil and greatly invade their privacy.

+1 Most of these moms are so upset that their kids are not the center of everybody in their family's lives that they pull petty crap like this in the name of "protecting" their children. Get over yourself, OP. This is much ado about nothing.

[Anonymous]

Who cares if she gets pictures and info? It isn’t like she is going to do anything nefarious with it. You are just trying to start trouble.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:See this is why shit gets nasty. Someone is not extremely enthusiastic about your kids life. So what. Describes about 78 percent of my own family. You KNOW removing her from said group will do harm but you still want to do it? FFS people! Talk about stiring the pot. And I highly doubt pictures of lil Timmys scout promotion will ever be used against them by sil and greatly invade their privacy.

THIS

[Anonymous]

This is why social media suck.

Yes, OP, you're stirring the pot. The life of a drama queen is not a happy one.

[Anonymous]

You are being petty and you should let this go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are being petty and you should let this go.

+1

[Anonymous]

Please op let it go. What do you think she's going to do? Sell them to a child predator? Come on. This is a no harm no foul situation and you want to create drama. Let it go.

[Anonymous]

I feel so sorry for your husband. He’s got a truly petty wife and apparently a petty sister too. Poor guy.

Yes, OP, you are being ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Life is good and peaceful, but that is not enough for me. How can I get into fights with the family and make a mess of things? Only then will I be truly happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are being petty and you should let this go.

This

[Anonymous]

Why would you remove HER from the group? Why don't you remove yourself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Life is good and peaceful, but that is not enough for me. How can I get into fights with the family and make a mess of things? Only then will I be truly happy.

Nailed it. If that's the road you choose OP, then at least own it.