Nonexistent SIL/Aunt - am I being petty?

[Anonymous]

Holy crap. Imagine having so much free time that this occurs to you.

[Anonymous]

You are being petty. Let it go. Send the updates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a SIL who doesn’t have much to do with my brother or his wife anymore because they’re both crazy. We are on a group thread. I don’t even look at the pictures so I’m sure you’re safe honey. We don’t care.

I’ll second that. My brother and SIL are also crazy, the only solution is to disengage.

[Anonymous]

pet·ty
/?ped?/
adjective

1.
the OP of this thread
"the petty games SIL plays because people aren't paying attention to her kids enough"
synonyms: drama queen, pot stirrer, making something out of nothing, being that SIL, crazy mamabear, being totally and completely over the top

[Anonymous]

Op, how does she respond when you contact her directly to ask how she's doing? How often does your husband call her?

[Anonymous]

OP has broken the internet. DCUM is at a rare consensus.

[Anonymous]

I'm a SIL and an Aunt. I'm lucky if I speak to my brother once a year - if that. I go back to my hometown maybe once every 4 years - so my mom doesn't always have to fly here to see her grandson. I'm just not that close with my brother and I don't think I've spoken to my SIL in 4 years. BUT, I get texted pictures of his kids - sometimes from him, sometimes, from SIL, sometimes from Grandma - but always in a group text. Every once in a while I'll respond. Most of the time I don't. I send pictures of DS too with info on what he's doing.

Do I expect a response - hell no. I'm just passing along the info so people can stay updated or not. Keeps grandma happy. My dad (divorced from mom since i was young) and I haven't spoken in 5 years (anther story), but he's still on the group text so he sees what DS is doing. He's never responded and I would never think of taking him off. Get over yourself. Trust me - she's no going to use the info for anything other than keeping up a conversation with the other family members. Jeesh!

[Anonymous]

Your husband’s sister is not and can never be a random stranger. She is family even if you don’t regularly speak to her. Unless she does something dangerous to your children, you are being crazy.

[Anonymous]

Who else is in the group? Just make a new group with just grandparents and share your kids only there. Tell them you are being more careful as your kids get older and only want to share their things with grandparents. And stick to it - nay the grandparents. Occasionally just send something innocuous to the “family group” to make an effort to be inclusive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s so very cute where OP feels like some FB group designation will keep her pictures private.

Don’t post ANYTHING anywhere, don’t even email it, if you aren’t cool with it on a billboard in Times Square

As for your Sil, you are defiantly ridiculous

OP here. It's not an FB group. It's WhatsApp. I don't care that she doesn't respond etc. I just don't really see why she should know so many details about them when I don't share that with others.

Because it is a family group and you only have one vote about who is in and who is out.

[Anonymous]

You will.be creating drama OP. Why is it such a big deal?

Share pics with all the relatives, its not any more work for you if there is one extra person signed up on social media. Who cares if they comment or are involved or not?

If I held my relatives to that standard,none would be friends on social media.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you are being petty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Life is good and peaceful, but that is not enough for me. How can I get into fights with the family and make a mess of things? Only then will I be truly happy.

+1 to this. and +1 to the other comments too

[Anonymous]

Why not just send pics individually to the people you want to? No law says you have to use the group chat.

[Anonymous]

You’re cray.

I’m extremely close with my brother and SIL. We are in a group chat also and they send sooo many pictures. I’m close with my niece and see her often. I don’t really look at the photos bc I see her all the time and my bro/SIL take millions! So as someone who is close with them and I don’t even look, I guarantee your SIL doesnt take a peek so don’t you worry!