How to find childcare for birth when you have no family or friends nearby?

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Anonymous wrote:and take this as a warning, Op, that you really need to be making more of an effort to make friends

OP here. OMG you guys are seriously crazy. I moved to a new state 2 weeks ago. I am getting shit on because I don't have friends and apparently it's no big deal to give birth alone. Wow. Thanks so much for the advice.

When is your baby due? I mean you moved to a new place two weeks ago why didn't you include this in your planning since you knew it was an issue?

Pp you're not being helpful. It's 1 day. People move for lots of reasons. There are babysitters on every street corner.

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Anonymous wrote:Can your mom or MIL come before your due date so they are there to help out?

My mom passed away and MIL has a fear of flying. She's abroad. I only have DH.

You have so many excuses. Think it’s all lies. Just make a friend!

OP here. You're a sick person.

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I considered hiring a doula for the birth so that I’m not alone. Then my husband can take care of our toddler (I was going to have them all in the hospital and just step out to the waiting room when I’m screaming). If I didn’t hate my MIl, we’d fly her down for a few weeks to take care of our toddler.

You could see if any of your new neighbors are nice. Maybe someone will be kind enough to watch your kid so that your husband can attend the birth of his second child? Try someone who already has a kid.

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Anonymous wrote:Fly in family. A cousin, MIL, mom, sister, SIL, aunt?

Op here. There's my dad but I didn't make it to my due date last time. My son was six weeks early. How do people arrange this? Have family come for the last few weeks? I think our best bet will be hired help. I am sure I can make friends but I don't know if I would feel comfortable asking for babysitting unless the relationship got really close. I don't see that happening. Friendships take time. I am 4 months pregnant now.

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OP, are you in DC? Hiring a doula sounds like it would work very well.

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Is your older kid in daycare? Can you talk to the teachers there and see what solutions they might offer?

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Anonymous wrote:Is your older kid in daycare? Can you talk to the teachers there and see what solutions they might offer?

That would only work if OP goes into labor overnight or weekends. She should find a SAHM she can call whenever. Someone she can pay.

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Omg idiots. Fine a few on call babysitters (2-3) have them baby sit every now and then so that your child can get used to them and the babysitter can get to know the child. Pay them very well when you go into labor.

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Anonymous wrote:Fly in family. A cousin, MIL, mom, sister, SIL, aunt?

Op here. There's my dad but I didn't make it to my due date last time. My son was six weeks early. How do people arrange this? Have family come for the last few weeks? I think our best bet will be hired help. I am sure I can make friends but I don't know if I would feel comfortable asking for babysitting unless the relationship got really close. I don't see that happening. Friendships take time. I am 4 months pregnant now.

You have plenty of time and yes, you do seem to be making a lot of excuses. Why did you bother posting if you shoot all the ideas down?

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Pay one of those post birth doulas
Start interviewing babysitters
How far are relatives - and would any come as soon as you get in labor? Most likely they would have a few hours to get to you before you have to go to hospital.

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I would just have dh drop me off and wait with the older child. If it matters to have someone with you get a doula while dh watches your older kid.

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Anonymous wrote:Fly in family. A cousin, MIL, mom, sister, SIL, aunt?

Op here. There's my dad but I didn't make it to my due date last time. My son was six weeks early. How do people arrange this? Have family come for the last few weeks? I think our best bet will be hired help. I am sure I can make friends but I don't know if I would feel comfortable asking for babysitting unless the relationship got really close. I don't see that happening. Friendships take time. I am 4 months pregnant now.

You have plenty of time and yes, you do seem to be making a lot of excuses. Why did you bother posting if you shoot all the ideas down?

OP said she new to the area and doesn't have family. Her mother is dead. Why is this so hard to understand? They're not excuses idiot. She needs a babysitter. OP has not shot down that idea. She said it sounds like her best bet in another post.

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Having a baby is such an exciting time. I think a lot of people would be willing to help you out even if they aren’t super close fiends. I know that I would.

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Nanny Here (if that helps)

Not sure how far along you are.

I would start ASAP finding a few sitters, for a few reasons
1-to know the person before hand/vet them and trust can go both ways
2-your current child feels comfortable, especially if it’s over night
3-you can start lining up a plan (when to call said, how long will sitter need to be with the kid, money and/or food left for sitter and child, numbers for emergencies for sitter, pre arranged payment amount for sitter)

I’m a sorry you’re getting some slack on this.

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Doula. All of you at hospital. Doula and DH can go in and out between you and kid. We did exactly this and found a doula who was a former preschool teacher. DD loved her and loved being at the birth of her sibling.