Are friends who don't text me back really even my friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is there a specific question in the text? If it's just FYI and no question, some people just don't respond cause there's no question to respond to. Like, "I will be 10 minutes late." Ok, do you expect me to respond to that? It's just a statement.

Some people hate this back/forth texting. It's annoying. Three text back and forth is all that is doable for many.

But, if you ask for example, hey, want to go out. No response for days. That means that person doesn't want to go out with you. What's would be rude is if they didn't even acknowledge the question when you saw them in person. If person doesn't even approach you to talk, forget it. Whatever relationship you think you had isn't there. Drop it.

Yeah, it's asking about meeting up. So I guess I'll just quit trying

Seems pretty sad

[Anonymous]

Hey OP, here's a novel idea. Why don't you call if you aren't getting a response back?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I will read a text when I'm not in a position to respond and then I forget...

This 110%

Yup. And there's nothing to remind me to answer. It's this teeny little message, and it gets pushed to the bottom of the list by all the other incoming crap, including automated messages, and then it's just functionally gone.

If you enjoy spending time with these people and they are otherwise good friends, I'd let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey OP, here's a novel idea. Why don't you call if you aren't getting a response back?

Because it's not that urgent or important.

[Anonymous]

Maybe there texts froze? for instance that recently happened with my iPhone. I lost two days of texts until I updated my phone via the Apple geeks online. Don't always presume the negative I never got some texts or lost others.

[Anonymous]

Yeah my phone doesn't always send or receive texts when it should

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is there a specific question in the text? If it's just FYI and no question, some people just don't respond cause there's no question to respond to. Like, "I will be 10 minutes late." Ok, do you expect me to respond to that? It's just a statement.

Some people hate this back/forth texting. It's annoying. Three text back and forth is all that is doable for many.

But, if you ask for example, hey, want to go out. No response for days. That means that person doesn't want to go out with you. What's would be rude is if they didn't even acknowledge the question when you saw them in person. If person doesn't even approach you to talk, forget it. Whatever relationship you think you had isn't there. Drop it.

Yeah, it's asking about meeting up. So I guess I'll just quit trying

Seems pretty sad

"Hey you, we should get together sometime"

or

"Are you free for dinner tomorrow at 6:00?"

?

[Anonymous]

One of them was like we should go to a type of event one time

Another was like, hey what are you up to? Cause I was headed to his house to see his spouse for another reason. Didn't see him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey OP, here's a novel idea. Why don't you call if you aren't getting a response back?

Because it's not that urgent or important.

Something doesn't have to urgent or important to make a phone call. Sometimes I'll call a friend if they haven't texted back, or they'll call me because I didn't text back, and sometimes i just like talking to my friend on the phone instead of texting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of them was like we should go to a type of event one time

Another was like, hey what are you up to? Cause I was headed to his house to see his spouse for another reason. Didn't see him

These texts are very vague, it's probably the case like PPs describe where they saw it but then forgot to write back, or something like that.

[Anonymous]

I'm so bad about texts sometimes and then I feel so bad. Often at work, I'll see a text on my watch and then I think about how I would respond. Usually I never actually actually respond though, I wish my thought out responses would send themselves!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey OP, here's a novel idea. Why don't you call if you aren't getting a response back?

Because it's not that urgent or important.

Sounds like the friendship is at risk in your side. I'd call that urgent and important enough for a phone call, wouldn't you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of them was like we should go to a type of event one time

Another was like, hey what are you up to? Cause I was headed to his house to see his spouse for another reason. Didn't see him

Neither of those are invitations!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of them was like we should go to a type of event one time

Another was like, hey what are you up to? Cause I was headed to his house to see his spouse for another reason. Didn't see him

Neither of those are invitations!

Sounds like he’s setting boundaries. If you’re seeing his spouse, why the need to text him? I feel like with married couples, they are one person. Example of someone texts DH and I (on separate texts) and DH responds... I don’t.

Maybe he feels uncomfortable texting too much with another women on a casual/conversational basis

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate text. If I'm at my computer or have my phone I will respond but I go days at home where I don't leave or touch my cell phone so I wouldn't even get your text.

Ok grandma. How can you be a functional member of society and not use your phone for days? What are you? 70?

I have an iPad and computer. My phone stays in my purse. My text do go to my computer and iPad but we have a home phone. I don't see the need to carry my phone 24/7. I hate it in my bedroom as people are rude and text all day and night when they know I'm sleeping.