Unsolicited Negative Feedback about College

[Anonymous]

If this is happening, it means you are talking too much about your child's life to people who just don't matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A woman made a rude comment once and I said, "your son ate dog food to get into his fraternity".

+1

I love it. Clean, crisp, and the implications are marvelous.

[Anonymous]

Does the school have a reputation for being a party school? If so, they aren't slamming the school. It is what it is.

From what I've seen, often the hard party schools are also academically strong. You can have both.

I think you are taking something well known and taking it as a personal attack on your kid's decision to apply/go to that school. My kid applied to a known party school or two and he doesn't party at all.

[Anonymous]

Who says calling a college a party school is a negative thing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Give her a death stare and say "What did you just say?" And wait.

Why would anyone get offended by recognition that your kid's university is a party school?

A fun and robust university social life is something most kids should want in a college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Give her a death stare and say "What did you just say?" And wait.

Why would anyone get offended by recognition that your kid's university is a party school?

A fun and robust university social life is something most kids should want in a college.

Look, a robust social life is good. Binge drinking isn't. To the previous poster who said that all schools are party schools, that isn't true. Maybe the "friend" has alcoholics in her family and is really concerned about sending an 18 year old to a university known for binge drinking. Maybe she wanted to make sure that you as a parent were aware of this reputation. All in all, if you're having a conversation about acceptances, then you're inviting her to have an opinion.

[Anonymous]

Well name the school.
Maybe it is a "party school." They definitely exist.
Why take umbrage if the comment is accurate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this is happening, it means you are talking too much about your child's life to people who just don't matter.

Could be, but I find people like to make others feel as miserable as they do.

[Anonymous]

Oh, come on, PPs. We all know that "party schools" are not viewed favorably in this area and any parent who says that to another parent in reference to the school their child attends is not intending the comment to be matter-of-fact. Even if the comment is true, it's still intended as a dig. Plain and simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, come on, PPs. We all know that "party schools" are not viewed favorably in this area and any parent who says that to another parent in reference to the school their child attends is not intending the comment to be matter-of-fact. Even if the comment is true, it's still intended as a dig. Plain and simple.

truth hurts?
(I would assume most parents around here whose kids go to schools on the "biggest party schools" list are well aware of the school's reputation and are o.k. with sending their kid there anyway.)

[Anonymous]

Any person that makes negative comments about another person's childs school is "more to be pitied than censured." How pathetic that someone has such poor social skills that they'd say something negative (including a school is a party school). Anyone with any decency just says, "congratulations" or "thats great, I hope Larla enjoys her new school." Just blow it off, OP. Be proud of your child. There are many wonderful schools and life is too short to be bothered by petty, socially inept people.

[Anonymous]

Hey, if the shoe fits, wear it:

Princeton Review's top 20 party schools:

1. University of Deleware

2. West Virginia

3. Tulane University

4. Syracuse University

5. Bucknell University

6. Lehigh University

7. UC Santa Barbara

8. University of Wisconsin

9. Colgate University

10. University of Rhode Island

11. University of Alabama

12. University of Vermont

13. Providence College

14. Wake Forest University

15. Union College

16. University of Maine

17. University of Illinois

18. University of Florida

19. Florida State University

20. Sonoma State University

surprised U of Georgia fell off the list

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any person that makes negative comments about another person's childs school is "more to be pitied than censured." How pathetic that someone has such poor social skills that they'd say something negative (including a school is a party school). Anyone with any decency just says, "congratulations" or "thats great, I hope Larla enjoys her new school." Just blow it off, OP. Be proud of your child. There are many wonderful schools and life is too short to be bothered by petty, socially inept people.

and your life is too short to be lecturing other adults on how they should talk to their friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this is happening, it means you are talking too much about your child's life to people who just don't matter.

Could be, but I find people like to make others feel as miserable as they do.

So then, these people's opinions don't matter and if their words make you feel bad, that's on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any person that makes negative comments about another person's childs school is "more to be pitied than censured." How pathetic that someone has such poor social skills that they'd say something negative (including a school is a party school). Anyone with any decency just says, "congratulations" or "thats great, I hope Larla enjoys her new school." Just blow it off, OP. Be proud of your child. There are many wonderful schools and life is too short to be bothered by petty, socially inept people.

and your life is too short to be lecturing other adults on how they should talk to their friends.

Says the a$$hole who prob says shit like this to others on a daily basis.