Unsolicited Negative Feedback about College

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, come on, PPs. We all know that "party schools" are not viewed favorably in this area and any parent who says that to another parent in reference to the school their child attends is not intending the comment to be matter-of-fact. Even if the comment is true, it's still intended as a dig. Plain and simple.

Well, UVA and Virginia Tech are known for partying. I think most parents would be delighted if their kids got accepted into those schools.

My own kid doesn't drink alcohol and has no interest in doing so. He could go to either one of those schools and not get caught up in the party scene. In fact, he's in college now and does not party.

[Anonymous]

Proud parent of a DC at a top ten party school!! I’ve heard everything from “and you’re happy about DCs decision?” to “certainly DC can do better than that.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any person that makes negative comments about another person's childs school is "more to be pitied than censured." How pathetic that someone has such poor social skills that they'd say something negative (including a school is a party school). Anyone with any decency just says, "congratulations" or "thats great, I hope Larla enjoys her new school." Just blow it off, OP. Be proud of your child. There are many wonderful schools and life is too short to be bothered by petty, socially inept people.

and your life is too short to be lecturing other adults on how they should talk to their friends.

Says the a$$hole who prob says shit like this to others on a daily basis.

+100 People who intentionally or unintentionally say things like this are self-centered a--holes.

[Anonymous]

I'm hearing comments about my DD's applications...

"I wouldn't send her to CNU, I heard they have drug issues there". How weird is that? I had never heard anything of the sort. She was accepted to another school in the south and have gotten the "oh, you don't want to send her there, they have problems..." And then, because we live in NOVA, so many people ask "is she going to UVA?" She's not even applying there.

[Anonymous]

So many reasons to keep where your kid is applying private for as long as possible.

[Anonymous]

I’m guessing this party school is “UVA” and that the person is jealous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like to respond to this by saying something like "yeah, we never had high hopes for Larlo - but I guess it's better than serving fries at McDonalds. He never was the brightest star in the sky..."

So far, this has always made them at least shut up, or fiercely backpedal. Fun to watch!

I’m not sure what your retort aims to accomplish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like to respond to this by saying something like "yeah, we never had high hopes for Larlo - but I guess it's better than serving fries at McDonalds. He never was the brightest star in the sky..."

So far, this has always made them at least shut up, or fiercely backpedal. Fun to watch!

I’m not sure what your retort aims to accomplish.

Then I can’t exlain it to you. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm hearing comments about my DD's applications...

"I wouldn't send her to CNU, I heard they have drug issues there". How weird is that? I had never heard anything of the sort. She was accepted to another school in the south and have gotten the "oh, you don't want to send her there, they have problems..." And then, because we live in NOVA, so many people ask "is she going to UVA?" She's not even applying there.

Maybe it's like baby names. If you say you're naming our child "Efghi," you'll get different responses than if you're naming her "Emily." People's responses may be rude, in some cases, but they give you information about people's perceptions: you might not like that "Efghi" has a "creative" connotation, while "Emily" is "basic."

Honestly, if someone said my child's college choice is known for drug issues, I'd want to know more. Doesn't mean I wouldn't let me child apply or attend, but I might look more into that issue.

[Anonymous]

Look them straight in the eye and say, "Wow. Harsh."

Works for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A woman made a rude comment once and I said, "your son ate dog food to get into his fraternity".

HA!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems everyone has an opinion. How do you respond when someone says something negative about your child's college choice or a college that your child applied to. In the last week I have had two people say DDs college is a party school. I just say not really, it takes really high stats to get in. Another knocked one of the schools DS got in and was excited about by saying in a derogatory way "of course he got in"

People in this are particularly disgusting about their opinions. Remember that when they offer it, it's more of a reflection of their own negative traits. People here measure their own self-worth on cutting others down. I have never seen so many insecure people as I've seen in this area.

+1

I expected smarter people.

[Anonymous]

Op, it's like anything, you now know they are rude people. I usually don't care about correctly someone. I just know, going forward, that they aren't worth my time or my respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems everyone has an opinion. How do you respond when someone says something negative about your child's college choice or a college that your child applied to. In the last week I have had two people say DDs college is a party school. I just say not really, it takes really high stats to get in. Another knocked one of the schools DS got in and was excited about by saying in a derogatory way "of course he got in"

even UVA is a "party drinking school". half the good schools out there are. find your people no matter where you live.

[Anonymous]

"Well, we are happy for Larlo. Thanks for taking a crap on that."