About to present divorce papers to long-time serial cheating spouse that doesn’t know spouse knows..

[Anonymous]

The only thing the friend is doing right is serving just before a trip. Gives them both time to breathe away from each other.

Otherwise leave the crazy at the door. Or end up on national news like this DH - https://www.washingtonexaminer.com/news/campaigns/sheena-greitens-claims-ex-husband-of-governors-mistress-cyberstalked-her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP clarification: Cheater DW has been cheating on friend with various co-workers for years. All of cheater partners are married.

That's what I thought you meant.

PPs getting poly-marriage and prior spouses (why would they be involved) are a little strange.

[Anonymous]

OP if your friend REALLY wants to stir the shit, send an email to all of cheater's colleagues on the trip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t get that friend was in a poly relationship. I thought it meant friend was 3rd (or 4th) wife due to hubs having multiple previous marriages.

OP again... first marriage for both in their 20s. I have to re-read what I wrote because clearly it was not clear...

Did you mean the cheaters AP is also married? That is the other spouse?

Did you write the OP drunk?

Yes. Yes. & Yes. I am not the “friend” but they are like family to me so this has me stressed out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP if your friend REALLY wants to stir the shit, send an email to all of cheater's colleagues on the trip.

No I am torn between wanting to keep this civil and being irate that his gross trash wife had us all fooled for years. But salting the ground isn’t good for child who should be foremost priority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP your post is weird and makes no sense. Also why all the drama?

Are you being serious? You find out your decade old marriage is a lie and no drama? Walk a mile in those shoes and let us know how that feels

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP your post is weird and makes no sense. Also why all the drama?

Are you being serious? You find out your decade old marriage is a lie and no drama? Walk a mile in those shoes and let us know how that feels

Ok, so OP, to be clear, because it hasn't been thus far - you ARE the party who will be filing for the divorce in all this? Not really their friend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP your post is weird and makes no sense. Also why all the drama?

Are you being serious? You find out your decade old marriage is a lie and no drama? Walk a mile in those shoes and let us know how that feels

Ok, so OP, to be clear, because it hasn't been thus far - you ARE the party who will be filing for the divorce in all this? Not really their friend?

Not that it matters but no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP if your friend REALLY wants to stir the shit, send an email to all of cheater's colleagues on the trip.

No I am torn between wanting to keep this civil and being irate that his gross trash wife had us all fooled for years. But salting the ground isn’t good for child who should be foremost priority.

Are you hot for your friend OP? Maybe now is your chance ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP if your friend REALLY wants to stir the shit, send an email to all of cheater's colleagues on the trip.

No I am torn between wanting to keep this civil and being irate that his gross trash wife had us all fooled for years. But salting the ground isn’t good for child who should be foremost priority.

Are you hot for your friend OP? Maybe now is your chance ...

Not that it matters, but no. What did I expect when trying to crowdsource complicated advice? Friend asks my advice an I have no clue. I thought this jaded bunch would have a checklist on the ready. My bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP clarification: Cheater DW has been cheating on friend with various co-workers for years. All of cheater partners are married.

That's what I thought you meant.

PPs getting poly-marriage and prior spouses (why would they be involved) are a little strange.

Thank you. I didn’t think I was that incoherent....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP clarification: Cheater DW has been cheating on friend with various co-workers for years. All of cheater partners are married.

That's what I thought you meant.

PPs getting poly-marriage and prior spouses (why would they be involved) are a little strange.

Thank you. I didn’t think I was that incoherent....

One person out of everyone else wasn't confused.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP if your friend REALLY wants to stir the shit, send an email to all of cheater's colleagues on the trip.

No I am torn between wanting to keep this civil and being irate that his gross trash wife had us all fooled for years. But salting the ground isn’t good for child who should be foremost priority.

Are you hot for your friend OP? Maybe now is your chance ...

Not that it matters, but no. What did I expect when trying to crowdsource complicated advice? Friend asks my advice an I have no clue. I thought this jaded bunch would have a checklist on the ready. My bad.

People have given you advice. I gave you advice upthread.

Don't make a big bruha drama out of it. Serve the papers, take care of the kid, move on from Cathy-Cheats-Alot. MYOB and leave the other spouses out of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP if your friend REALLY wants to stir the shit, send an email to all of cheater's colleagues on the trip.

No I am torn between wanting to keep this civil and being irate that his gross trash wife had us all fooled for years. But salting the ground isn’t good for child who should be foremost priority.

Are you hot for your friend OP? Maybe now is your chance ...

Not that it matters, but no. What did I expect when trying to crowdsource complicated advice? Friend asks my advice an I have no clue. I thought this jaded bunch would have a checklist on the ready. My bad.

People have given you advice. I gave you advice upthread.

Don't make a big bruha drama out of it. Serve the papers, take care of the kid, move on from Cathy-Cheats-Alot. MYOB and leave the other spouses out of it.

Agree with this advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP if your friend REALLY wants to stir the shit, send an email to all of cheater's colleagues on the trip.

No I am torn between wanting to keep this civil and being irate that his gross trash wife had us all fooled for years. But salting the ground isn’t good for child who should be foremost priority.

Are you hot for your friend OP? Maybe now is your chance ...

Not that it matters, but no. What did I expect when trying to crowdsource complicated advice? Friend asks my advice an I have no clue. I thought this jaded bunch would have a checklist on the ready. My bad.

People have given you advice. I gave you advice upthread.

Don't make a big bruha drama out of it. Serve the papers, take care of the kid, move on from Cathy-Cheats-Alot. MYOB and leave the other spouses out of it.

Agree with this advice.

Don’t get this. Every other thread - DH cheats with OW and the pitchfork mob is demanding letters be sent to the OW’s husband. Tables have turned and suddenly - you don’t need to involve the other spouses. Hypocrites.