He’s my boyfriend...but they call him my husband/spouse

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is Latino and this is totally normal. And marido can mean partner, not exactly esposo. We know plenty of unmarried Latinos that still use those titles when unmarried. We even had kids before marrying and everyone just used those titles for us, including my white who had no judgement. Not sure why it matters.

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I think you might be lost in translation. Marido means different things in different countries and regions of Latin America. You shouldn't be that offended and just ask for clarification. Marido to me, means partner not necessarily husband as PP stated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband is Latino and this is totally normal. And marido can mean partner, not exactly esposo. We know plenty of unmarried Latinos that still use those titles when unmarried. We even had kids before marrying and everyone just used those titles for us, including my white who had no judgement. Not sure why it matters.

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I think you might be lost in translation. Marido means different things in different countries and regions of Latin America. You shouldn't be that offended and just ask for clarification. Marido to me, means partner not necessarily husband as PP stated.

I already stated in a previous post that they are saying it in meaning husband/spouse. I feel that they do it out of disrespect and are not being considerate. I am Latina and I am fluent in Spanish. I am not lost in translation.

[Anonymous]

What country are you from?? Marido is also assigned to a live-in- boyfriend/girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What country are you from?? Marido is also assigned to a live-in- boyfriend/girlfriend.

Op here my dad is from El Salvador and my mom from Guatemala. And I already said to them to call him my boyfriend since other people think I’m married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What country are you from?? Marido is also assigned to a live-in- boyfriend/girlfriend.

Op here my dad is from El Salvador and my mom from Guatemala. And I already said to them to call him my boyfriend since other people think I’m married.

It's good that you asked them to call him Novio. I'm Guatemalan too and Esposo is what we use for a proper husband and Marido when they are throwing you some shade for the live in status or, a term used by more country folk. So either they don't approve or are from the country side. (Just my observations! Not set in stone.)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What country are you from?? Marido is also assigned to a live-in- boyfriend/girlfriend.

Op here my dad is from El Salvador and my mom from Guatemala. And I already said to them to call him my boyfriend since other people think I’m married.

It's good that you asked them to call him Novio. I'm Guatemalan too and Esposo is what we use for a proper husband and Marido when they are throwing you some shade for the live in status or, a term used by more country folk. So either they don't approve or are from the country side. (Just my observations! Not set in stone.)

Op here and they are throwing shade. That’s what I keep telling all the other posters. It’s them trying to be rude. I find it offensive and I always tell them he’s my NOVIO!!! Always

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What country are you from?? Marido is also assigned to a live-in- boyfriend/girlfriend.

Op here my dad is from El Salvador and my mom from Guatemala. And I already said to them to call him my boyfriend since other people think I’m married.

It's good that you asked them to call him Novio. I'm Guatemalan too and Esposo is what we use for a proper husband and Marido when they are throwing you some shade for the live in status or, a term used by more country folk. So either they don't approve or are from the country side. (Just my observations! Not set in stone.)

Op here and they are throwing shade. That’s what I keep telling all the other posters. It’s them trying to be rude. I find it offensive and I always tell them he’s my NOVIO!!! Always

Do they ever say "Maridito"?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What country are you from?? Marido is also assigned to a live-in- boyfriend/girlfriend.

Op here my dad is from El Salvador and my mom from Guatemala. And I already said to them to call him my boyfriend since other people think I’m married.

It's good that you asked them to call him Novio. I'm Guatemalan too and Esposo is what we use for a proper husband and Marido when they are throwing you some shade for the live in status or, a term used by more country folk. So either they don't approve or are from the country side. (Just my observations! Not set in stone.)

Op here and they are throwing shade. That’s what I keep telling all the other posters. It’s them trying to be rude. I find it offensive and I always tell them he’s my NOVIO!!! Always

Do they ever say "Maridito"?

Op here and yes they do. But not always usually they’ll say “maridito” when they’re talking to me

[Anonymous]

that would burn me too. It's disrespectful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:that would burn me too. It's disrespectful.

I’d be pissed too. It’s not that they’re mistakenly using the wrong word, it’s that they keep doing something you asked them not to do. They’re being jerks and bullies. They’re doing it because there are no consequences. So what if you correct them? If they get far enough under your skin, maybe you’ll cave and marry him. You’ve probably caved on smaller things when they were passive aggressive and taught them that they can get what they want if they dig in. Either learn to ignore it and pretend it doesn’t bother you, or stop going around them and giving them the chance to be jackasses.

[Anonymous]

I lived with my boyfriend for over 15 years, had kids with them and yes, we absolutely sometimes referred to each other as husband/wife whenever it's most convenient.

Let it go. Stop letting what they label you, press your buttons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I lived with my boyfriend for over 15 years, had kids with them and yes, we absolutely sometimes referred to each other as husband/wife whenever it's most convenient.

Let it go. Stop letting what they label you, press your buttons.

From a US American pov, the term "husband" is not insulting. As a Guatemalan (and I'm pretty sure Salvadorean) "marido" is insulting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:that would burn me too. It's disrespectful.

I’d be pissed too. It’s not that they’re mistakenly using the wrong word, it’s that they keep doing something you asked them not to do. They’re being jerks and bullies. They’re doing it because there are no consequences. So what if you correct them? If they get far enough under your skin, maybe you’ll cave and marry him. You’ve probably caved on smaller things when they were passive aggressive and taught them that they can get what they want if they dig in. Either learn to ignore it and pretend it doesn’t bother you, or stop going around them and giving them the chance to be jackasses.

I have told them multiple times to not call him that, so really what consequences can they really have? I did tell my sister that if it happens again I would not be attending any more family events. Sounds dramatic and quite a mean thing to do to my family, but they have showed my no signs of respect after telling them many times to use the term boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

Simple.

don't go the family event.

when you parents ask why you are not going, tell them that you feel disrespected by the way they refer to your boyfreind.

[Anonymous]

Let it go. You know he’s not your husband, or Marido.

I don’t mean this in a condescending way, but you’re 23. Families are filled with all kinds of crazy, so you might as well learn how to deal with yours.

I’ll be honest, I find it cute that they want him to be your husband, rather than treating your husband like a boyfriend. I do get that neither is cool, and it’s not my family so I’m not hearing it all.the.time.