He’s my boyfriend...but they call him my husband/spouse

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:that would burn me too. It's disrespectful.

I’d be pissed too. It’s not that they’re mistakenly using the wrong word, it’s that they keep doing something you asked them not to do. They’re being jerks and bullies. They’re doing it because there are no consequences. So what if you correct them? If they get far enough under your skin, maybe you’ll cave and marry him. You’ve probably caved on smaller things when they were passive aggressive and taught them that they can get what they want if they dig in. Either learn to ignore it and pretend it doesn’t bother you, or stop going around them and giving them the chance to be jackasses.

I have told them multiple times to not call him that, so really what consequences can they really have? I did tell my sister that if it happens again I would not be attending any more family events. Sounds dramatic and quite a mean thing to do to my family, but they have showed my no signs of respect after telling them many times to use the term boyfriend.

That’s the consequence. You don’t see them if they can’t be respectful. Otherwise the cycle continues. Why is that any more harsh than them bullying you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:that would burn me too. It's disrespectful.

I’d be pissed too. It’s not that they’re mistakenly using the wrong word, it’s that they keep doing something you asked them not to do. They’re being jerks and bullies. They’re doing it because there are no consequences. So what if you correct them? If they get far enough under your skin, maybe you’ll cave and marry him. You’ve probably caved on smaller things when they were passive aggressive and taught them that they can get what they want if they dig in. Either learn to ignore it and pretend it doesn’t bother you, or stop going around them and giving them the chance to be jackasses.

I have told them multiple times to not call him that, so really what consequences can they really have? I did tell my sister that if it happens again I would not be attending any more family events. Sounds dramatic and quite a mean thing to do to my family, but they have showed my no signs of respect after telling them many times to use the term boyfriend.

That’s the consequence. You don’t see them if they can’t be respectful. Otherwise the cycle continues. Why is that any more harsh than them bullying you?

Yea you’re right. My cousin is having a party this coming Saturday and all my family will be there and if they do this again I will not attend another family event

[Anonymous]

OP, you are shacking up, plain and simple. I think it’s hilarious YOU are the one who is offended.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are shacking up, plain and simple. I think it’s hilarious YOU are the one who is offended.

Shacking up? Uhhh no honey. We have an apartment together. And even if we were, it still doesn’t give them the right to be disrespectful

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are shacking up, plain and simple. I think it’s hilarious YOU are the one who is offended.

Shacking up? Uhhh no honey. We have an apartment together. And even if we were, it still doesn’t give them the right to be disrespectful

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/shack%20up

You are shacking up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are shacking up, plain and simple. I think it’s hilarious YOU are the one who is offended.

Shacking up? Uhhh no honey. We have an apartment together. And even if we were, it still doesn’t give them the right to be disrespectful

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/shack%20up

You are shacking up.

So it’s ok for people to have sex when they live apart and there’s no insulting term for that? You’re like problem here thinking people can’t live together and not be married. You’re probably that aunt who’s rude to everyone. And so what if I am? I keep telling them to refer to him as my bf

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are shacking up, plain and simple. I think it’s hilarious YOU are the one who is offended.

Shacking up? Uhhh no honey. We have an apartment together. And even if we were, it still doesn’t give them the right to be disrespectful

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/shack%20up

You are shacking up.

So it’s ok for people to have sex when they live apart and there’s no insulting term for that? You’re like problem here thinking people can’t live together and not be married. You’re probably that aunt who’s rude to everyone. And so what if I am? I keep telling them to refer to him as my bf

Yes, exercising discretion is preferred. You can’t be shocked your family disapproves. My SIL did this 12 years ago with someone she has since married. The family still talks about it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are shacking up, plain and simple. I think it’s hilarious YOU are the one who is offended.

Shacking up? Uhhh no honey. We have an apartment together. And even if we were, it still doesn’t give them the right to be disrespectful

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/shack%20up

You are shacking up.

So it’s ok for people to have sex when they live apart and there’s no insulting term for that? You’re like problem here thinking people can’t live together and not be married. You’re probably that aunt who’s rude to everyone. And so what if I am? I keep telling them to refer to him as my bf

Yes, exercising discretion is preferred. You can’t be shocked your family disapproves. My SIL did this 12 years ago with someone she has since married. The family still talks about it.

I’m not shocked they disapprove; I’m shocked they can’t just call him my bf when I have told them multiple times. Shows how close minded and selfish and rude they are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are shacking up, plain and simple. I think it’s hilarious YOU are the one who is offended.

You know what OP? I think this is a good word comparison which is why I said earlier that it was disrespectful. That's the connotation that Marido carries which is why is burns. There's no real one word in english that really encapsulates it.

-your Guatemalan friend

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are shacking up, plain and simple. I think it’s hilarious YOU are the one who is offended.

You know what OP? I think this is a good word comparison which is why I said earlier that it was disrespectful. That's the connotation that Marido carries which is why is burns. There's no real one word in english that really encapsulates it.

-your Guatemalan friend

Op here and yes that’s exacrly why it bothers me. It does burn and I feel disrespected and I’ve tried to correct them but they won’t budge. So I’ll probablt stop showing up for events. No need to be around them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are shacking up, plain and simple. I think it’s hilarious YOU are the one who is offended.

How is her living situation offensive? I get why OP is offended, but I have no clue why you think OP’s family should be offended.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are shacking up, plain and simple. I think it’s hilarious YOU are the one who is offended.

How is her living situation offensive? I get why OP is offended, but I have no clue why you think OP’s family should be offended.

If OP thinks there is nothing wrong with her living situation, then what does she care what her family calls her roommate with whom she sleeps? Seems like she is more bothered than they are. “Boyfriends” are for teenagers, and anyway how often could it possibly come up anyway.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How old are you?

Op here and I’m turning 23 in July

This explains everything. OP stop being such a brat.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you?

Op here and I’m turning 23 in July

This explains everything. OP stop being such a brat.

What does age have to do with this? And how am I being a brat?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are shacking up, plain and simple. I think it’s hilarious YOU are the one who is offended.

How is her living situation offensive? I get why OP is offended, but I have no clue why you think OP’s family should be offended.

If OP thinks there is nothing wrong with her living situation, then what does she care what her family calls her roommate with whom she sleeps? Seems like she is more bothered than they are. “Boyfriends” are for teenagers, and anyway how often could it possibly come up anyway.

You must be a moron then if you never had a bf your adult life, what did you do? Court?! Like the Duggar DS??