He’s my boyfriend...but they call him my husband/spouse

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Anonymous wrote:How old are you?

Op here and I’m turning 23 in July

This explains everything. OP stop being such a brat.

What does age have to do with this? And how am I being a brat?

The fact that you actually *care* about this speaks volumes. I thought the EXACT same thing when you posted your age. If you were more mature (which usually comes with age and experience), you would either a)not give a shit and live your life, or b) not move in with your boyfriend. Instead, you are upset with your family for treating you and your boyfriend like you are shacking up...which you are. Woman up and deal.

You need to stfu, you don’t know me or my family. Wait till someone calls your significant other the wrong thing. I’m not going to let people disrespect me just because they’re older. Like I said in my other posts, if they don’t comply I’ll stop attending family events. Don’t effing tell me to “woman” up? Wtf does that even mean? Why don’t you “man” up?

Nice language. You sound really immature and trashy.

No wonder your marido won't marry you. You are a 22 yo brat with a toilet mouth who's shacking up with someone. Your poor family.

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Anonymous wrote:You need to grow a thicker skin. You chose to cohabitate with your boyfriend despite knowing your family's cultural beliefs. So now either own it and let their perceived attacks roll of you your back, or stop having a relationship with them. But you can't have both.

I also come from a Latin culture that refers to any live-in boyfriend as a husband and that's just the way it is. You aren't going to change your older relatives so you need to change your reaction to them if you care to maintain civility.

You can't have your cake and eat it too.

Totally agree with the above. You want your elders to respect your choice even though the choice you made (to live with your boyfriend while unmarried) is not a choice that your family will ever respect and approve of for you. Living together without the benefit of marriage is disrespectful to their views and how they raised you. Thus, the name calling. Respect is a two-way street - you have to give it if you expect to receive it. You chose not to give it to them by not respecting their values regarding marriage ( no matter how outdated they may be).

I do not have to follow their values, but I do respect them.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are you?

Op here and I’m turning 23 in July

This explains everything. OP stop being such a brat.

What does age have to do with this? And how am I being a brat?

The fact that you actually *care* about this speaks volumes. I thought the EXACT same thing when you posted your age. If you were more mature (which usually comes with age and experience), you would either a)not give a shit and live your life, or b) not move in with your boyfriend. Instead, you are upset with your family for treating you and your boyfriend like you are shacking up...which you are. Woman up and deal.

You need to stfu, you don’t know me or my family. Wait till someone calls your significant other the wrong thing. I’m not going to let people disrespect me just because they’re older. Like I said in my other posts, if they don’t comply I’ll stop attending family events. Don’t effing tell me to “woman” up? Wtf does that even mean? Why don’t you “man” up?

Nice language. You sound really immature and trashy.

No wonder your marido won't marry you. You are a 22 yo brat with a toilet mouth who's shacking up with someone. Your poor family.

We do not want to get married yet so it’s not like I’ve asked him to marry me and he’s declined

[Anonymous]

Just dial it down abut 10 notches Op. I can’t believe you’d stop attending events over this.