Do you still give when parents request"please no gifts" for a birthday party?

[Anonymous]

We respect the request. It’s a simple thing. A card is sufficient.

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand this generation. Why do parents supply their kids with so much shit, want to invite a ton of kids to a $500 venue, and then make the awkward no gift plea.

How about you stop buying so much shit for your kids. Have a small simple party with 8 or less close friends, and let those kids get their friend a small gift to all open together.

We have lost basic manners, gift giving, thinking of and enjoyment of others, etc...

In this day of huge parties every week with kids most kids barely know or care about, parents get the present or regift another. No one is personal. No one opens their presents in front of guests anymore. The ettiquette is now on parents to supply a major party and now because of that, we over invite and now say no to 20+ crappy gifts the birthday kid won’t like because no one cares to get them things they like. It’s just another thing we have removed from our kids and taken on ourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’ve gone to many no gifts party for my second grade boy. I take them at their word- Kids have too much stuff. I take them at their word and my child makes a handmade card only.

Same here. Handmade card or nothing at all.

And i have NEVER been to a party without food. Ever.

[Anonymous]

We buy a book. I can’t not bring a gift. So my kid makes a card and picks out a book she thinks my kid might like.

[Anonymous]

This question should be banned on DCUM. Or at least a sticky!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this generation. Why do parents supply their kids with so much shit, want to invite a ton of kids to a $500 venue, and then make the awkward no gift plea.

How about you stop buying so much shit for your kids. Have a small simple party with 8 or less close friends, and let those kids get their friend a small gift to all open together.

We have lost basic manners, gift giving, thinking of and enjoyment of others, etc...

In this day of huge parties every week with kids most kids barely know or care about, parents get the present or regift another. No one is personal. No one opens their presents in front of guests anymore. The ettiquette is now on parents to supply a major party and now because of that, we over invite and now say no to 20+ crappy gifts the birthday kid won’t like because no one cares to get them things they like. It’s just another thing we have removed from our kids and taken on ourself.

I don't buy her a lot of shit. I'm hoping that her friends will honor my request that they don't either.

[Anonymous]

We bring a homemade card and make a donation to a charity in the birthday child’s name in the amount we would have spent on a gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This question should be banned on DCUM. Or at least a sticky!

+1 - people, please check the archives before posting a Q that's been asked and answered a million times

[Anonymous]

You can make a donation in the kid’s name.

[Anonymous]

We generally do a card only, sometimes handmade.
We love no gift parties! So much easier as both a hugger and receiver. Do not like the book exchange ones as much.

Honestly, with so many parties now writing no gift, the large ones that do not write that feel a little greedy. Though we once showed up at a bounce house without a gift, just a card, and then realized upon seeing the pile of presents that the party didn't specify no gifts. I apologized to the mom (a friend) and said I was so embarrassed and that we would drop off a gift the next day. She replied not to, that she was embarrassed that her dh made the invitations and didn't realize he needed to write "no gift." He just thought that everyone know knew that was"the thing" now. Ended up being the only whole class party that year that didn't specify.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this generation. Why do parents supply their kids with so much shit, want to invite a ton of kids to a $500 venue, and then make the awkward no gift plea.

How about you stop buying so much shit for your kids.

That's not the issue, dumbass.

And in any case, "shit you supply your kid" is something they picked out themselves and they actually play with it, whereas "shit other people buy" is crap they don't want and don't play with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this generation. Why do parents supply their kids with so much shit, want to invite a ton of kids to a $500 venue, and then make the awkward no gift plea.

How about you stop buying so much shit for your kids.

That's not the issue, dumbass.

And in any case, "shit you supply your kid" is something they picked out themselves and they actually play with it, whereas "shit other people buy" is crap they don't want and don't play with.

That's exactly the issue. Unless you just don't want your kid to have fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, we bring a card with a small gift.

IME, a no gift party means that there's also no food and/or no cake. Although I can understand the selfish impulse behind it, we have lots of toys too, I'm not a fan of them.

Nope. We have "no gifts" parties and we provide food, drinks and cake (not to mention, the usually expensive venue).

We just don't want a bunch of crap from Target cluttering up the house.

You sound obnoxious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this generation. Why do parents supply their kids with so much shit, want to invite a ton of kids to a $500 venue, and then make the awkward no gift plea.

How about you stop buying so much shit for your kids. Have a small simple party with 8 or less close friends, and let those kids get their friend a small gift to all open together.

We have lost basic manners, gift giving, thinking of and enjoyment of others, etc...

In this day of huge parties every week with kids most kids barely know or care about, parents get the present or regift another. No one is personal. No one opens their presents in front of guests anymore. The ettiquette is now on parents to s4upply a major party and now because of that, we over invite and now say no to 20+ crappy gifts the birthday kid won’t like because no one cares to get them things they like. It’s just another thing we have removed from our kids and taken on ourself.

Wow. No one cares to get them things they like? How about teaching your kids to appreciate gifts.

[Anonymous]

I do no gift parties because we have plenty and, as a working mom, feel that tasks like getting a present disproportionately erode women's work weeks. My husband certainly never spends his lunch looking for a present. I just like do do things that help my fellow worn out mom...not having to get a present means a little more free time for the invitees moms!

I'm not offended if you show up with a gift, but I truly mean that it's ok not to bring one.