Will having a spouse who is bad in bed eventually kill your libido?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My wife isn't very good in bed, but I'm still the higher libido spouse and her lack of skill hasn't decreased it. So, "no."

Do you get off every time? Right.

It's practically impossible for a woman to be "bad in bed", at least not by the low standards we hold men to.

Rare is a man who gets his wife off every time- and prized all around!

since I imagine you're a woman, I have to also believe you have no idea what it's like trying to f*ck a starfish, or someone who is quiet as a mouse. believe me, women can be plenty bad in bed, just like men.

But you get off. Which is more than can be said for most women.

So by that high standard, 95% of men are awful in bed.

This is likely true. Particularly considering how little men around the world are educated about female anatomy and sexuality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife isn't very good in bed, but I'm still the higher libido spouse and her lack of skill hasn't decreased it. So, "no."

Do you get off every time? Right.

It's practically impossible for a woman to be "bad in bed", at least not by the low standards we hold men to.

Rare is a man who gets his wife off every time- and prized all around!

since I imagine you're a woman, I have to also believe you have no idea what it's like trying to f*ck a starfish, or someone who is quiet as a mouse. believe me, women can be plenty bad in bed, just like men.

But you get off. Which is more than can be said for most women.

So by that high standard, 95% of men are awful in bed.

This is likely true. Particularly considering how little men around the world are educated about female anatomy and sexuality.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men don't expect women to give them orgasms. They just hump away until they get there. That's why men always have them. Women think of orgasms as something that is "given" to them. If they actively ground away on a man, like men do with women, they'd get all the time them too.

They focus on themselves, instead of focusing on their partner. They rank "good sex" as "i got off". Which is why by any standard of "good in bed" women are the better group, since we focus on our partner getting off. Now, if both parties did that, we'd probably be banging a lot more.

[Anonymous]

So, being a person who is bad at having orgasms will eventually kill your libido. Your spouse's attentiveness may or may not contribute to this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, being a person who is bad at having orgasms will eventually kill your libido. Your spouse's attentiveness may or may not contribute to this.

I rocked at having orgasms until him. Alone or partnered. With him, even a vibrator didn’t help. No rhythm and no stamina.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My wife isn't very good in bed, but I'm still the higher libido spouse and her lack of skill hasn't decreased it. So, "no."

Do you get off every time? Right.

It's practically impossible for a woman to be "bad in bed", at least not by the low standards we hold men to.

Rare is a man who gets his wife off every time- and prized all around!

LOL you must be a woman. It’s a common attitude amount women. 90% of women are bad in bed. It is very rare to find a woman who is good in bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife isn't very good in bed, but I'm still the higher libido spouse and her lack of skill hasn't decreased it. So, "no."

Do you get off every time? Right.

It's practically impossible for a woman to be "bad in bed", at least not by the low standards we hold men to.

Rare is a man who gets his wife off every time- and prized all around!

LOL you must be a woman. It’s a common attitude amount women. 90% of women are bad in bed. It is very rare to find a woman who is good in bed.

By that standard 100% of men are bad in bed. Simply because they cant get their partner off at the same rate women can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, being a person who is bad at having orgasms will eventually kill your libido. Your spouse's attentiveness may or may not contribute to this.

You are not "bad at having orgasms"- you can be bad at giving orgasms, and I'm guessing that has struck a nerve for you...

[Anonymous]

In a word: yes, from personal experience. But it does not "kill your libido" generally--its just kills it (over time) toward that particular partner. (I.e. She wants to have sex, just not with you.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife isn't very good in bed, but I'm still the higher libido spouse and her lack of skill hasn't decreased it. So, "no."

Do you get off every time? Right.

It's practically impossible for a woman to be "bad in bed", at least not by the low standards we hold men to.

Rare is a man who gets his wife off every time- and prized all around!

LOL you must be a woman. It’s a common attitude amount women. 90% of women are bad in bed. It is very rare to find a woman who is good in bed.

By that standard 100% of men are bad in bed. Simply because they cant get their partner off at the same rate women can.

It's not his fault you're frigid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Men don't expect women to give them orgasms. They just hump away until they get there. That's why men always have them. Women think of orgasms as something that is "given" to them. If they actively ground away on a man, like men do with women, they'd get all the time them too.

They focus on themselves, instead of focusing on their partner. They rank "good sex" as "i got off". Which is why by any standard of "good in bed" women are the better group, since we focus on our partner getting off. Now, if both parties did that, we'd probably be banging a lot more.

Men orgasm because they basically take the active role in sex and work themselves to the point where they reach orgasm. Women don't because they tend to be passive and wait for men to give them an orgasm. If women took over and actively controlled the rhythm of sex and basically used their husband's bodies to get off, like men do with women, they would orgasm more often.

Passivity is why women don't orgasm. No one can "give" you an orgasm. It's something that happens in your own body.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In a word: yes, from personal experience. But it does not "kill your libido" generally--its just kills it (over time) toward that particular partner. (I.e. She wants to have sex, just not with you.)

This was me. And I really mourn the years when my body shut itself down in self defense. Divorce was like puberty all over again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men don't expect women to give them orgasms. They just hump away until they get there. That's why men always have them. Women think of orgasms as something that is "given" to them. If they actively ground away on a man, like men do with women, they'd get all the time them too.

They focus on themselves, instead of focusing on their partner. They rank "good sex" as "i got off". Which is why by any standard of "good in bed" women are the better group, since we focus on our partner getting off. Now, if both parties did that, we'd probably be banging a lot more.

Men orgasm because they basically take the active role in sex and work themselves to the point where they reach orgasm. Women don't because they tend to be passive and wait for men to give them an orgasm. If women took over and actively controlled the rhythm of sex and basically used their husband's bodies to get off, like men do with women, they would orgasm more often.

Passivity is why women don't orgasm. No one can "give" you an orgasm. It's something that happens in your own body.

Actually, men lack the patience for the activities and pace most women need. My DH prioritizes that I o before penetration. It’s a mutual goal. We don’t use each ither’s Bodies.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. My husband gets me off every time. If he didn't, I wouldn't be interested.

How does your DH get him off every time? My guess is that you are a sexual person with a high libido who is sexually on the same page with your DH and/or you have taught him how to please you, which makes you preceive him, perhaps rightfully so, to be a good lover. But I don't think my low libido DW, who doesn't O from oral or PIV (with anyone), would necessarily think the same thing of your DH, because he's not going to guarantee an O for her. For sure, there are good and bad lovers, but the recipient plays a big role as well.

Dude, get a vibrator. FFS

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I've seen it posted out here more than a few times - wives complaining about their DH's performance.

How much do you think this has to do with low libido issues?

Are wives with DH's who are superstars in the sack less likely to have low libido?

True for me re: both marriages.

XH was so awful, it killed my desire.

DH is so amazing that I can’t get enough.

Same here. Maybe low libido spouses don't know how to have an O