Husband says he will have an answer Wednesday as to whether or not he wants to remain married

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would tell him. I married you for life until death do us part so one of us must die .

Threats would not be a good idea at this stage of the game.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would tell him. I married you for life until death do us part so one of us must die .

Threats would not be a good idea at this stage of the game.

But it's not a threat when it's the truth. Either you kill me or I kill you and I would rather my husband kill me. Or let a judge give me the death penalty.

[Anonymous]

How business-like of him!

Honestly, the reason there are so many unhappy divorcees is that they make these decisions at the drop of a hat. They don't stop to think what the consequences are, for their finances, their kids, and most of all, their logistics.

I would have been surprised he didn't take at least a month or two. But then, despite many downs (and a couple of ups), my husband and I are still married. We know what would happen if we decided to divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How business-like of him!

Honestly, the reason there are so many unhappy divorcees is that they make these decisions at the drop of a hat. They don't stop to think what the consequences are, for their finances, their kids, and most of all, their logistics.

I would have been surprised he didn't take at least a month or two. But then, despite many downs (and a couple of ups), my husband and I are still married. We know what would happen if we decided to divorce.

I think he wanted to buy himself a little time to make legal and financial arrangements before giving a definitive answer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would tell him. I married you for life until death do us part so one of us must die .

Threats would not be a good idea at this stage of the game.

But it's not a threat when it's the truth. Either you kill me or I kill you and I would rather my husband kill me. Or let a judge give me the death penalty.

Yikes.

[Anonymous]

He needs to give his coworker time to leave her husband.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would tell him. I married you for life until death do us part so one of us must die .

Threats would not be a good idea at this stage of the game.

But it's not a threat when it's the truth. Either you kill me or I kill you and I would rather my husband kill me. Or let a judge give me the death penalty.

I hope you're joking. If not, that is wack, lady.

[Anonymous]

Being married is a very involved process. It's not easy to divorce and it certainly isn't without repercussions. It is perfectly reasonable of him to step back and exam what the choices mean for himself and his family. If you asked the question then you need to wait calmly for his response. If this came from him initially, then you can always decide you are the one who needs to decide if continuing in marriage is warranted. Either way, both of you need to reach a consensus after a long hard critique of your past together.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's planning to talk to a few lawyers on Monday and Tuesday.

+1. And get his finances in order. My guess is if you asked the question, you probably know the answer.

+2

This. Or he's waiting on someone else to let him know if they want to be with him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He's planning to talk to a few lawyers on Monday and Tuesday.

+1. And get his finances in order. My guess is if you asked the question, you probably know the answer.

Or his mistress....

[Anonymous]

He sounds organized and level headed, a younger better version of you will take him very quickly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's planning to talk to a few lawyers on Monday and Tuesday.

+1. And get his finances in order. My guess is if you asked the question, you probably know the answer.

I'm the PP and the smart thing for OP's husband to do is talk to some lawyers and then say "let's stay married."

I did that for years--kissed my NPD ex's ass and attempted to answer every one of her ultimatums, while I built my own case, fixed my finances, and got my legal case together. It also allowed me to start recording, which would have saved me if she had made any serious accusations of abuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would tell him. I married you for life until death do us part so one of us must die .

Threats would not be a good idea at this stage of the game.

But it's not a threat when it's the truth. Either you kill me or I kill you and I would rather my husband kill me. Or let a judge give me the death penalty.

By Wednesday?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would tell him. I married you for life until death do us part so one of us must die .

Threats would not be a good idea at this stage of the game.

But it's not a threat when it's the truth. Either you kill me or I kill you and I would rather my husband kill me. Or let a judge give me the death penalty.

Umm...... your priorities are out of whack. Human life ranks higher than marriage. Think about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's planning to talk to a few lawyers on Monday and Tuesday.

+1. And get his finances in order. My guess is if you asked the question, you probably know the answer.

Or his mistress....

This. This is what is happening.