Husband says he will have an answer Wednesday as to whether or not he wants to remain married

[Anonymous]

Let me see, this is a woman who:

1) kids live out of state with their grandmother and not the parents

2) suspects her husband is gay but isn't doing anything about it other than asking if he wants a divorce

3) concludes husband will decide whether to pick her or his gay travel partner (that he may be gay itself apparently is something he can switch on and off)

Well. Don't know what to say.

If I thought DH was gay and had a boyfriend, that's the end of the marriage right there and then. I wouldn't be the one asking if *he* wanted to get divorced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me see, this is a woman who:

1) kids live out of state with their grandmother and not the parents

2) suspects her husband is gay but isn't doing anything about it other than asking if he wants a divorce

3) concludes husband will decide whether to pick her or his gay travel partner (that he may be gay itself apparently is something he can switch on and off)

Well. Don't know what to say.

If I thought DH was gay and had a boyfriend, that's the end of the marriage right there and then. I wouldn't be the one asking if *he* wanted to get divorced.

#3 -- it's called being bisexual.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me see, this is a woman who:

1) kids live out of state with their grandmother and not the parents

2) suspects her husband is gay but isn't doing anything about it other than asking if he wants a divorce

3) concludes husband will decide whether to pick her or his gay travel partner (that he may be gay itself apparently is something he can switch on and off)

Well. Don't know what to say.

If I thought DH was gay and had a boyfriend, that's the end of the marriage right there and then. I wouldn't be the one asking if *he* wanted to get divorced.

#3 -- it's called being bisexual.

And it's still the end of the marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I want him to make the decision to divorce so that it lives in his conscience everyday for the rest of his life - that he made the decision to leave his family for his “work partner”. The kids will be devastated but they live out of state with my mom so they’ll probably not be completely aware of the changes.

Uhh, now I call troll. Your kids live out of state with your mom? Why???

My God, quit with the troll calling. She seems legit to me. You seriously need a hobby troll hunter. It has to be the most annoying thing to have brats like yourself call OP a troll every few posts. If you don't like the thread, get off of it. It isn't hurting you. I have been called a troll a few times simply because the "troll hunter" couldn't relate to my problem. Grow up. Not everyone lives a life exactly like yours. My siblings and I spent a few months living with my grandma while my mom tried to save her marriage. Does not sound unreasonable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I want him to make the decision to divorce so that it lives in his conscience everyday for the rest of his life - that he made the decision to leave his family for his “work partner”. The kids will be devastated but they live out of state with my mom so they’ll probably not be completely aware of the changes.

Uhh, now I call troll. Your kids live out of state with your mom? Why???

My God, quit with the troll calling. She seems legit to me. You seriously need a hobby troll hunter. It has to be the most annoying thing to have brats like yourself call OP a troll every few posts. If you don't like the thread, get off of it. It isn't hurting you. I have been called a troll a few times simply because the "troll hunter" couldn't relate to my problem. Grow up. Not everyone lives a life exactly like yours. My siblings and I spent a few months living with my grandma while my mom tried to save her marriage. Does not sound unreasonable.

Actually, it sounds completely fictitious. But what the hell, I'll play: OP, if you have saddled your out of state mother with your kids, your home is already broken. And if you are wondering if your alleged husband will stay for the sake of kids who are not there... I'm guessing they were taken away, perhaps because of your mental incapacitation.

[Anonymous]

Here’s why it is fictitious- she’s not asking for advice, there’s a plot and a date being worked up to (to add to the suspense). And the story doesn’t make sense. And the OP is weirdly nonchalant.

[Anonymous]

So no update?

[Anonymous]

He may tell you he wants to stay married just so he can get his ducks in a row before he tells you he wants a divorce.

[Anonymous]

OP abandoned this thread

[Anonymous]

Hallo OP what's the update?

[Anonymous]

what happened??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what happened??

Yes, any update?
-Inquiring minds want to know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:what happened??

Yes, any update?
-Enquiring minds want to know.

FTFY

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has your husband's "work partner" decided whether or not you and your husband are staying married?

yes, we mutually decided to part ways. I’ll be moving in with my mom whereas he is moving in with his business partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has your husband's "work partner" decided whether or not you and your husband are staying married?

yes, we mutually decided to part ways. I’ll be moving in with my mom whereas he is moving in with his business partner.

Hindsight being 20/20, can you see the red flags that you missed? Is there anything you can share to help others learn the warning signs?