Would you be mad?

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Anonymous wrote:Yep. Do you have two cars and did he take one? I think that's really inconsiderate.

Yep, he took our only car we have right now. To make matters worse, I even asked him to have his dad pick him up. He said no because he had to help get the boat ready etc. So our truck is 10 minutes away just sitting in his dad's driveway. They took his dad's truck.

Wow.

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Sounds like you need to man up OP.

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Was this issue not obvious before you got married? I realize that doesn't help today but this is likely yet another cautionary tale to not ignore the "little" things before marriage, as they will absolutely become the big things after marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yep. Do you have two cars and did he take one? I think that's really inconsiderate.

Yep, he took our only car we have right now. To make matters worse, I even asked him to have his dad pick him up. He said no because he had to help get the boat ready etc. So our truck is 10 minutes away just sitting in his dad's driveway. They took his dad's truck.

I would be past livid.

+1

+1, but I really mean +1M! Please don't have another child with this person.

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Apparently all is ok and I'm overreacting because this is the first time he's gone fishing in 2 years with his dad. Oh he's most certainly had opportunities to do so without putting DD and I second but he chose today of all days to go. Not to mention that every year he leaves to go hunting for days at a time.

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Anonymous wrote:I would be. One of the biggest marital issues is the birth family vs. marriage family. Truly believe that some people never really get married, they stay mentally with their birth family and happen to get a spouse and kids along the way.

This subject merits a serious talk before things get worse.

Agreed. Dh's priorities are off. I'd be pissed.

+1 Spending EVERY Sunday with his parents? Not ok. He needs to realize that the family he created with you is now the priority.

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And he couldn't just drive his car back to you with his dad following in the truck? I'd be on my last straw with that one.

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Anonymous wrote:Apparently all is ok and I'm overreacting because this is the first time he's gone fishing in 2 years with his dad. Oh he's most certainly had opportunities to do so without putting DD and I second but he chose today of all days to go. Not to mention that every year he leaves to go hunting for days at a time.

You're rightly furious and he's totally disrespectful.

Sounds like you don't know how to stand up for yourself so go to therapy. Individual or couples or both.

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Every Sunday is too much! What about them having a dinner Friday evening, or organizing family events, when they come to your place for lunch? Your DH sounds like he has parents who are manipulative with victim/narcissist personalities and it sounds like he has no idea about their real personalities or he is of the same personality. His Dad is basically emotionally abusing him/hence your DH is neglecting his own nuclear family as you are probably not making the scenes his Dad is, so your acceptance of this behavior is enabling him and his parents. Plus as your kid is very young, maybe you haven't been married for that long? So, he is just in the same dynamic as before marriage. This happens to a lot of new marriages, DH doesn't understand that all is not the same, and gets mad that wife is "insecure and needy" and turns it on you. Show him this thread. He is a Dad and a husband now, and while he can still see him parents, of course, you and your DD are part of that equation now. Hence, you need to be included in these Sundays, and he needs to stop being a child/asshole.

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Anonymous wrote:Every Sunday is too much! What about them having a dinner Friday evening, or organizing family events, when they come to your place for lunch? Your DH sounds like he has parents who are manipulative with victim/narcissist personalities and it sounds like he has no idea about their real personalities or he is of the same personality. His Dad is basically emotionally abusing him/hence your DH is neglecting his own nuclear family as you are probably not making the scenes his Dad is, so your acceptance of this behavior is enabling him and his parents. Plus as your kid is very young, maybe you haven't been married for that long? So, he is just in the same dynamic as before marriage. This happens to a lot of new marriages, DH doesn't understand that all is not the same, and gets mad that wife is "insecure and needy" and turns it on you. Show him this thread. He is a Dad and a husband now, and while he can still see him parents, of course, you and your DD are part of that equation now. Hence, you need to be included in these Sundays, and he needs to stop being a child/asshole.

Honestly his family doesn't like me. They think my goal is to keep DH from them. To them, I'm the birch who stole DH and keeps him from them. He sees them weekly and he even sees his dad throughout the week but no no that's not enough. We've been married 6 years

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Divorce him and his lame ass family

It won't get better

[Anonymous]

Where are the keys to the truck?
Get MIL and SIL on the phone and work out a way to get you and the truck together.
They drive it over, they pick you up and take you to where the truck is.

Odd that MIL and SIL are not at least advocates for your child.

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Plan something for yourself for next Sunday and tell your DH he's in charge of your son for the day. Don't take no for an answer. You've been letting this go on for six years and its time you put a stop to it.

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Anonymous wrote:Every Sunday is too much! What about them having a dinner Friday evening, or organizing family events, when they come to your place for lunch? Your DH sounds like he has parents who are manipulative with victim/narcissist personalities and it sounds like he has no idea about their real personalities or he is of the same personality. His Dad is basically emotionally abusing him/hence your DH is neglecting his own nuclear family as you are probably not making the scenes his Dad is, so your acceptance of this behavior is enabling him and his parents. Plus as your kid is very young, maybe you haven't been married for that long? So, he is just in the same dynamic as before marriage. This happens to a lot of new marriages, DH doesn't understand that all is not the same, and gets mad that wife is "insecure and needy" and turns it on you. Show him this thread. He is a Dad and a husband now, and while he can still see him parents, of course, you and your DD are part of that equation now. Hence, you need to be included in these Sundays, and he needs to stop being a child/asshole.

Honestly his family doesn't like me. They think my goal is to keep DH from them. To them, I'm the birch who stole DH and keeps him from them. He sees them weekly and he even sees his dad throughout the week but no no that's not enough. We've been married 6 years

This is some weird stuff! Are they of some different background? It is like you aren't even his family! What are the positives about your DH? It is clear that his parents don't need to cut the cord and your DH is fully attached to them as if he is a 4 year old. Is he an only child? Which still doesn't excuse his behavior. Plus, you live so close to them they could be your support system, and not "his other partner." So, he is cheating on them with you??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where are the keys to the truck?
Get MIL and SIL on the phone and work out a way to get you and the truck together.
They drive it over, they pick you up and take you to where the truck is.

Odd that MIL and SIL are not at least advocates for your child.

They don't like me. Today was a victory for them. Strife was caused in our marriage and they view that as a win.