Would you be mad?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well since I called bawling and he continued to discuss fishing in the background with his dad. I texted him and said "DD and I will be staying with my sister for a few days". He said "you're leaving me because I went fishing with my dad" someone please help me put to words why I'm so angry. I tried to explain that he doesn't put DD and I first.

You're being a little psychotic.

Did you not realize earlier in the week that you were low on groceries, knowing DH is usually gone Sundays?

You are living up to what his family thinks of you right now. Keep at it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What hurts is he's still fishing.

Because you're having a nuclear meltdown over groceries.

[Anonymous]

Looks like OP's in laws have found this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What hurts is he's still fishing.

Because you're having a nuclear meltdown over groceries.

Yes, it's all about the groceries.

[Anonymous]

Marriage counseling. This week. Stay with your sister until then - you need to talk this out in a neutral environment with a third party. Don't engage until you're in that situation.

[Anonymous]

Look, I am pp who suggested texting and staying calm. What you are doing is exactly the same as his parents. He is used to hysterics and knows just to weather it out. Start acting like an independent, calm person who isn't just another person throwing a tantrum. It might t take a while, but he will eventually take you seriously. If it doesn't ever work out, well better to be on your won than to spend every day crying and being miserable. Ultimately, you can't make him choose you and your kid, that is unfortunately not your decision.

[Anonymous]

Op, I'm the pp who suggested doing the "180". Here's a blog post that describes it very well. I think this will help you.

https://beingabeautifulmess.wordpress.com/the-180/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First off let me say DH spends every Sunday with his parents and sister. I typically join once a month maybe twice. Honestly, I wish he wouldn't spent half of his time off at his mom and dad's instead of at home with his family but I understand they are important too. Well today the house is a disaster and we're out of groceries. We have stuff for pb&j sandwiches. My car is in the shop. So on to the issue. Despite DD(1 year old) and me being stuck at home with no groceries, he's fishing with his dad. They took a day trip.

Sounds like poor planning. Why didn't someone get groceries before you ran out?

[Anonymous]

Omg. So much drama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yep. Do you have two cars and did he take one? I think that's really inconsiderate.

Yep, he took our only car we have right now. To make matters worse, I even asked him to have his dad pick him up. He said no because he had to help get the boat ready etc. So our truck is 10 minutes away just sitting in his dad's driveway. They took his dad's truck.

So, walk over and get it.

[Anonymous]

Instacart or delivery food, in the meantime.

A long talk when he gets back.

[Anonymous]

Your husband should be prioritizing his family w/you first.

He is a husband + parent now and spending time w/you both should be his #1 responsibility in life.

He can also spend time w/his parents & sibling, but should do so only when you and your child are properly being cared for.

Tell him to pick up some groceries after his fishing trip as well as help you out w/some chores once he is back home.

[Anonymous]

Why didn't you make sure to get food the day before? You knew he was going out.

[Anonymous]

I would not be mad if I were you. It's one day that he planned with his dad. You should have gotten groceries prior to the day and 10 minutes is walking distance. There are plenty of things that could have been done to avoid this. You sound jealous, obviously there's more to the story. How come you don't plan dates, or family outings? Why does it fall on your husband? You sound needy. Do you have friends or family to hang out with?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you make sure to get food the day before? You knew he was going out.

Because they have a baby and things happen! OMG devoting one day a week to extended family when you have young kids is too much. He made it clear that he doesn't put his wife and child first. Of course OP feels like crap.