Caught my child drinking at a Parent sanctioned party… WYD

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Did you leave your child there?!?!

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I am fine with my child attending these types of parties. I fo expect the parents to be at home and to intervene when kids start throwing up. That's when the kids need to learn that they are drinking too much, learn where their limits are. A little slurring is not a problem, the kids are learning.

I would call the police about a party with no parents or one that has kids who will be driving themselves immediately after alchohol consumption.

Otherwise, I would stick to your policy for your child and stay out of it.

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Anonymous wrote:What did you say to YOUR CHILD. Did you make them leave?

FWIW We are dealing with this too. I am frustrated by the parental approval. I have repeatedly articulated my expectations to my kid and have told him he is on a short leash and we are watching. if he comes home altered, no more parties. When I was young, the worst thing we could get was beer, now they have liquor and wine...and weed, lots and lots of weed.

Honestly, I did not make them leave immediately because I was tryng to figure-out what the hell these parents where thinking and attempting to observe how the kids where handling the freedom.
we did have a LENGTHY discussion at home about my stance, the reasons for my "approach" and what I Expect from them in the future.

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Anonymous wrote:I am fine with my child attending these types of parties. I fo expect the parents to be at home and to intervene when kids start throwing up. That's when the kids need to learn that they are drinking too much, learn where their limits are. A little slurring is not a problem, the kids are learning.

I would call the police about a party with no parents or one that has kids who will be driving themselves immediately after alchohol consumption.

Otherwise, I would stick to your policy for your child and stay out of it.

Holy crap.

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Anonymous wrote:I am fine with my child attending these types of parties. I fo expect the parents to be at home and to intervene when kids start throwing up. That's when the kids need to learn that they are drinking too much, learn where their limits are. A little slurring is not a problem, the kids are learning.

I would call the police about a party with no parents or one that has kids who will be driving themselves immediately after alchohol consumption.

Otherwise, I would stick to your policy for your child and stay out of it.

Holy crap.

My thoughts exactly...

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1) Why did you just happen to drop by during the party?
2) What did you say to the parents hosting the party?

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Anonymous wrote:I am fine with my child attending these types of parties. I fo expect the parents to be at home and to intervene when kids start throwing up. That's when the kids need to learn that they are drinking too much, learn where their limits are. A little slurring is not a problem, the kids are learning.

I would call the police about a party with no parents or one that has kids who will be driving themselves immediately after alchohol consumption.

Otherwise, I would stick to your policy for your child and stay out of it.

Holy crap.

My thoughts exactly...

Mine, too. Slurring is always, always a problem. Boy I hope my child doesn't hang out with yours.

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Anonymous wrote:I am fine with my child attending these types of parties. I fo expect the parents to be at home and to intervene when kids start throwing up. That's when the kids need to learn that they are drinking too much, learn where their limits are. A little slurring is not a problem, the kids are learning.

I would call the police about a party with no parents or one that has kids who will be driving themselves immediately after alchohol consumption.

Otherwise, I would stick to your policy for your child and stay out of it.

Holy crap.

My thoughts exactly...

Mine, too. Slurring is always, always a problem. Boy I hope my child doesn't hang out with yours.

I'm actually with the first poster here - it will happen better to have some control. The kids of the uptight parents often go off the rails the most!

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I would have called the police AND notified Admin and counselors at the school. However, I'm also a mandatory reporter so my license is on the line if I see child endangerment and don't report. 8 years ago, my older child called me to pick her up from a party. We have a "No details needed, no questions asked, I'm on my way already." Agreement. I got that from my dad back in the late 80s when I attended the sister school of a hard-drinking boys prep. My DD climbs in, we pull away. Before we even reach the end of the block, two cruisers pull in one way and a third the other.
I didn't need details but I was curious. My DD spilled the whole story over pancakes at a diner. It was a kegger. The neighbors called 911 after drunken teens scaled their fence to use the play set. In the end, there were many citations issued and 4 kids transported to the hospital. My DD left because a boy threw up next to her and then asked her to go into a bedroom with him. Weeks later, I talked to the parents who admitted that they left at 9:30 pm for a late movie because things seemed under control.

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Anonymous wrote:I am fine with my child attending these types of parties. I fo expect the parents to be at home and to intervene when kids start throwing up. That's when the kids need to learn that they are drinking too much, learn where their limits are. A little slurring is not a problem, the kids are learning.

I would call the police about a party with no parents or one that has kids who will be driving themselves immediately after alchohol consumption.

Otherwise, I would stick to your policy for your child and stay out of it.

Holy crap.

My thoughts exactly...

Mine, too. Slurring is always, always a problem. Boy I hope my child doesn't hang out with yours.

I'm actually with the first poster here - it will happen better to have some control. The kids of the uptight parents often go off the rails the most!

+1 Can't wait to see how the kids of uptight parents fare in college when mom can't "stop by" any parties...

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Anonymous wrote:I am fine with my child attending these types of parties. I fo expect the parents to be at home and to intervene when kids start throwing up. That's when the kids need to learn that they are drinking too much, learn where their limits are. A little slurring is not a problem, the kids are learning.

I would call the police about a party with no parents or one that has kids who will be driving themselves immediately after alchohol consumption.

Otherwise, I would stick to your policy for your child and stay out of it.

Holy crap.

My thoughts exactly...

Mine, too. Slurring is always, always a problem. Boy I hope my child doesn't hang out with yours.

I'm actually with the first poster here - it will happen better to have some control. The kids of the uptight parents often go off the rails the most!

The Atlantic just had an article with research showing the opposite.

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Anonymous wrote:1) Why did you just happen to drop by during the party?
2) What did you say to the parents hosting the party?

1) I stopped-by because they said: "stop-by, it would be nice to see you!". I really thought keeping an eye on things meant they would confiscate any contraband and defuse any undesirable situations. I think for them it meant we will be keeping an eye out for police so no one gets in trouble.

2)I said nothing. This was not my home. I can't control what decisions adults make when it comes to how they want to parent in their own house. nor was i interested in creating a situation with someone we will have to deal with for at least 3 maybe 7 years.

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Anonymous wrote:You could have called the police, OP. What they did was illegal and dangerous, even if the parents thought they had a handle on things. What idiots.

I have never liked that sort of party, even as an adolescent, so you can imagine how I feel about them now!

As a French person, wine is part of mealtimes, and my children have tasted alcohol at home. I don't plan on hosting any teen parties, or serving alcohol at any other time than at dinner time, to the guests I have invited.

Oh, please don't start the "Europeans are more sophisticated with alcohol" trope. That's bullshit.

There is a big difference from kids drinking with parents in moderation and supervised and those parties.

I lived and taught in both Latin American and European countries with either no hard drinking age or cultural acceptance of kids drinking wine with dinner at home. I saw a lot of drunk teens, but typically not the "boot and rally" you see here or in the UK. Kids who had too much were admonished and put to bed in a safe position. The next day, they were not babied for any hangover symptoms.

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Anonymous wrote:1) Why did you just happen to drop by during the party?
2) What did you say to the parents hosting the party?

1) I stopped-by because they said: "stop-by, it would be nice to see you!". I really thought keeping an eye on things meant they would confiscate any contraband and defuse any undesirable situations. I think for them it meant we will be keeping an eye out for police so no one gets in trouble.

2)I said nothing. This was not my home. I can't control what decisions adults make when it comes to how they want to parent in their own house. nor was i interested in creating a situation with someone we will have to deal with for at least 3 maybe 7 years.

But you already have a situation with them that they and you created together. You are now part of the problem because you know they allow other people's kids to use alcohol and drugs in their home. And trust me, other parents will hear "Well, Larla's mom lets her go and she even stopped by." So your rep as a parent will be used to expose more kids to risk.

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Anonymous wrote:I am fine with my child attending these types of parties. I fo expect the parents to be at home and to intervene when kids start throwing up. That's when the kids need to learn that they are drinking too much, learn where their limits are. A little slurring is not a problem, the kids are learning.

I would call the police about a party with no parents or one that has kids who will be driving themselves immediately after alchohol consumption.

Otherwise, I would stick to your policy for your child and stay out of it.

Holy crap.

My thoughts exactly...

Mine, too. Slurring is always, always a problem. Boy I hope my child doesn't hang out with yours.

I'm actually with the first poster here - it will happen better to have some control. The kids of the uptight parents often go off the rails the most!

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The Atlantic just had an article with research showing the opposite.

recent studies actually dispel that myth.