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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm finding out that baptisms are a very big thing in DH's family.  They're big to me too, but not as the social event that my IL's see them as.  DC is getting baptized this summer and MIL and FIL are insisting on coming, except they want us to pay their travel expenses!  (They live halfway across the country).  We're not poor, but we do have very expensive childcare, and this will deplete our vacation fund plus some, which means no vacation this year and possibly next year.  They also want us to throw a big party for DC.  DH has told me there's no other way and he won't put his foot down with mom and dad.  I've offered to fly them here on award tickets, but they "don't fly that airline, dear."  I just wanted a sacrament performed and now it's costing us $1500+ at the very LEAST (we don't have room in our house for them so we'd have to put them up in a hotel as well).  Am I in the wrong here?  [/quote]

absofuckinglutely not.

this sounds like the dh in the other thread...if he won't put his foot down and say NO then you do it. [/quote]

[b]Oh, I did.  But I can say no all I want, and he'll still buy the tickets.  [/b]They live in a small town with barely any air service and it's [i]expensive[/i].  I cringe just thinking of the cost.
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You MUST work this out with DH. Agree it's setting a precedent. What are his expectations regarding the number of times per year his parents visit? The number of times you visit them? The amount of $$ you can budget for this? Does he really want to set up a situation where you guys will not get to go on vacations because all of the money is used up paying to fly his parents?
The icing on the cake is their refusal to fly on certain airlines.

This is not sustainable. It's also unbelievably disrespectful in a marriage to have one person make a large purchase (like plane tickets) without getting discussion and agreement from the other person.
As PP said, this is not an IL issues, it's a marriage issue.[/quote]

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