Avoiding duty sex?

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[Post New]02/14/2015 11:16
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Anonymous
Smell really bad.
[Post New]02/14/2015 11:19
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Anonymous
Sex is part of being married for most couples in a normal, healthy relationship.

If that is not something that appeals to you then it begs the question as to why you bothered to get married in the first place.
[Post New]02/14/2015 11:44
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Anonymous
OP here. To be clear, my spouse will be the one offering the calendar-based duty sex. Just not appealing.
[Post New]02/14/2015 11:49
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Anonymous
So grab a cat-o-nine tails, a blindfold, some chocolate paint, a pair of crotchless panties and change it to not duty sex.

You're half responsible, you understand that right?

[Post New]02/14/2015 11:50
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Today being one of the big 4- birthday, anniversary, mother/father's day, Valentina's day - my spouse is already gearing up for what will inevitably be bad duty sex. Love my spouse, but simply uninterested. Any tips on shutting this down in advance, without any drama or hurt feelings?


Duty sex is Corpse sex in my house.
[Post New]02/14/2015 12:00
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Anonymous
I have a bladder infection.
[Post New]02/14/2015 12:04
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Anonymous
I think part of the problem is that you actually call it "Duty sex".
[Post New]02/14/2015 12:15
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I think part of the problem is that you actually call it "Duty sex".


Is duty sex all you have? Four times a year? Do either of you want more?
[Post New]02/14/2015 12:27
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Anonymous
OP, are you the wife or husband? I wouldn't be interested in duty sex either.
[Post New]02/14/2015 12:39
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Anonymous
Be blunt. No use in trying to gloss over it.
[Post New]02/14/2015 12:39
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Anonymous
Well OP if all they offer you is duty sex and you are tired of it when they offer tonight tell them not to bother. That ought to kick off a lively convo that sounds long overdue.
[Post New]02/14/2015 12:43
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Well OP if all they offer you is duty sex and you are tired of it when they offer tonight tell them not to bother. That ought to kick off a lively convo that sounds long overdue.


+1
[Post New]02/14/2015 12:48
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Anonymous
If the husband is really bad in bed, then duty sex is pretty much all there is.
[Post New]02/14/2015 12:53
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:It depends. "Simply uninterested" doesn't suffice. Part of being in a LTR is willingness to share sex when partner is interested. If you really hate the idea, what's so hard about giving a good BJ (or suitable equivalent if you're male, but somehow I doubt it . . .). Often Duty Sex turns into something at least mildly enjoyable, at least for me.

-Married almost 50 years


I'm the disinterested spouse. I try hard to remember what you say because I think it is true. My husband wants sex, I love him and one way he feels loved is through sex. Thanks for the reminder. Congrats on making it 50 years!
[Post New]02/14/2015 13:04
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Anonymous
Normally I didn't get anything on these four big dates and I thought it's normal since we are busy with work and kids.

Do your people normally get a treat on these days?
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