What do you think about letting 17 yr old hang out alone in his room with his girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you think not allowing them alone in his room will prevent them from having sex?

No one is saying that. Let them fuck, just not in the house. Disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you think not allowing them alone in his room will prevent them from having sex?

No one is saying that. Let them fuck, just not in the house. Disgusting.

If they are going to fuck, they should have access to birth control.

[Anonymous]

This is such a faulty way of thinking. It doesn't take a genius kid to know that if he's having sex, he should be using a condom. He doesn't need you to tell him that. Providing him with protection is the equivalent of giving him your blessing. Just because you're not providing condoms doesn't mean they don't have access to protection.

[Anonymous]

talk to them both, immediately, and tell them how you really feel. Before then, decide for yourself because you sound unsure of your decision, OP, and they are still kids who clearly still need some adult guidance. don't rush into grandpa renting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is such a faulty way of thinking. It doesn't take a genius kid to know that if he's having sex, he should be using a condom. He doesn't need you to tell him that. Providing him with protection is the equivalent of giving him your blessing. Just because you're not providing condoms doesn't mean they don't have access to protection.

Many teens are too embarrassed to buy condoms or get other types of birth control even if they are having sex. If you think teens (or adults) have that much common sense, you are well on your way of becoming a grandparent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you think not allowing them alone in his room will prevent them from having sex?

No one is saying that. Let them fuck, just not in the house. Disgusting.

If they are going to fuck, they should have access to birth control.

Condoms don't work in a car?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With the door shut?
I'm ok with some fooling around and we've had lots of talks about going slow but I'm not sure if it's ok.

I really, really, really don't want to think about that

[Anonymous]

OP, you need to grow a backbone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

No matter what you tell him he is not going to go "slow". He is going to get as much as she is willing to give up.

If you think of sex as "man's role is to try and get it, woman's role is to say no" -- you're doing it wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are not his friend. You are the parent, he is your child and she is the child of someone who trusts you and your family's judgement. Your house, your rules.

Seriously, thank you for sharing commonsense!!

+10000

Also does her parents know you let them do this? Do they do it at her house?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:talk to them both, immediately, and tell them how you really feel. Before then, decide for yourself because you sound unsure of your decision, OP, and they are still kids who clearly still need some adult guidance. don't rush into grandpa renting.

Grandpa renting.

I agree -- OP, you need to decide what you think. Are you ok with them having PIV sex in your house? If not, are you willing to tell your son that it is ok for him to fool around with his girlfriend in your house but not to put his penis in her vagina, and will you trust him to not do it?

If the answer to any of these questions is no, then you should not permit your 17-year-old son to hang out alone in his room with his girlfriend, with the door closed.

[Anonymous]

No. They need to respect your house. Are her parents okay with it?

[Anonymous]

How would you feel if this was your daughter?

[Anonymous]

No, he should not entertain in his room - at least not unless the door is open. No lying on the bed, etc. If this stuff happens when you're not home - well, it does happen. Not saying it won' happen elsewhere. Store condoms in the hall closet with the family's supply of shampoo, soap and toilet paper - in case they're needed.

[Anonymous]

What responsibilities does your boy have, besides going to school?