my husband forgets some critical things like oven, door locks etc...

[Anonymous]

My DH often loses things, sunglasses keys, lock the door at night before going to bed. When it's constant it's annoying, especially the locking the door part.

[Anonymous]

I'm tired of dealing with this negative behavior so I'm having mine tested for turretts syndrome

[Anonymous]

My DH is like this, too. As others mentioned, pick your battles and focus on the safety issues. For me, locking doors was most important. I calmly explained how uncomfortable I was when I woke up in/came home to an unlocked house and stressed that I needed to be able to feel safe in our home. Then we worked together to find a solution...He paid me $20 every time he left the door unlocked. That behavior turned around almost immediately and he's still locking doors 4 years later. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

I'm in my 50's and often forget to lock the front door or remember to remove the key after unlocking the door. I'd blame age, but I've been doing it since my teens.

[Anonymous]

Did his mother drink? Sounds kinda like FAS

[Anonymous]

HOw old is your DH?

Has he always done this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are we married to the same guy??? My DH does this too. I figure it's not worth getting upset about so I have trained myself to ask him if he has his keys before we leave and I always check the doors and oven at night. The kids may not be wearing matching socks when he's in charge but he's a great dad and husband and that's what is important to me.

Kids deliberately mismatch socks, and if you make them change, that makes you a square.

[Anonymous]

Early onset dementia started out like this with one of my relatives in his mid-fifties. Diagnosed at 58.

That's why I asked how old your DH is and if he has always done this.

[Anonymous]

To the clinical psychologist - thank you. So appreciated. You are 100% correct about the hyper-focusing and the fact that ADD is a cognitive style.

It is VERY hard to live with though, as you mentioned.

[Anonymous]

I know this post was quite a while ago, but hopefully someone will still see my response. I am coming at this from the opposite perspective. I am the forgetful one. I am 5 months pregnant and last night I forgot to turn the oven off and the house started to heat up and my partner woke up really hot and discovered the fact. He was very angry and then gave me the silent treatment this morning. It's something that I do quite a lot. I kept saying it was an accident and that I never mean to do it, but he said I do it too often for it to be an accident. But it really is an accident. I hate it when I do it, as it makes him so worried and makes me worry. He sent me a message today saying he's worried about my ability to look after a kid. I am worried too. I heard on the radio about this case where a mother accidentally left her child out in a hot car to perish. I don't think I would do this, as I think I would be focused on the baby - I am focused on our cat and have managed to keep her in good health - but what if it did happen? What if I become even more forgetful when sleep deprived? I'm starting to wonder if I do have ADD and am not really sure what to do about it. I don't really want to go on medication. Are there techniques to improve your memory of things like this?
Thanks

[Anonymous]

As an addition to the last post, I am also capable of focussing on quite complex things when I need to and am interested. I am very good at studying for instance, which is one of tge reasons my behaviour has always confused me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have this issue as well. My DW regularly leaves doors unlocked in our Arlington home, even when she is the one that unlocks the door, like a side door which is typically locked. On multiple occasions, I have found unlocked doors the next morning. I now check them (and the lights, etc) before I go to bed which is generally after her. On those occasions when I am first to bed, she will forget to turn off the lights when she goes upstairs to bed. She also leaves our cordless phones everywhere. She also regularly can't find her keys, purse, etc. What I do is the following. I generally ignore her questions about where are my keys, etc. It is not my job to keep track of her personal items. But, before I go to bed during the week, I round up her keys, phone, purse, etc, and place them by the back door, so she has them when she heads to work. Otherwise, she regularly would be late to work.

are you my DH? You are sweet.

[Anonymous]

ok so i am 27 and my boyfriend does al of this does it mean leave?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a roommate like this. She left the burner going full blast twice and I came home to two cats in a houseful of smoke. She also would leave the front door ajar. Shen she moved out she left her bong behind. I'll never know how she hid the smell. She must have done it on the back porch.

The bong explains quite a lot of forgetfulness. I recall those days, distant memories now.

Hell of a stoner to forget the bong!! That's the one item I've never known a stoner to forget!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know this post was quite a while ago, but hopefully someone will still see my response. I am coming at this from the opposite perspective. I am the forgetful one. I am 5 months pregnant and last night I forgot to turn the oven off and the house started to heat up and my partner woke up really hot and discovered the fact. He was very angry and then gave me the silent treatment this morning. It's something that I do quite a lot. I kept saying it was an accident and that I never mean to do it, but he said I do it too often for it to be an accident. But it really is an accident. I hate it when I do it, as it makes him so worried and makes me worry. He sent me a message today saying he's worried about my ability to look after a kid. I am worried too. I heard on the radio about this case where a mother accidentally left her child out in a hot car to perish. I don't think I would do this, as I think I would be focused on the baby - I am focused on our cat and have managed to keep her in good health - but what if it did happen? What if I become even more forgetful when sleep deprived? I'm starting to wonder if I do have ADD and am not really sure what to do about it. I don't really want to go on medication. Are there techniques to improve your memory of things like this?
Thanks

On the one hand, you probably have ADD and are worried that you will not be able to look after your kid. On the other hand, you don't want to try medication.

Seems to me like the "try medication" side might need to win out.