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Anonymous
| The thing I like best (at least) about being an older mom is breaking the stereotypes some small-minded people seem to have about older moms. |
Anonymous
| Saving money by having the stroller also serve as a walker. |
Anonymous
| For the PP who bikes 6 miles, I think you are more of the exception than the norm. I know plenty of older moms that are still career driven and have less time for their kids. If my mother raised my kids, they would be watching TV and eating candy all day.... |
Anonymous
| Not appearing on the jerry springer show. |
Anonymous
My mother was 24 when she had me and this was how she raised me because she was just too young. Not only that, we never did anything remotely physical even though she had no health problems. I'm an older SAHM and I feel confident that my daughter has far more fulfilling experiences than I ever did. We take at least 3 different classes every week, go to various zoos, natures centers and museums. I find the older Mom comments about serving "junk food" and "having no energy" insulting. There are plenty of bad Moms at every age. |
Anonymous
| I had a young fit mom (20 years old when she had me) and we did nothing together growing up. Growing up, my mom never read to me, never took me to the zoo, park, played games together...nothing. Sure she made sure our basic needs were met (clean clothes/food). I'm 40 and as I was rolling around on the floor with my 3 year old yesterday, I was thinking "my mom never did this with me." |
Anonymous
| In the DC area, I think older moms are the rule rather than the exception. IMO, most women here choose to complete their education and establish their careers before marrying and having kids. I'm kind of surprised when I see younger moms in their 20's. In my crowd, most first-time moms are mid to late 30's and a few are early 40's. These women are far from geriatric. Most are healthy, fit, and much better moms than they would have been if their children were born when they were younger. |
Anonymous
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Being a mom in my 50s, as opposed to 20s or 30s, I feel I can focus totally on what's important for my child. I can put everything in perspective. Also, less likely to repeat mistakes of my own mother, having had more years to reflect and learn from others. No financial or employment stresses at this age, and lots of time intentionally devoted to our little one. Virtually no junk food or TV in this house!
(If you were to ask the negatives of being an older mom, I could come up with an equally long list...) |
Anonymous
I don't know -- to me it really isn't dictated by age. Their parenting styles seem to be pretty driven by their kids' personalities. I guess if I had a child who loved to curl up reading books in a corner, I'd be vegging with my nook on the sofa as well. At least more often than I do now. Don't we all, regardless of age, tend to parent to our kids' personalities? At least to a certain extent? |
Anonymous
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I agree with the PP in that it took those years for those moms to mature to become the great moms at 40.
There are plenty of moms in the 20-30 range that are mature and great moms. |
Anonymous
boo hoo hoo maybe she did a good job with you and you don't realize it. |
Anonymous
| I don't think anyone that has children in their 30's is an older mom. That still seems young to me. Maybe in 1950 that would be old but there are plenty of beautiful, vibrant 40 year old mothers out there right now. Don't like the term older. Can we say 'established' or 'mature'? |
Anonymous
That's actually exactly what I like best about being a younger mom. (Had my first at 25, 2nd at 27 and am now having my 3rd at 32). But just like you will never really know what it would have been like to have kids at a younger age, I won't ever know what it would have been like to be an older mom. 
I don't like the term "mature" because it implies that one cannot be "mature" at a younger age, which is far from the truth for some of us younger moms. |
Anonymous
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I WAS LUCKY ENOUGH TO HAVE HAD BOTH. I HAD my 1st at 21, 2nd at 24 and my 3rd at 43. I found i had the energy but not the time for my first two but now I have the time and the patients with my little one with the fantastic support from the older two. Having to work full time whith the 1st two when young with everything to pay for it was a catch 22 situation all the time, but now I only work two days for my own satisfaction and have the rest of my time with my little one. its great.
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Anonymous
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financial security
financial serciry and financial security. And: professional goals mostly attained, don't really stress about the smaller stuff 'cuz I was mostly stressed I wouldn't have these kids at all....no nudginess about going out to parties (absolutely been there done that)..... |