I wanted to throw my son out the window...

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, what do you expect from a 3 month old? He is a newborn baby! Newborn babies do not sleep very long, which means you do not either. You should have never had a baby if you are most concerned about YOUR sleep. Horrible... Good luck to your child and you my dear, need more than luck. You need help!

And the "Bitch of the Day Award" goes to you pp. Congrats!!!

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, what do you expect from a 3 month old? He is a newborn baby! Newborn babies do not sleep very long, which means you do not either. You should have never had a baby if you are most concerned about YOUR sleep. Horrible... Good luck to your child and you my dear, need more than luck. You need help!

And the "Bitch of the Day Award" goes to you pp. Congrats!!!

And the "Bitch mother of the last 3 months award" goes to the original poster. Happy belated mothers day!!!!

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, what do you expect from a 3 month old? He is a newborn baby! Newborn babies do not sleep very long, which means you do not either. You should have never had a baby if you are most concerned about YOUR sleep. Horrible... Good luck to your child and you my dear, need more than luck. You need help!

What a nasty post!!! Way to kick someone while they're down Spoken like someone who has never experienced serious sleep deprivation. It's a form of torture for a reason you know.

OP, don't listen to this bitch. I have a 2 month old and although he is now sleeping longer stretches, it wasn't long ago that I was exactly where you are. Do you have family near by? Can you ask your mom or close friend to come and stay with you for a little while? Since your baby is taking a bottle, you could have your mom/friend take over for a couple feedings so you can get a longer stretch of uninterrupted sleep. It is especially hard since you don't even have the help and support of your husband. I highly recommend that you get some help ASAP. Hugs to you!!!

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OP, if I was your friend, I would offer to give you a night off. Do your friends know what a desperate situation you are in? I would let them know. Even around here, some people WILL put other people's needs ahead of their own temporarily and help a sister out. And its a great chance to find out who your REAL friends really are. I would really hope that any my friends would ask me for help if they were in your shoes. Please reach out. If nobody steps up, I would be willing to bet there are some nice folks here who would help (like the PP and myself) if you were willing to let perfect strangers help you out.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if I was your friend, I would offer to give you a night off. Do your friends know what a desperate situation you are in? I would let them know. Even around here, some people WILL put other people's needs ahead of their own temporarily and help a sister out. And its a great chance to find out who your REAL friends really are. I would really hope that any my friends would ask me for help if they were in your shoes. Please reach out. If nobody steps up, I would be willing to bet there are some nice folks here who would help (like the PP and myself) if you were willing to let perfect strangers help you out.

Ditto!!

If any of my friends were in this situation, I would not hesitate to help out. Someone a while back posted an interesting article about how new mothers are supported here in comparison with other (less developed) countries and we have one of the worst support systems by far!

I don't know what the bitchy PP's problem is but he/she probably never lived with a newborn, or if he/she did, they probably had live in help.

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Op above all, if you do feel you are going to do anything crazy or unsafe for your baby, put him down, let him cry, and just take a breather. Crying is not ideal but a hell of a lot better than some alternatives. and get some helP please! Sending you sympathies!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, what do you expect from a 3 month old? He is a newborn baby! Newborn babies do not sleep very long, which means you do not either. You should have never had a baby if you are most concerned about YOUR sleep. Horrible... Good luck to your child and you my dear, need more than luck. You need help!

And the "Bitch of the Day Award" goes to you pp. Congrats!!!

And the "Bitch mother of the last 3 months award" goes to the original poster. Happy belated mothers day!!!!

Fuck you. Seriously, if there is one person on this board who deserves to hear that, it's you. You are a miserable human being.

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we had horrible sleeping too, but we had several ear infections in a row. I didn't realize it right away either. Maybe a trip to the dr to make sure all is well? Take care of yourself, and like others said....try to get some help. Best to you.

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Do you trust your soon to be ex to take the baby for a night or two once a week? I think he should help shoulder this responsibility. Since you aren't nursing it should be okay.

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Part of the problem is that the baby is really only 1 month adjusted. A few more weeks and sleep may be better. He also may be allergic to the for ula or have reflux as PPs said. Also, have him Checked for eat infections-- another common problem.

Finally, get some help for yourself. See a psychiatrist immediately. You are heaping all your problems-- your self esteem, split, and sleep deprivation--onto your baby. You need help before you hurt yourself or him.

Good luck.

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NP here and it sounds like you may be dealing with post partum depression, which could be caused in part of all the difficulties you outlined in your original post. Please, talk to your doctor. Medication will help. Also, co-sleep if that would help as well. I co-slept with both of my kids and they both sleep well on their own now so don't worry about all those nay sayers.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, what do you expect from a 3 month old? He is a newborn baby! Newborn babies do not sleep very long, which means you do not either. You should have never had a baby if you are most concerned about YOUR sleep. Horrible... Good luck to your child and you my dear, need more than luck. You need help!

And the "Bitch of the Day Award" goes to you pp. Congrats!!!

And the "Bitch mother of the last 3 months award" goes to the original poster. Happy belated mothers day!!!!

PP, you are a horrid individual. Do you think anyone would willingly put themselves in this situation? OP didn't exactly PLAN on things turning out like this, and now she needs help. I bet you can't even imagine what it's like to get out of bed to deal with an infant every single time it needs something. Every. Single. Time.

You suck, PP. You really, really do.

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I bet if a few of us kind DCUM's reply to an email address and can help out in some way- even if it's just one time for each of us- that it would benefit you immensely. Are you local in DC/MD/VA?
I had a severely colicky baby for the first four months. It was miserable. I felt exactly like you. So I completely understand... and I know everyone will tell you this, but it's true: it DOES get better. You will slowly get more and more sleep. And sometimes work will feel like time off... ironic, but true.

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pacifiers and cosleeping as others have said. get the "happiest baby on the block" dvd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, what do you expect from a 3 month old? He is a newborn baby! Newborn babies do not sleep very long, which means you do not either. You should have never had a baby if you are most concerned about YOUR sleep. Horrible... Good luck to your child and you my dear, need more than luck. You need help!

You are a cunt with a capital C! Unless you've dealt with bed rest, delivering and caring for a premature baby, AND having your husband walk out in the midst of what is possibly the hardest part of parenting, you have no idea what the OP is going through so shut your toxic mouth.

Sorry, OP, that person just enraged me. Anyhoo, have you tried some of the Happiest Baby on the Block techniques? They helped with my colicky baby. We had to swaddle, use white noise, and walk/jiggle him to sleep. Not saying it worked all the time, but helped more often than not. These are tough times for most parents, but hang in there, it will get better. Try to just take things one day at a time. Hugs to you.