Is it normal for sibling not to tell you they are having a baby?

[Anonymous]

If they had experienced losses before, then no. It may have been too painful and they didn't want anyone to tell the rest of the family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they had experienced losses before, then no. It may have been too painful and they didn't want anyone to tell the rest of the family.

This has been mu experience of people I know who only tell when the baby is here. It doesn’t hurt you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they had experienced losses before, then no. It may have been too painful and they didn't want anyone to tell the rest of the family.

I can understand this for the greater social circle and distant relatives, but parents and siblings? That you are close to? I can't wrap my mind around it.

[Anonymous]

I'd be planning a visit to see the new baby and help with anything they need if I were you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they had experienced losses before, then no. It may have been too painful and they didn't want anyone to tell the rest of the family.

I can understand this for the greater social circle and distant relatives, but parents and siblings? That you are close to? I can't wrap my mind around it.

Have you had losses, particularly later losses? If not, you’re right that you likely CAN’T wrap your mind around it and you’re lucky not to be able to! Support the new family— absolutely nothing here is about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they had experienced losses before, then no. It may have been too painful and they didn't want anyone to tell the rest of the family.

This has been mu experience of people I know who only tell when the baby is here. It doesn’t hurt you.

+1. I had a friend with a stillborn baby. She waited a month before sending out announcements.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they had experienced losses before, then no. It may have been too painful and they didn't want anyone to tell the rest of the family.

This has been mu experience of people I know who only tell when the baby is here. It doesn’t hurt you.

+1. I had a friend with a stillborn baby. She waited a month before sending out announcements.

^ announcements for the next baby

[Anonymous]

Is it normal to not know what is normal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they had experienced losses before, then no. It may have been too painful and they didn't want anyone to tell the rest of the family.

I can understand this for the greater social circle and distant relatives, but parents and siblings? That you are close to? I can't wrap my mind around it.

Have you had losses, particularly later losses? If not, you’re right that you likely CAN’T wrap your mind around it and you’re lucky not to be able to! Support the new family— absolutely nothing here is about you.

That is fair. I hope I didn't offend. I'm not OP, so thankfully not going through this in my family at all, but I would be as shocked/surprised if my sister did not share until after the baby is born, so thanks for the perspective.

[Anonymous]

Lots of people (including me) have all kinds of unexpected feelings about pregnancy and the way others get in your business when you are pregnant. I didn't want to tell anyone either - no early losses, no estrangement, but I just didn't want to discuss pregnancy at all.

It's a weird time for some people. Don't take it personally.

[Anonymous]

Was the sibling a sister or a brother? Honestly, I can see a brother not telling anyone because the wife insisted. Do you have any other siblings or living parents? Did any of those people know about the pregnancy?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they had experienced losses before, then no. It may have been too painful and they didn't want anyone to tell the rest of the family.

I can understand this for the greater social circle and distant relatives, but parents and siblings? That you are close to? I can't wrap my mind around it.

Have you had losses, particularly later losses? If not, you’re right that you likely CAN’T wrap your mind around it and you’re lucky not to be able to! Support the new family— absolutely nothing here is about you.

That is fair. I hope I didn't offend. I'm not OP, so thankfully not going through this in my family at all, but I would be as shocked/surprised if my sister did not share until after the baby is born, so thanks for the perspective.

No offense taken, hope the perspective wasn’t too forceful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just wish her well and move on drama Queen.

Truly curious as to why you capitalized queen. It’s not a proper noun. Why am I seeing more and more of this?

[Anonymous]

I’d go no or low contact with this sibling as they clearly don’t value a relationship with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d go no or low contact with this sibling as they clearly don’t value a relationship with you.

Wow. You’re exactly the kind of person people hide a pregnancy from.