Disappointment over milestone gift

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to be grateful and move on. Don’t have your son turn out greedy…like you. Good grief.

+1. So greedy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is you step mom Jewish? I hate to pin this all on his wife, but over and over I’ve seen the dynamic of a new wife not caring about her husbands kids or grandkids. And causing the man to give less or show up less than he would normally. And if she’s not Jewish this might play into it even more.

Of course, a real man doesn’t let his wife control his family relations, so it’s his fault anyways.

She is Jewish but not very religious - she and her own kids were not bar/bat mitzvah’d. I am sure she doesn’t care about the tradition and also doesn’t care about supporting her step-grandson.

Women usually get stuck buying gifts. So she did. Then asked husband "I got these for Aaron, what else do you want to give him.". He said,m"Oh those are fine."

[Anonymous]

I'd just be sure to mention in front of him that your mom's husband does very well because they gave "X".

[Anonymous]

Rude

[Anonymous]

Not appropriate to say anything. A gift is a gift. I think we've all been there, at least I have, and it just shows the person doesn't care as much as you thought they do.

[Anonymous]

Maybe your dad and his wife have run into money issues and are embarrassed to tell you. You know he knows what the expectation from your family with this milestone event. What does saying anything do for the situation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to be grateful and move on. Don’t have your son turn out greedy…like you. Good grief.

+1. So greedy.

+2 Super greedy. Ewww

[Anonymous]

Why on earth does it even matter in the slightest, OP? Had your dad given $1000 or $2000 how much of a difference would that make in anyone's life?

You sound really petty and greedy.

[Anonymous]

I’d be bothered too, OP. Whether and how you can say anything depends so much on your relationship with your dads. That is a big difference between what his parents gave you and what he gave his grandchild. If you want to preserve your relationship with your dad I’d encourage you to assume the best. Maybe he doesn’t know/remember what you received? I’d address this directly, not passive fireside, if you want to address it, though if the topic comes up I would definitely share what he receives from others. My own dad recently chewed me out for not being more appreciative of the $5 he sends my kids for their birthdays, so $400 cuff links don’t sound bad to me. LOL.

[Anonymous]

I don't think the extra money he could have given will really make a difference in your son's life. Let it go.

[Anonymous]

Long term,he will think of your Dad when he wears the cuff links. My brother gave my son a backpacking tent he still appreciates 10 years later and knows where it came from. Money gifts do not accomplish the same thing.

[Anonymous]

You are SO greedy. You son got two monetary gifts, which is also what you got (unless your parents were divorced but it doesn’t sound like it). As long as he’s treating all grandchildren equally that’s totally legitimate. I can’t imagine being annoyed by only getting $400 cuff links.

Most people don’t even get this money, there is no equivalent in many cultures. They might get some financial help when they get married. For god sake.

[Anonymous]

I understand how you feel OP, but I don’t think there is a gracious way to to bring it up.

[Anonymous]

I hate these threads about $ requirements for bar or bat mitzvahs. His grandfather was there for him. Thats the biggest blessing.

[Anonymous]

GROW UP!