DD has advanced degree and working at a burger joint

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Um, living in Austin and playing in a country punk band is pretty much my dream …

OP never mentioned how successful she was with her band.

Like, is she playing a lot of shows? This sounds kind of cool but I get being worried about financial stability.

It's not forever. Let her have her fun.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m glad you’re not my mother. No contact for your daughter is really the only solution here.

I hope this is satire.

No, it is not. Why? This is a mother who is ashamed of her daughter who is happily living her life. The daughter would be well rid of her.

You are insane. Your mother would be well rid of you. Your daughter too probably with the flimsy attachments you seem to have.

Try again. We support our children, and promote their happiness. That’s why we have happy, independent, free thinking children and not anxiety ridden, depressed ones. This OP epitomizes the pitfalls of UMC American parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just frustrated.

DD was always high achieving in HS. Went to Vanderbilt and then to UT Austin for graduate degree.

Graduated with MSW in 2018 and has been working at the same burger joint since.

Decided she hates her chosen field and is fine living with roommates and being in a punk country band and serving burgers me beer all weekend.

She seems happy but I am so disappointed and even more worried. No real goals beyond her music.

Totally agree. Next stage is drugs and prostitution. If only you had helicoptered better.

Actually it sounds like she doing her rebellious teen thing late - did you give her the flexibility to explore this in high school?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m glad you’re not my mother. No contact for your daughter is really the only solution here.

I hope this is satire.

No, it is not. Why? This is a mother who is ashamed of her daughter who is happily living her life. The daughter would be well rid of her.

You are insane. Your mother would be well rid of you. Your daughter too probably with the flimsy attachments you seem to have.

Try again. We support our children, and promote their happiness. That’s why we have happy, independent, free thinking children and not anxiety ridden, depressed ones. This OP epitomizes the pitfalls of UMC American parenting.

How free thinking can you they be if you are willing to advice cutting off a mother for expressing thoughts you disagree with?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m glad you’re not my mother. No contact for your daughter is really the only solution here.

I hope this is satire.

No, it is not. Why? This is a mother who is ashamed of her daughter who is happily living her life. The daughter would be well rid of her.

You are insane. Your mother would be well rid of you. Your daughter too probably with the flimsy attachments you seem to have.

Try again. We support our children, and promote their happiness. That’s why we have happy, independent, free thinking children and not anxiety ridden, depressed ones. This OP epitomizes the pitfalls of UMC American parenting.

How free thinking can you they be if you are willing to advice cutting off a mother for expressing thoughts you disagree with?

Sorry this hit you so hard. But yes, if a child is clearly happy (yet not making enough money or displaying obvious signs of success) yet the mother takes to the internet to express her deep dissatisfaction with the child’s choices rather than rejoice in her contentment, then yes, no contact really is the healthiest option for the child. It’s only a matter of time before she comes to that conclusion herself, likely with the aid of her significant other and therapist.

[Anonymous]

Better than nothing.. A coworker has three boys in their 20s, all graduated from good schools, none work, they spend their days sleeping.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m glad you’re not my mother. No contact for your daughter is really the only solution here.

I hope this is satire.

No, it is not. Why? This is a mother who is ashamed of her daughter who is happily living her life. The daughter would be well rid of her.

You are insane. Your mother would be well rid of you. Your daughter too probably with the flimsy attachments you seem to have.

Try again. We support our children, and promote their happiness. That’s why we have happy, independent, free thinking children and not anxiety ridden, depressed ones. This OP epitomizes the pitfalls of UMC American parenting.

How free thinking can you they be if you are willing to advice cutting off a mother for expressing thoughts you disagree with?

Sorry this hit you so hard. But yes, if a child is clearly happy (yet not making enough money or displaying obvious signs of success) yet the mother takes to the internet to express her deep dissatisfaction with the child’s choices rather than rejoice in her contentment, then yes, no contact really is the healthiest option for the child. It’s only a matter of time before she comes to that conclusion herself, likely with the aid of her significant other and therapist.

You are an idiot. I doubt you have children at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just frustrated.

DD was always high achieving in HS. Went to Vanderbilt and then to UT Austin for graduate degree.

Graduated with MSW in 2018 and has been working at the same burger joint since.

Decided she hates her chosen field and is fine living with roommates and being in a punk country band and serving burgers me beer all weekend.

She seems happy but I am so disappointed and even more worried. No real goals beyond her music.

Welcome to Magadonia all kids will be lucky if they have these jobs by the end of 2026

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Better than nothing.. A coworker has three boys in their 20s, all graduated from good schools, none work, they spend their days sleeping.

Where?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As long as she's not living with you and you're not giving her money, stay out of it.

Why not give her money? I would.

Because she can get a better job, and she's choosing not to.

She still deserves help even if she's not doing what her parents want. I assume they paid for college because she was pursuing something they approved of. Don't burn your bridges now, OP.

I’m in the “don’t give her money camp”. Just like tax incentives guide public choices - parental incentives should guide adult children choices. I would not pay for my kid to even do an art degree - I would pay for a degree I thought was worthwhile. It’s my money - I choose. Just like scholarship foundations choose which degrees they sponsor and which kids. Parents can do the same as long as the same rules apply to all the children. Equal opportunity not equal money spent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m glad you’re not my mother. No contact for your daughter is really the only solution here.

I hope this is satire.

No, it is not. Why? This is a mother who is ashamed of her daughter who is happily living her life. The daughter would be well rid of her.

You are insane. Your mother would be well rid of you. Your daughter too probably with the flimsy attachments you seem to have.

Try again. We support our children, and promote their happiness. That’s why we have happy, independent, free thinking children and not anxiety ridden, depressed ones. This OP epitomizes the pitfalls of UMC American parenting.

How free thinking can you they be if you are willing to advice cutting off a mother for expressing thoughts you disagree with?

Sorry this hit you so hard. But yes, if a child is clearly happy (yet not making enough money or displaying obvious signs of success) yet the mother takes to the internet to express her deep dissatisfaction with the child’s choices rather than rejoice in her contentment, then yes, no contact really is the healthiest option for the child. It’s only a matter of time before she comes to that conclusion herself, likely with the aid of her significant other and therapist.

You are an idiot. I doubt you have children at all.

Wrong. And I see from your attitude that you’re clearly an excellent parent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Better than nothing.. A coworker has three boys in their 20s, all graduated from good schools, none work, they spend their days sleeping.

Where?

At parents home.

They’re 25, 27, 28.

[Anonymous]

All work is honorable and respectable. She is working 2 jobs and paying her bills. Be proud of her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Better than nothing.. A coworker has three boys in their 20s, all graduated from good schools, none work, they spend their days sleeping.

Damn

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All work is honorable and respectable. She is working 2 jobs and paying her bills. Be proud of her.

PP here. Yes, that was my point exactly. If OP can’t do that, then DD should go no contact. But instead, OP has abused me for my views, which is just further proof of the type of person she is.