DD has advanced degree and working at a burger joint

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just frustrated.

DD was always high achieving in HS. Went to Vanderbilt and then to UT Austin for graduate degree.

Graduated with MSW in 2018 and has been working at the same burger joint since.

Decided she hates her chosen field and is fine living with roommates and being in a punk country band and serving burgers me beer all weekend.

She seems happy but I am so disappointed and even more worried. No real goals beyond her music.

Get over your disappointment, poster. Your child can see that the system is rigged against her generation, and she’s not going to spend her life chasing her tail on a hamster wheel of nothingness. Be glad she’s happy and leave her alone with your overwhelming disappointment.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m glad you’re not my mother. No contact for your daughter is really the only solution here.

I hope this is satire.

No, it is not. Why? This is a mother who is ashamed of her daughter who is happily living her life. The daughter would be well rid of her.

You are insane. Your mother would be well rid of you. Your daughter too probably with the flimsy attachments you seem to have.

Try again. We support our children, and promote their happiness. That’s why we have happy, independent, free thinking children and not anxiety ridden, depressed ones. This OP epitomizes the pitfalls of UMC American parenting.

How free thinking can you they be if you are willing to advice cutting off a mother for expressing thoughts you disagree with?

Sorry this hit you so hard. But yes, if a child is clearly happy (yet not making enough money or displaying obvious signs of success) yet the mother takes to the internet to express her deep dissatisfaction with the child’s choices rather than rejoice in her contentment, then yes, no contact really is the healthiest option for the child. It’s only a matter of time before she comes to that conclusion herself, likely with the aid of her significant other and therapist.

You are an idiot. I doubt you have children at all.

Wrong. And I see from your attitude that you’re clearly an excellent parent.

Your retorts are tired and worn out. I'm cutting you off now because no contact is the healthiest option. Bye. Forever. I won't look back so don't bother trying to engage either. Hello? PP? I said don't bother trying to engage. You mean nothing to me. You are worthless. Do you understand? Hello?

[Anonymous]

Do not underestimate your daughter’s contentment with her life and her choices. Authenticity and independence (and friends and art/music/etc.) can be a foundation for a good life.

As a concerned parent, I would gently inquire: Is she living within her means? Able to afford health insurance? Saving and investing for the future?

I hope to be a safety net for my AC should she need it. It is not easy for young people these days.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just frustrated.

DD was always high achieving in HS. Went to Vanderbilt and then to UT Austin for graduate degree.

Graduated with MSW in 2018 and has been working at the same burger joint since.

Decided she hates her chosen field and is fine living with roommates and being in a punk country band and serving burgers me beer all weekend.

She seems happy but I am so disappointed and even more worried. No real goals beyond her music.

Get over your disappointment, poster. Your child can see that the system is rigged against her generation, and she’s not going to spend her life chasing her tail on a hamster wheel of nothingness. Be glad she’s happy and leave her alone with your overwhelming disappointment.

She's also not going to spend her life flipping burgers and playing gigs at night with her loser band. Get real. This is a phase, OP. Don't despair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All work is honorable and respectable. She is working 2 jobs and paying her bills. Be proud of her.

I just worry about her longevity. She doesn’t ever ask me for money but lives in a crowded apartment with her girlfriend and band mates. She just had so much potential now it seems like she may as well have dropped out. She’d be in the same place.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m glad you’re not my mother. No contact for your daughter is really the only solution here.

I hope this is satire.

No, it is not. Why? This is a mother who is ashamed of her daughter who is happily living her life. The daughter would be well rid of her.

You are insane. Your mother would be well rid of you. Your daughter too probably with the flimsy attachments you seem to have.

Try again. We support our children, and promote their happiness. That’s why we have happy, independent, free thinking children and not anxiety ridden, depressed ones. This OP epitomizes the pitfalls of UMC American parenting.

How free thinking can you they be if you are willing to advice cutting off a mother for expressing thoughts you disagree with?

Sorry this hit you so hard. But yes, if a child is clearly happy (yet not making enough money or displaying obvious signs of success) yet the mother takes to the internet to express her deep dissatisfaction with the child’s choices rather than rejoice in her contentment, then yes, no contact really is the healthiest option for the child. It’s only a matter of time before she comes to that conclusion herself, likely with the aid of her significant other and therapist.

You are an idiot. I doubt you have children at all.

Wrong. And I see from your attitude that you’re clearly an excellent parent.

Your retorts are tired and worn out. I'm cutting you off now because no contact is the healthiest option. Bye. Forever. I won't look back so don't bother trying to engage either. Hello? PP? I said don't bother trying to engage. You mean nothing to me. You are worthless. Do you understand? Hello?

That’s fine. I hope your DD or someone she knows finds this thread (you’ve given a ton of personal info after all) and follows my advice to go no contact with your mean and malicious self.

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Anonymous wrote:All work is honorable and respectable. She is working 2 jobs and paying her bills. Be proud of her.

I just worry about her longevity. She doesn’t ever ask me for money but lives in a crowded apartment with her girlfriend and band mates. She just had so much potential now it seems like she may as well have dropped out. She’d be in the same place.

Sounds like she's having fun, like most young people do.

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Anonymous wrote:All work is honorable and respectable. She is working 2 jobs and paying her bills. Be proud of her.

I just worry about her longevity. She doesn’t ever ask me for money but lives in a crowded apartment with her girlfriend and band mates. She just had so much potential now it seems like she may as well have dropped out. She’d be in the same place.

I’m sorry but that is the most disgustingly clueless thing you’ve posted OP.

She went to university for six years, no? She matured as a human being and developed her mind - her acquisition of knowledge and critical thinking skills has incredible inherent value, whether she uses it to be a corporate drone or to work in the hospitality industry while she makes music.

If she had the success and bank account of Alanis Morisette or Pink you wouldn’t be whinging on this board about her. Own up to the truth that all you care about is MONEY. And if you keep this up - be prepared to lose your daughter, well deservedly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:All work is honorable and respectable. She is working 2 jobs and paying her bills. Be proud of her.

I just worry about her longevity. She doesn’t ever ask me for money but lives in a crowded apartment with her girlfriend and band mates. She just had so much potential now it seems like she may as well have dropped out. She’d be in the same place.

I’m sorry but that is the most disgustingly clueless thing you’ve posted OP.

She went to university for six years, no? She matured as a human being and developed her mind - her acquisition of knowledge and critical thinking skills has incredible inherent value, whether she uses it to be a corporate drone or to work in the hospitality industry while she makes music.

If she had the success and bank account of Alanis Morisette or Pink you wouldn’t be whinging on this board about her. Own up to the truth that all you care about is MONEY. And if you keep this up - be prepared to lose your daughter, well deservedly.

PP here. Bingo! My point exactly. And you gave way too much personal info OP. There aren’t many graduates of Vanderbilt and UT Austin who play in a band and work in a burger joint.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m glad you’re not my mother. No contact for your daughter is really the only solution here.

I hope this is satire.

No, it is not. Why? This is a mother who is ashamed of her daughter who is happily living her life. The daughter would be well rid of her.

You are insane. Your mother would be well rid of you. Your daughter too probably with the flimsy attachments you seem to have.

Try again. We support our children, and promote their happiness. That’s why we have happy, independent, free thinking children and not anxiety ridden, depressed ones. This OP epitomizes the pitfalls of UMC American parenting.

How free thinking can you they be if you are willing to advice cutting off a mother for expressing thoughts you disagree with?

Sorry this hit you so hard. But yes, if a child is clearly happy (yet not making enough money or displaying obvious signs of success) yet the mother takes to the internet to express her deep dissatisfaction with the child’s choices rather than rejoice in her contentment, then yes, no contact really is the healthiest option for the child. It’s only a matter of time before she comes to that conclusion herself, likely with the aid of her significant other and therapist.

You are an idiot. I doubt you have children at all.

Wrong. And I see from your attitude that you’re clearly an excellent parent.

Your retorts are tired and worn out. I'm cutting you off now because no contact is the healthiest option. Bye. Forever. I won't look back so don't bother trying to engage either. Hello? PP? I said don't bother trying to engage. You mean nothing to me. You are worthless. Do you understand? Hello?

That’s fine. I hope your DD or someone she knows finds this thread (you’ve given a ton of personal info after all) and follows my advice to go no contact with your mean and malicious self.

STOP. I said I want NO CONTACT. And I mean that especially over the holidays. I am not the OP btw and I only have sons.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:All work is honorable and respectable. She is working 2 jobs and paying her bills. Be proud of her.

I just worry about her longevity. She doesn’t ever ask me for money but lives in a crowded apartment with her girlfriend and band mates. She just had so much potential now it seems like she may as well have dropped out. She’d be in the same place.

I’m sorry but that is the most disgustingly clueless thing you’ve posted OP.

She went to university for six years, no? She matured as a human being and developed her mind - her acquisition of knowledge and critical thinking skills has incredible inherent value, whether she uses it to be a corporate drone or to work in the hospitality industry while she makes music.

If she had the success and bank account of Alanis Morisette or Pink you wouldn’t be whinging on this board about her. Own up to the truth that all you care about is MONEY. And if you keep this up - be prepared to lose your daughter, well deservedly.

PP here. Bingo! My point exactly. And you gave way too much personal info OP. There aren’t many graduates of Vanderbilt and UT Austin who play in a band and work in a burger joint.

LOL Yes there are. UT Austin? Do you even know where that is?

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Anonymous wrote:All work is honorable and respectable. She is working 2 jobs and paying her bills. Be proud of her.

I just worry about her longevity. She doesn’t ever ask me for money but lives in a crowded apartment with her girlfriend and band mates. She just had so much potential now it seems like she may as well have dropped out. She’d be in the same place.

I’m sorry but that is the most disgustingly clueless thing you’ve posted OP.

She went to university for six years, no? She matured as a human being and developed her mind - her acquisition of knowledge and critical thinking skills has incredible inherent value, whether she uses it to be a corporate drone or to work in the hospitality industry while she makes music.

If she had the success and bank account of Alanis Morisette or Pink you wouldn’t be whinging on this board about her. Own up to the truth that all you care about is MONEY. And if you keep this up - be prepared to lose your daughter, well deservedly.

Of course she's worried about money. I'm the PP who said OP's DD was just having fun and she shouldn't worry, and ALSO the PP who said she shouldn't cut her off financially. But come on, of course we want our kids to be able to make a decent living. It's hard to have a decent life without money, youthful fantasies aside.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m glad you’re not my mother. No contact for your daughter is really the only solution here.

I hope this is satire.

No, it is not. Why? This is a mother who is ashamed of her daughter who is happily living her life. The daughter would be well rid of her.

You are insane. Your mother would be well rid of you. Your daughter too probably with the flimsy attachments you seem to have.

Try again. We support our children, and promote their happiness. That’s why we have happy, independent, free thinking children and not anxiety ridden, depressed ones. This OP epitomizes the pitfalls of UMC American parenting.

How free thinking can you they be if you are willing to advice cutting off a mother for expressing thoughts you disagree with?

Sorry this hit you so hard. But yes, if a child is clearly happy (yet not making enough money or displaying obvious signs of success) yet the mother takes to the internet to express her deep dissatisfaction with the child’s choices rather than rejoice in her contentment, then yes, no contact really is the healthiest option for the child. It’s only a matter of time before she comes to that conclusion herself, likely with the aid of her significant other and therapist.

You are an idiot. I doubt you have children at all.

Wrong. And I see from your attitude that you’re clearly an excellent parent.

Your retorts are tired and worn out. I'm cutting you off now because no contact is the healthiest option. Bye. Forever. I won't look back so don't bother trying to engage either. Hello? PP? I said don't bother trying to engage. You mean nothing to me. You are worthless. Do you understand? Hello?

That’s fine. I hope your DD or someone she knows finds this thread (you’ve given a ton of personal info after all) and follows my advice to go no contact with your mean and malicious self.

STOP. I said I want NO CONTACT. And I mean that especially over the holidays. I am not the OP btw and I only have sons.

Sure OP.

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Anonymous wrote:All work is honorable and respectable. She is working 2 jobs and paying her bills. Be proud of her.

I just worry about her longevity. She doesn’t ever ask me for money but lives in a crowded apartment with her girlfriend and band mates. She just had so much potential now it seems like she may as well have dropped out. She’d be in the same place.

I’m sorry but that is the most disgustingly clueless thing you’ve posted OP.

She went to university for six years, no? She matured as a human being and developed her mind - her acquisition of knowledge and critical thinking skills has incredible inherent value, whether she uses it to be a corporate drone or to work in the hospitality industry while she makes music.

If she had the success and bank account of Alanis Morisette or Pink you wouldn’t be whinging on this board about her. Own up to the truth that all you care about is MONEY. And if you keep this up - be prepared to lose your daughter, well deservedly.

PP here. Bingo! My point exactly. And you gave way too much personal info OP. There aren’t many graduates of Vanderbilt and UT Austin who play in a band and work in a burger joint.

LOL Yes there are. UT Austin? Do you even know where that is?

It’s in Austin. Duh

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Anonymous wrote:I’m glad you’re not my mother. No contact for your daughter is really the only solution here.

I hope this is satire.

No, it is not. Why? This is a mother who is ashamed of her daughter who is happily living her life. The daughter would be well rid of her.

You are insane. Your mother would be well rid of you. Your daughter too probably with the flimsy attachments you seem to have.

Try again. We support our children, and promote their happiness. That’s why we have happy, independent, free thinking children and not anxiety ridden, depressed ones. This OP epitomizes the pitfalls of UMC American parenting.

How free thinking can you they be if you are willing to advice cutting off a mother for expressing thoughts you disagree with?

Sorry this hit you so hard. But yes, if a child is clearly happy (yet not making enough money or displaying obvious signs of success) yet the mother takes to the internet to express her deep dissatisfaction with the child’s choices rather than rejoice in her contentment, then yes, no contact really is the healthiest option for the child. It’s only a matter of time before she comes to that conclusion herself, likely with the aid of her significant other and therapist.

You are an idiot. I doubt you have children at all.

Wrong. And I see from your attitude that you’re clearly an excellent parent.

Your retorts are tired and worn out. I'm cutting you off now because no contact is the healthiest option. Bye. Forever. I won't look back so don't bother trying to engage either. Hello? PP? I said don't bother trying to engage. You mean nothing to me. You are worthless. Do you understand? Hello?

That’s fine. I hope your DD or someone she knows finds this thread (you’ve given a ton of personal info after all) and follows my advice to go no contact with your mean and malicious self.

STOP. I said I want NO CONTACT. And I mean that especially over the holidays. I am not the OP btw and I only have sons.

Sure OP.

I said JUST STOP. If cutting you off completely doesn't work then I will be forced to resort to GREY ROCK. Mmm hmm, looks at the horizon line with a bored expression.

THERE! THAT'S WHAT YOU GET!

And again, I am not OP....