DD has advanced degree and working at a burger joint

[Anonymous]

Just frustrated.

DD was always high achieving in HS. Went to Vanderbilt and then to UT Austin for graduate degree.

Graduated with MSW in 2018 and has been working at the same burger joint since.

Decided she hates her chosen field and is fine living with roommates and being in a punk country band and serving burgers me beer all weekend.

She seems happy but I am so disappointed and even more worried. No real goals beyond her music.

[Anonymous]

As long as she's not living with you and you're not giving her money, stay out of it.

[Anonymous]

At least she has a goal. She may change again in a few years and settle into something more "sensible" if she has little success with music, (which is highly likely). If she was always an overachiever, then these are her salad days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As long as she's not living with you and you're not giving her money, stay out of it.

Why not give her money? I would.

[Anonymous]

I’m glad you’re not my mother. No contact for your daughter is really the only solution here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As long as she's not living with you and you're not giving her money, stay out of it.

Why not give her money? I would.

Because she can get a better job, and she's choosing not to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As long as she's not living with you and you're not giving her money, stay out of it.

Why not give her money? I would.

Because she can get a better job, and she's choosing not to.

She still deserves help even if she's not doing what her parents want. I assume they paid for college because she was pursuing something they approved of. Don't burn your bridges now, OP.

[Anonymous]

Um, living in Austin and playing in a country punk band is pretty much my dream …

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m glad you’re not my mother. No contact for your daughter is really the only solution here.

I hope this is satire.

[Anonymous]

That is frustrating but she is like 30 years old now. Not much you can do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m glad you’re not my mother. No contact for your daughter is really the only solution here.

I hope this is satire.

No, it is not. Why? This is a mother who is ashamed of her daughter who is happily living her life. The daughter would be well rid of her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As long as she's not living with you and you're not giving her money, stay out of it.

Why not give her money? I would.

Because she can get a better job, and she's choosing not to.

She still deserves help even if she's not doing what her parents want. I assume they paid for college because she was pursuing something they approved of. Don't burn your bridges now, OP.

She’s not asking for help. Why would you give her money? She needs to figure out her next steps. If she wanted to go back to school to pursue something different that’s something to consider. But if she’s happy and this is the lifestyle she’s fine with why would you just hand over money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As long as she's not living with you and you're not giving her money, stay out of it.

Why not give her money? I would.

Because she can get a better job, and she's choosing not to.

She still deserves help even if she's not doing what her parents want. I assume they paid for college because she was pursuing something they approved of. Don't burn your bridges now, OP.

She needs to help herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Um, living in Austin and playing in a country punk band is pretty much my dream …

OP never mentioned how successful she was with her band.

Like, is she playing a lot of shows? This sounds kind of cool but I get being worried about financial stability.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m glad you’re not my mother. No contact for your daughter is really the only solution here.

I hope this is satire.

No, it is not. Why? This is a mother who is ashamed of her daughter who is happily living her life. The daughter would be well rid of her.

You are insane. Your mother would be well rid of you. Your daughter too probably with the flimsy attachments you seem to have.