Stepdaughter’s Clingyness Towards DH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do all you folks that think a 16 year old clinging to her father and sitting in his lap is sweet overlap with the folks that won't let their daughters go to sleepovers if there is a man in the house?

No

[Anonymous]

She’s very close to me and I value their relationship and think it's nice that she's so close to him, but I feel like when DH and I are just sitting on the couch and she gets between us and lays on top of him, sits on his lap in public, or climbs on him when we're cuddling, it’s a little excessive. She’s also protective with DH against the other kids. All my stepkids get plenty of one-on-one time with their dad, like trips and dates, and they also have good relationships with their mom. The divorce happened when they were little and I’ve been dating her dad since she was 5. -OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My stepdaughter who recently turned 16 is super clingy with DH—following him around the house & hovering around him, sitting on his lap, and curling up next to him in the coach, wanting to sit next to him. It’s starting to feel a little much, especially for her age.
I’m wondering if this still typical for a teenager (older step kids weren’t like this) or is this just her personality, she is a little immature. Will she grow out of it, or is this a phase that could last longer?

This is a really bad trolling attempt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s very close to me and I value their relationship and think it's nice that she's so close to him, but I feel like when DH and I are just sitting on the couch and she gets between us and lays on top of him, sits on his lap in public, or climbs on him when we're cuddling, it’s a little excessive. She’s also protective with DH against the other kids. All my stepkids get plenty of one-on-one time with their dad, like trips and dates, and they also have good relationships with their mom. The divorce happened when they were little and I’ve been dating her dad since she was 5. -OP

Sorry. Don't believe you.

[Anonymous]

Find a way to accept her and their relationship, if asked to choose, it won’t be you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Find a way to accept her and their relationship, if asked to choose, it won’t be you.

I mean it might. Plenty of dad ditch their kids. Maybe not their teens who sit on their laps though. That's weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do all you folks that think a 16 year old clinging to her father and sitting in his lap is sweet overlap with the folks that won't let their daughters go to sleepovers if there is a man in the house?

This is her dad, what does one have to do with the other? Obviously would be creepy if she did this with other dads or DH did this with other girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do all you folks that think a 16 year old clinging to her father and sitting in his lap is sweet overlap with the folks that won't let their daughters go to sleepovers if there is a man in the house?

This is her dad, what does one have to do with the other? Obviously would be creepy if she did this with other dads or DH did this with other girls.

When I see posts like this, all I see are the photos of Ivanka sitting on Trump’s lap when she was a kid and his hands on her legs.

It would have grossed me out to be Marla or Melanie watching that.

Point being, OP you can leave. Hopefully, your children are boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do all you folks that think a 16 year old clinging to her father and sitting in his lap is sweet overlap with the folks that won't let their daughters go to sleepovers if there is a man in the house?

This is her dad, what does one have to do with the other? Obviously would be creepy if she did this with other dads or DH did this with other girls.

When I see posts like this, all I see are the photos of Ivanka sitting on Trump’s lap when she was a kid and his hands on her legs.

It would have grossed me out to be Marla or Melanie watching that.

Point being, OP you can leave. Hopefully, your children are boys.

Me too. Everyone here loves to rag on stepmothers here so I am not surprised, but it's weird and developmentally inappropriate. I am not a stepmother for the record but I think it shows a profound lack of boundaries on both father and daughter to be constantly cuddling and sitting on laps like DD is 3 years old. Ick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound jealous, OP. If she was daughter to you both you wouldn't think anything of it. She also wouldn't feel insecure that she has lost him. I'm guessing you send off the vibe of disapproving, which causes her to do it even more. You need to let it go. No way is her dad going to say anything to her. And if you do, you are major league the bad guy.

I would be disturbed if my teenage daughter sat on my husband’s lap or held his hand. Maybe I’m just not from a super touchy family, but this sounds gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do all you folks that think a 16 year old clinging to her father and sitting in his lap is sweet overlap with the folks that won't let their daughters go to sleepovers if there is a man in the house?

This is her dad, what does one have to do with the other? Obviously would be creepy if she did this with other dads or DH did this with other girls.

Right, this is completely normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are jealous of his daughter? Go away step monster.

I mean, I agree she should leave him. But the monster is not the wife who’s uncomfortable with dads and daughters doing this:



Apparently incest adjacent behavior is mainstream now. Curious where you draw the line?

[Anonymous]

Of my four kids, my 18 year old DD is the most physically affectionate. She still sometimes sits in our laps and cuddles, I don’t think that’s weird. However, doing that in public is inappropriate, and so does climbing into our bed with you and your DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of my four kids, my 18 year old DD is the most physically affectionate. She still sometimes sits in our laps and cuddles, I don’t think that’s weird. However, doing that in public is inappropriate, and so does climbing into our bed with you and your DH.

My DH solve the crossword and watch TV in bed. We love when our teens and do them with us. Some of you are missing out on great quality time with your kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who encourage divorce because “kids want their parents to be happy” should read what this shrew stepmother is posting.

Divorce is a screw to kids…but the major screw is when their selfish parents remarry when they are minors.