Has anyone successfully convinced visiting family to stay in a hotel?

[Anonymous]

You can't control their responses. They're going to be unpleasant in response to any way you set this boundary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We've never allowed parents to stay with us. We don't have the space and we told them so the one time it was suggested.

Aren’t you a peach.

[Anonymous]

If they're your parents then you need to tell them they MAY NOT stay with you during the school week. If they're your spouse's parents they need to tell them. It's YOUR house. "You make the rules."

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thank you for the suggestions.

For the posters insisting my kids are spoiled yada yada…fair point. Neither my DH or I grew up in homes with designated guest rooms, nor did we share a bed with our grandmother or grandfather. We just didn’t (not saying it’s right or wrong or this or that, it just didn’t happen.) I never really slept in my parents bed either. Quite frankly, other than having friends sleepover, I don’t have memories of family staying with us for a week. It was the perk of having somewhat local family.

One of my kids is an infant, so yes, that makes things difficult.

[Anonymous]

Seems like your kids are pretty spoiled. Our kids love it when grandparents visit. They give up their room and "slumber party" in the living room on the floor. It's like camping for them. They love having the grandparents visit and appreciate every second with them Oldest is now in high school and has no issue sacrificing sleeping arrangements for family. Who knows how much longer they'll be around, be grateful for every moment.

I’m choking on your sanctimony. And, I’m absolutely certain your kids would have a different take if they were allowed to express an honest opinion (I bet they are not, though).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you for the suggestions.

For the posters insisting my kids are spoiled yada yada…fair point. Neither my DH or I grew up in homes with designated guest rooms, nor did we share a bed with our grandmother or grandfather. We just didn’t (not saying it’s right or wrong or this or that, it just didn’t happen.) I never really slept in my parents bed either. Quite frankly, other than having friends sleepover, I don’t have memories of family staying with us for a week. It was the perk of having somewhat local family.

One of my kids is an infant, so yes, that makes things difficult.

So does your infant have their own room? Or in a bassinet on your room? I feel like you’re actively trying not to make this work.

And I don’t think anyone suggested your kids share a bed with grandma or grandpa. Kids can easily move to a cot or a blow up mattress.

[Anonymous]

It’s hotel or don’t come. That’s what we said to my MIL who gave us every reason she should be able to stay and then was a very challenging houseguest. With her now staying at a hotel, The visits are more enjoyable, and she is invited more frequently. And sure, she’s still mad about it and likely offended, but that’s a her problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’re not just “visiting family.” They’re your parents. Geez.

Step off Azzhat. I'm much older than all of you and throughout my life grandparents didn't come visit during the school week. They are being rude. They are being asked to stay at a hotel and they should. That's all there is to it.

[Anonymous]

Seems like there are a lot of entitled boomer grandparents posting on here Op. Grandparents/family should want to help and lighten the load of the parents, not be catered to and put on a pedestal. 5 days is too much for any type of visit and your kids need their rooms. Letting your kids share a bed with a grandparent?! What?! That is beyond crazy.

[Anonymous]

I think your kids are pretty spoiled. This is totally nothing burger and definitely a first world country problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They’re not just “visiting family.” They’re your parents. Geez.

Step off Azzhat. I'm much older than all of you and throughout my life grandparents didn't come visit during the school week. They are being rude. They are being asked to stay at a hotel and they should. That's all there is to it.

How do you know how many old any poster is and why does age matter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems like there are a lot of entitled boomer grandparents posting on here Op. Grandparents/family should want to help and lighten the load of the parents, not be catered to and put on a pedestal. 5 days is too much for any type of visit and your kids need their rooms. Letting your kids share a bed with a grandparent?! What?! That is beyond crazy.

Yet another poster attacking an entire generation indiscriminately while ignoring the fact that every next generation poster on here is nasty AF.

[Anonymous]

Let them give you the silent treatment. Who cares? Do they want to spend time with you or not? If so, they will not impose on you and will stay in the hotel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think your kids are pretty spoiled. This is totally nothing burger and definitely a first world country problem.

We live in a first world country and asking your kid to sleep in a room that isn't theirs during the school week is a lot.

[Anonymous]

Wow, I guess I never realized how lucky I was that my parents and ILs offer to stay at a hotel when they visit, no questions asked. OP, if it’s important to you, set the boundary. Your parents will get over it. They are adults after all.