Is this cheating? I’d assume it’s not common

[Anonymous]

Definitely not cheating

[Anonymous]

If some one posted that their husband talks about masturbating with his friend then they both go home and masturbate at the same time and text each other while they are doing and talk about who cums first, this thread would look very different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If some one posted that their husband talks about masturbating with his friend then they both go home and masturbate at the same time and text each other while they are doing and talk about who cums first, this thread would look very different.

I agree that it would. But it still wouldn’t be cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If some one posted that their husband talks about masturbating with his friend then they both go home and masturbate at the same time and text each other while they are doing and talk about who cums first, this thread would look very different.

I agree that it would. But it still wouldn’t be cheating.

For some people it would be considered cheating if their husband / wife is sexting and talking about sex with someone else.
Sexting and talking about sex with

[Anonymous]

If the two people masturbating are doing it because of sexual attraction between them, then I think it's shading into cheating. But if they're just being silly (or weird) and have no desire to be sexual with each other, then no.

I assume OP's wife's position reflects this: she isn't attracted to her friend, but if her husband did this with a female friend, she would assume that reflects some attraction, given OP's and OP's wife's sexual orientation (hetero).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If some one posted that their husband talks about masturbating with his friend then they both go home and masturbate at the same time and text each other while they are doing and talk about who cums first, this thread would look very different.

I agree that it would. But it still wouldn’t be cheating.

For some people it would be considered cheating if their husband / wife is sexting and talking about sex with someone else.
Sexting and talking about sex with

Without spouse's knowledge? Cheating. And telling spouse about all of it? Not cheating.

[Anonymous]

Good on the ol' girl for still having both a sense of humor and an active libido at 50.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good on the ol' girl for still having both a sense of humor and an active libido at 50.

+1

[Anonymous]

Is it cheating when sex with has been very infrequent (obligation), and your wife masturbates (solo) to take of her needs? In my view it’s a form of cheating, even though she isn’t having sex,hooking up, or having intimate conversations with another.

I’m debating whether have a conversation with about this this, and to frame it as cheating.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry but this is so odd to me (but definitely not cheating). I have a very close group of girlfriends, we talk about sex often, have little boundaries with what we discuss. And this has never and would never happen.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s weird and borderline cheating. If she did that with a guy friend, you’d consider it cheating so…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DW (50) had lunch with a friend she sees a few time a month. Apparently there was some hot topic brought up, and the friend said she can’t wait to get home and "take care of business". Somehow this became a game of they both went home to do so as a race to see who could finish first. She showed me texts where they both started, who "won" etc.

I thought it was kind of hot, but did say it’s slightly cheating, she disagrees and says it’s more common than I’d think, and just harmless fun. It’s cheating right?

You’re a lucky man. And an idiot.

[Anonymous]

It would depend on part there was any interaction while taking care of business (phone) or if the discussion involved fantasy about a someone that isn’t their spouse.

[Anonymous]

I think its a little weird. Do you think she is bisexual or perhaps trying to segway into a threesome?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think its a little weird. Do you think she is bisexual or perhaps trying to segway into a threesome?

At a minimum, it’s a legitimate question.