Frat or Sorority, yea or nay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You posted this just to tell us how great you are. A true independent thinker! Go you!

No kidding. If OP is so disdainful of sororities and fraternities and is certain that her children shouldn't join, why the question? (other than to troll).

[Anonymous]

You have a disgusting outlook on life.

My kids are adults they’ll choose if they want to join or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You posted this just to tell us how great you are. A true independent thinker! Go you!

No kidding. If OP is so disdainful of sororities and fraternities and is certain that her children shouldn't join, why the question? (other than to troll).

OP here. I asked the question to see what others thought. Maybe I could change my mind with more data beyond my small sliver of experience. Certainly, the final decision will be my children’s choice. I was never a helicopter parent deciding everything.

So far, I am still getting that same vibe from the pro-Greek side as I did back then, similar to a time-share hustler: “I know stuff, lots of stuff more than you do, so if you know what’s good for you then you’ll join. Don’t you want to be better than everyone else?”

I did receive a bid but declined. I recall hearing, “We wasted beer on this person.”

Perhaps all these frat/sorority goobers is why the DC Metro area is so snooty and stuck up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I always laugh at these threads. Clearly they’re started by insecure and/or unattractive women. We get it — you couldn’t rush yourself because you didn’t have what it takes and you’re still bitter about it all these years later.

And certainly your house can be so proud of the person you’ve become.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nerd alert!

Greek nerds?

Or feeling defensive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always laugh at these threads. Clearly they’re started by insecure and/or unattractive women. We get it — you couldn’t rush yourself because you didn’t have what it takes and you’re still bitter about it all these years later.

And certainly your house can be so proud of the person you’ve become.

Obviously I’m not wrong though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always laugh at these threads. Clearly they’re started by insecure and/or unattractive women. We get it — you couldn’t rush yourself because you didn’t have what it takes and you’re still bitter about it all these years later.

And certainly your house can be so proud of the person you’ve become.

Obviously I’m not wrong though.

Obviously? So you have some sort of magic screen that can see into the hearts of other posters. Or you’re psychic?

Mmm hmm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Will you encourage or discourage your Freshman to join a fraternity or sorority?

I never joined because I did not want to pay money for a group of older students to force me to clean their house, wash their cars, attend mandatory drinking parties, wear conforming clothes, and be abused in a hazing ritual.

I withstood the peer pressure and opted out. I will encourage my children to opt out also when it comes time for college.

Most frats are mainly for White (or Black) kids. Not very inclusive. Very segregated racially. Most members behave like a-holes. Don't know about sororities.

We are not White, and literally every kid in our family that attended college and went to frat parties talks about how racist members are towards non-Whites. One nephew did join a frat and, other than 'bro affectations', didn't get much out of it.

Almost all of these kids are doing well in life, high paying jobs or on the way to one (e.g. med/law school). The couple that are not doing that well are in that position due to lack of academic achievement and ambition rather than lack of a frat network. Lack of frat/soro membership has had no impact on their network or qol, during or after college.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always laugh at these threads. Clearly they’re started by insecure and/or unattractive women. We get it — you couldn’t rush yourself because you didn’t have what it takes and you’re still bitter about it all these years later.

And certainly your house can be so proud of the person you’ve become.

Obviously I’m not wrong though.

Obviously? So you have some sort of magic screen that can see into the hearts of other posters. Or you’re psychic?

Mmm hmm.

I mean, you’re not denying it so . . .

[Anonymous]

Gently discouraging. If one of the kids really wanted to join, and was willing to pay for it, we wouldn't hassle them about it.

[Anonymous]

So many nerds

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many nerds

Greek nerds!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always laugh at these threads. Clearly they’re started by insecure and/or unattractive women. We get it — you couldn’t rush yourself because you didn’t have what it takes and you’re still bitter about it all these years later.

And certainly your house can be so proud of the person you’ve become.

Obviously I’m not wrong though.

Obviously? So you have some sort of magic screen that can see into the hearts of other posters. Or you’re psychic?

Mmm hmm.

I mean, you’re not denying it so . . .

I can’t deny or confirm. My school didn’t have Greek life.

Why so defensive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I always laugh at these threads. Clearly they’re started by insecure and/or unattractive women. We get it — you couldn’t rush yourself because you didn’t have what it takes and you’re still bitter about it all these years later.

Who would want to belong to a group with mean girls like you? Why so defensive + insulting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always laugh at these threads. Clearly they’re started by insecure and/or unattractive women. We get it — you couldn’t rush yourself because you didn’t have what it takes and you’re still bitter about it all these years later.

Who would want to belong to a group with mean girls like you? Why so defensive + insulting?

My girls were in sororities. They’re cute, smart, outgoing, successful, level headed — and very nice. There are worse things, right? Like being jealous of girls who are cute, smart, outgoing . . .