Frat or Sorority, yea or nay?

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Anonymous wrote:I always laugh at these threads. Clearly they’re started by insecure and/or unattractive women. We get it — you couldn’t rush yourself because you didn’t have what it takes and you’re still bitter about it all these years later.

Who would want to belong to a group with mean girls like you? Why so defensive + insulting?

My girls were in sororities. They’re cute, smart, outgoing, successful, level headed — and very nice. There are worse things, right? Like being jealous of girls who are cute, smart, outgoing . . .

I guess being defensive about one’s association with a sorority? Perhaps assuming that others are jealous or - how did you say? - insecure and unattractive, rather than having an opinion that differs from your own? That would be worse.

So, why so defensive?

[Anonymous]

Why does everyone use the pay for friends line with respect to fraternities and sororities but not any other activity? If you pay travel soccer dues are you buying friends? If you are on a robotics team and pay team dues are you buying friends? The money goes towards expenses, just like any other club. You just don’t like the focus, and that is fine, but that particular argument is pretty weak.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does everyone use the pay for friends line with respect to fraternities and sororities but not any other activity? If you pay travel soccer dues are you buying friends? If you are on a robotics team and pay team dues are you buying friends? The money goes towards expenses, just like any other club. You just don’t like the focus, and that is fine, but that particular argument is pretty weak.

Because they didn't get bids.

[Anonymous]

To be fair, at many non-state schools/SLACs, dues are sub $1k per year since houses are often too small for everyone to live in and charge you rent and the budget is a lot lower. I think it's totally reasonable to support whatever your kid decides either way, though. Greek life is fun. There are other ways to have fun, but it's a big part of the experience for some.

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nay

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Anonymous wrote:I will let my kid decide. I will not encourage or discourage. I don't care one way or another. My kid will be fine regardless of his path.

Same.

I rushed but in the NE. DH did not but he lived the ND ‘house’ system which was similar.
DS has a bid at a SEC school. I don’t see either DD going that route.

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Anonymous wrote:What is the OP talking about? I never cleaned anyone’s house nor car and was not hazed. Your intel is suspect.

NP. We know several frat pledges who had to spend freshman year acting as designated drivers for the other "brothers". They also had to keep cleaning supplies in their car because they were expected to clean up the frat house the next morning (and all that entails). Good times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I always laugh at these threads. Clearly they’re started by insecure and/or unattractive women. We get it — you couldn’t rush yourself because you didn’t have what it takes and you’re still bitter about it all these years later.

Interesting! Especially when many of us deliberately chose schools with no Greek life. But do go on making a fool of yourself!

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My DC is at a large state school where 20% of students go Greek. The majority - 80% - do not. She had no desire to rush since she had made a great group of friends freshman year and none of them chose to rush either. Too many other things to be involved in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always laugh at these threads. Clearly they’re started by insecure and/or unattractive women. We get it — you couldn’t rush yourself because you didn’t have what it takes and you’re still bitter about it all these years later.

Who would want to belong to a group with mean girls like you? Why so defensive + insulting?

My girls were in sororities. They’re cute, smart, outgoing, successful, level headed — and very nice. There are worse things, right? Like being jealous of girls who are cute, smart, outgoing . . .

I guess being defensive about one’s association with a sorority? Perhaps assuming that others are jealous or - how did you say? - insecure and unattractive, rather than having an opinion that differs from your own? That would be worse.

So, why so defensive?

lol because I know you’re jealous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always laugh at these threads. Clearly they’re started by insecure and/or unattractive women. We get it — you couldn’t rush yourself because you didn’t have what it takes and you’re still bitter about it all these years later.

Interesting! Especially when many of us deliberately chose schools with no Greek life. But do go on making a fool of yourself!

You chose schools with no Greek life because you knew you wouldn’t get a bid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does everyone use the pay for friends line with respect to fraternities and sororities but not any other activity? If you pay travel soccer dues are you buying friends? If you are on a robotics team and pay team dues are you buying friends? The money goes towards expenses, just like any other club. You just don’t like the focus, and that is fine, but that particular argument is pretty weak.

Except, isn’t the point of fraternities and sororities to have friends and socialize? A travel soccer team’s dues presumably pay for you to play soccer. A robotics team’s dues presumably pay for you to build robots. What else do you get from fraternities and sororities besides friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always laugh at these threads. Clearly they’re started by insecure and/or unattractive women. We get it — you couldn’t rush yourself because you didn’t have what it takes and you’re still bitter about it all these years later.

Interesting! Especially when many of us deliberately chose schools with no Greek life. But do go on making a fool of yourself!

You chose schools with no Greek life because you knew you wouldn’t get a bid

Surely you realize that is the stupidest sentence on this thread. This is a parody post, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was in a sorority because it was just expected of me. I rushed in the south but it fine because I knew people in all of the top houses and got a bid from a good one. However I was probably one of the least involved people in my pledge class, though I did like living in the house my last 2 years. Good food and it was homey. I just didn't click with most of the pledge class because of the superficiality and my closest friends were in other sororities.

Overall I guess it was beneficial but it wasn't a huge part of my college experience except that it was a great place to live.

You’re a better woman than I am! I de-pledged my sorority in my southern school. Just couldn’t do it. Then Panhell enlisted me as the campus unofficial de-pledging advisor, as they sent girls who were waffling to talk it out with me, lol.

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Anonymous wrote:We've encouraged our son not to join a fraternity unless he ends up at a school like W&M where the greek scene is very low key.

We've asked/told him...

1) If there is a culture of hazing (as there is at most all fraternities), ask yourself why you would even want to be friends with guys who enjoy causing pain/misery to other humans...
2) You will have to pay for all costs of the fraternity

He has also said to us, why would I want to pay to have friends? I can find friends wherever I go; I don't need to join a fraternity to do it.

So encouraged you kid not to join the Greek system unless it is lame like at W&M? Way to pass down your insecurities and hang ups. Maybe let you kid decide what's best for them without your lack of personal knowledge about actually being in one.