Frat or Sorority, yea or nay?

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Anonymous wrote:Let the kid decide.

Given that OP was never in a sorority, not sure why they have such an opinion about something they never experienced.

Are the kids paying for it? Sorry money bags but cost is absolutely illegitimate consideration.

[Anonymous]

A legitimate consideration.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would neither encourage nor discourage. Your kids make their own choices and don’t need permission from parents. Let them do what they’re inclined to do.

Yep. End of story. The "buying friends" thing is such BS newbie thing said by anyone never in a Fraternity of Sorority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was in a fraternity in college and met some of my best friends there to this day. I never even mentioned it to my kid whether he should ever join one or not. Never came up. Well, he's into his second week at school and is rushing and having the time of his life at a very good school.

Let your kids make their own decisions as to what they feel is best for them when it comes to such things. Don't let you negativity or insecurities for whatever reason rub off on your kid.

Agree, and I was super anti-sorority/fraternity at one point, but I generally let me kids make their own choices. DH was in a fraternity, but it was not his everything, and the kids know that. And they know I was not. I was a college athlete and my team was my support system in school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let the kid decide.

Given that OP was never in a sorority, not sure why they have such an opinion about something they never experienced.

Are the kids paying for it? Sorry money bags but cost is absolutely illegitimate consideration.

Then make it about your budget plan, not an uninformed opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let the kid decide.

Given that OP was never in a sorority, not sure why they have such an opinion about something they never experienced.

Are the kids paying for it? Sorry money bags but cost is absolutely illegitimate consideration.

Then make it about your budget plan, not an uninformed opinion.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let the kid decide.

Given that OP was never in a sorority, not sure why they have such an opinion about something they never experienced.

Are the kids paying for it? Sorry money bags but cost is absolutely illegitimate consideration.

Then make it about your budget plan, not an uninformed opinion.

The opinions of people that are in fraternities and sororities are valuable for this thread. And the people that were not in fraternities and sororities also have value bowl opinions if they had their reasons for not joining and and apparently had perfectly interesting, successful and fun journeys through college without a fraternity and a sorority.

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Anonymous wrote:I was in a sorority because it was just expected of me. I rushed in the south but it fine because I knew people in all of the top houses and got a bid from a good one. However I was probably one of the least involved people in my pledge class, though I did like living in the house my last 2 years. Good food and it was homey. I just didn't click with most of the pledge class because of the superficiality and my closest friends were in other sororities.

Overall I guess it was beneficial but it wasn't a huge part of my college experience except that it was a great place to live.

You’re a better woman than I am! I de-pledged my sorority in my southern school. Just couldn’t do it. Then Panhell enlisted me as the campus unofficial de-pledging advisor, as they sent girls who were waffling to talk it out with me, lol.

It sounds like you were a de-programmer to get girls out of a cult.

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Anonymous wrote:I always laugh at these threads. Clearly they’re started by insecure and/or unattractive women. We get it — you couldn’t rush yourself because you didn’t have what it takes and you’re still bitter about it all these years later.

The Bama Rush girl has entered the chat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let the kid decide.

Given that OP was never in a sorority, not sure why they have such an opinion about something they never experienced.

Are the kids paying for it? Sorry money bags but cost is absolutely illegitimate consideration.

Then make it about your budget plan, not an uninformed opinion.

The opinions of people that are in fraternities and sororities are valuable for this thread. And the people that were not in fraternities and sororities also have value bowl opinions if they had their reasons for not joining and and apparently had perfectly interesting, successful and fun journeys through college without a fraternity and a sorority.

Serious question. If you were never in a sorority or fraternity should your opinion as to what truly being in one is really like be valued as opposed to someone that actually experienced it first hand? I mean I think the OP was looking for actual feedback based on experience not some weird preconceived notions passed on to their own children not based on their own experiences.

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Anonymous wrote:I always laugh at these threads. Clearly they’re started by insecure and/or unattractive women. We get it — you couldn’t rush yourself because you didn’t have what it takes and you’re still bitter about it all these years later.

The Bama Rush girl has entered the chat.

I’m as far from that as you can get. But cmon, so many of you are so triggered by the thought of cute young fun loving and smart women getting together and enjoying themselves without hurting anyone else. So I gotta wonder what’s behind it. Why do you CARE so much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let the kid decide.

Given that OP was never in a sorority, not sure why they have such an opinion about something they never experienced.

Are the kids paying for it? Sorry money bags but cost is absolutely illegitimate consideration.

Then make it about your budget plan, not an uninformed opinion.

The opinions of people that are in fraternities and sororities are valuable for this thread. And the people that were not in fraternities and sororities also have value bowl opinions if they had their reasons for not joining and and apparently had perfectly interesting, successful and fun journeys through college without a fraternity and a sorority.

Agreed. But when their reasons for not joining are because sororities and fraternities are like [insert random inaccurate thing here], it’s becomes unsubstantiated gossip. People do love gossip though so carry on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Will you encourage or discourage your Freshman to join a fraternity or sorority?

I never joined because I did not want to pay money for a group of older students to force me to clean their house, wash their cars, attend mandatory drinking parties, wear conforming clothes, and be abused in a hazing ritual.

I withstood the peer pressure and opted out. I will encourage my children to opt out also when it comes time for college.

Neither. Indifferent to their decision however it would appear that the women go greek and men independent in our family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let the kid decide.

Given that OP was never in a sorority, not sure why they have such an opinion about something they never experienced.

Are the kids paying for it? Sorry money bags but cost is absolutely illegitimate consideration.

Then make it about your budget plan, not an uninformed opinion.

The opinions of people that are in fraternities and sororities are valuable for this thread. And the people that were not in fraternities and sororities also have value bowl opinions if they had their reasons for not joining and and apparently had perfectly interesting, successful and fun journeys through college without a fraternity and a sorority.

Serious question. If you were never in a sorority or fraternity should your opinion as to what truly being in one is really like be valued as opposed to someone that actually experienced it first hand? I mean I think the OP was looking for actual feedback based on experience not some weird preconceived notions passed on to their own children not based on their own experiences.

I had a bad experience with a conservative, hard drinking frat boy and there were plenty more like him. The activity at this frat was a lot of drinking and then more drinking and then more drinking. I consider it to be destructive and that is a valid opinion. Ymmv.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let the kid decide.

Given that OP was never in a sorority, not sure why they have such an opinion about something they never experienced.

Are the kids paying for it? Sorry money bags but cost is absolutely illegitimate consideration.

Then make it about your budget plan, not an uninformed opinion.

The opinions of people that are in fraternities and sororities are valuable for this thread. And the people that were not in fraternities and sororities also have value bowl opinions if they had their reasons for not joining and and apparently had perfectly interesting, successful and fun journeys through college without a fraternity and a sorority.

Serious question. If you were never in a sorority or fraternity should your opinion as to what truly being in one is really like be valued as opposed to someone that actually experienced it first hand? I mean I think the OP was looking for actual feedback based on experience not some weird preconceived notions passed on to their own children not based on their own experiences.

I had a bad experience with a conservative, hard drinking frat boy and there were plenty more like him. The activity at this frat was a lot of drinking and then more drinking and then more drinking. I consider it to be destructive and that is a valid opinion. Ymmv.

It’s valid in that you observed it and didn’t like it. Is it relevant? Maybe.