Can a man's cheating turn a woman gay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of women are along a spectrum of sexuality and the more bad experiences they have with men, the more it will tilt them to the female side of the spectrum.

I agree.

[Anonymous]

It didn’t make me gay, but it made me think a lot more about cheating (myself). I was cheated on in the worst context: SAHM and pregnant with our second when I found out. Worse, he barely did anything to try to make amends, and went after me in family court, and even ended up getting custody of the kids. When I say traumatizing…yeah.

Anyway, I was never a cheater and still am not, but I fantasize about cheating and role play cheating with my new husband. It definitely screwed me up mentally and emotionally. I don’t think I’ll ever fully recover.

[Anonymous]

I am bisexual to begin with, and after exiting a multi-decade marriage to a man who cheated on me, I actually don't feel any desire to date anyone. I feel anti-romance in general. My ex cheated with a woman -- both men and women can be liars and cheaters.

I do feel more critical of men though, especially the marriages I have more insight into, like my family and close friends. The men do not seem to be carrying their own water and seem generally unimpressive. That is probably a trauma reaction and I am trying to get past it in therapy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m heterosexual with zero flexibility about that. I can tell if a woman looks good but it inspires absolutely zero feelings or desires (except perhaps some mild jealousy or the desire to ask who her dermatologist or whatever is).

I’m picky in all relationships so I am going in knowing I’m looking for a needle in a haystack. It has been very worth it, and it’s how I found DH. Some men are awful as are some women. It’s not gender specific.

The question is whether a man's cheating affected who they dated after breaking up with the cheater.

Sorry, yes, my more direct tl;dr is no, it would never make me gay, only pickier.

It’s not a question of gender.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Doubtful. Most women are naturally bi. She probably just got bored and moved on to whatever was available.

Op here. I admire some women for their beauty as well as some men but I don't want anything sexual with the women. I don't think most women are naturally bi.

Agreed. Sounds like a man posted that.

I would wager that the people who start dating women are just already bi. Not that most women are, but those ones were. Good for them for finding what works.

Nothing good about being “bi”. Its a spiritual disease

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure if I'm going to date again after my divorce is finalized. But I think I have more interest in sex (generally) than in romance/building a life again with a man. And I find a lot of different things sexy. So, guess I'm saying, I wouldn't rule it out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Doubtful. Most women are naturally bi. She probably just got bored and moved on to whatever was available.

That's a bunch of BS. No women are not naturally bi lol. Maybe in the western world they are.

[Anonymous]

Women are some of the most homophobic people I have ever met. They will be friends with gay people, they will say all the right things etc...But when they are comfortable around straight men their true feelings about gay people come out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doubtful. Most women are naturally bi. She probably just got bored and moved on to whatever was available.

You have proof of this, right?

🙄 It’s every man’s fantasy- an enthusiastic ménage a trois, which somehow manages to be completely heterosexual and centers him.

So a lesbian who hooks up with your DW will enthusiastically jump in to a ménage a trios with DH. Yes that makes a lot is sense.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doubtful. Most women are naturally bi. She probably just got bored and moved on to whatever was available.

Op here. I admire some women for their beauty as well as some men but I don't want anything sexual with the women. I don't think most women are naturally bi.

Agreed. Sounds like a man posted that.

I would wager that the people who start dating women are just already bi. Not that most women are, but those ones were. Good for them for finding what works.

Nothing good about being “bi”. Its a spiritual disease

Being this judgmental is a spiritual disease. Seek help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Curious because I saw that raven from that's so raven claim that she started dating woman after a man her ex-boyfriend cheated and made another woman pregnant and a man is interested in me that had cheated on his ex-wife with a married woman while he was married himself and she later started dating woman after their divorce. So can men really make a woman want to date other women?

OMG shut up.

No the answer is no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women are some of the most homophobic people I have ever met. They will be friends with gay people, they will say all the right things etc...But when they are comfortable around straight men their true feelings about gay people come out.

MAGA you are talking about MAGA cult of stupidity

[Anonymous]

Doubt.

They say being homosexual is either a congenital thing from conception/birth or is a result of infection or learned behavior and like.

So I suppose it is "possible" that trauma could cause someone to question and change their sexual preferences?

Would be an interesting topic for a study or thesis.

[Anonymous]

I think there's a difference between not wanting to date men and wanting to date a woman. I have had two bad relationships -- an abusive one and one with a serial cheater. Since the second relationship, I have had zero interest in dating. TBH, the vast majority of men I meet suck up more energy than they give back.

I, however, do not have any interest in dating women. Not the slightest sexual spark there. I have a lesbian daughter and best friend, so it's not an issue of homophobia. Just no spark.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women are some of the most homophobic people I have ever met. They will be friends with gay people, they will say all the right things etc...But when they are comfortable around straight men their true feelings about gay people come out.

MAGA you are talking about MAGA cult of stupidity

Way too injection your dts in such a non political post