Can a man's cheating turn a woman gay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Curious because I saw that raven from that's so raven claim that she started dating woman after a man her ex-boyfriend cheated and made another woman pregnant and a man is interested in me that had cheated on his ex-wife with a married woman while he was married himself and she later started dating woman after their divorce. So can men really make a woman want to date other women?

OMG shut up.

No the answer is no.

You are rude and crazy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It didn’t make me gay, but it made me think a lot more about cheating (myself). I was cheated on in the worst context: SAHM and pregnant with our second when I found out. Worse, he barely did anything to try to make amends, and went after me in family court, and even ended up getting custody of the kids. When I say traumatizing…yeah.

Anyway, I was never a cheater and still am not, but I fantasize about cheating and role play cheating with my new husband. It definitely screwed me up mentally and emotionally. I don’t think I’ll ever fully recover.

+1. I also was cheated on while pregnant with #2. My DH tried to make "amends," but in reality he gave me a complicated, extensive cover story about a kind of cheating that he thought would be more palatable to me. He did not end up getting custody in court only because I had gathered extensive evidence of his cheating. I essentially exchanged my silence in public and with our mutual friends for full custody of the kids.

It definitely is extremely traumatizing. I have a kind of complex PTSD from it, which has taken more than a decade to settle down. Even now I can be triggered. And, it definitely messed me up sexually. It's hard to have good sex without a feeling of safety. And being cheated on really takes away a sense of sexual safety with anyone.

I'm sorry you went through this.

[Anonymous]

No, but if the woman is already Bi I can see wanting to prioritize dating women over men.

[Anonymous]

I had couple female crashes in high school which I never pursued. So I was bi-curious. The thoughts about these women were sexual from the start: I wanted to touch their breast, kiss them etc.

Then I got married to my second male partner and we had a 16 years long marriage. He was a horrid husband -cheated, screamed etc

Post divorce dating men is very unimpressive. As a result, I was in a poly relationship for a year (2 women +1man). It ended as I didn’t feel central enough in the poly setting, but sexually I was very happy sleeping with both of them.

I’m now dating interchangeably both men and women.

I’m feminine not a short hair lesbian.

[Anonymous]

My DW definitely had a friend group that had occasional same-sex things. Wasn't ever a thing among the men. She has had friends divorce and go through a "date only women" phase.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women are some of the most homophobic people I have ever met. They will be friends with gay people, they will say all the right things etc...But when they are comfortable around straight men their true feelings about gay people come out.

Totally true. Straight women think every queer woman is hitting on them. Girl, we can tell you’re straight and it doesn’t make you attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Curious because I saw that raven from that's so raven claim that she started dating woman after a man her ex-boyfriend cheated and made another woman pregnant and a man is interested in me that had cheated on his ex-wife with a married woman while he was married himself and she later started dating woman after their divorce. So can men really make a woman want to date other women?

This absolutely does happen in some cases to some women. Not all lesbians / bi-women. But definitely some.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am bisexual to begin with, and after exiting a multi-decade marriage to a man who cheated on me, I actually don't feel any desire to date anyone. I feel anti-romance in general. My ex cheated with a woman -- both men and women can be liars and cheaters.

I do feel more critical of men though, especially the marriages I have more insight into, like my family and close friends. The men do not seem to be carrying their own water and seem generally unimpressive. That is probably a trauma reaction and I am trying to get past it in therapy.

My exDW was cheating on me with AP ( a woman). I think I was a fabulous husband. So guys behaving badly didn’t make her gay. Also both sexes lie and cheat

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Curious because I saw that raven from that's so raven claim that she started dating woman after a man her ex-boyfriend cheated and made another woman pregnant and a man is interested in me that had cheated on his ex-wife with a married woman while he was married himself and she later started dating woman after their divorce. So can men really make a woman want to date other women?

No. Run on sentences will turn someone gay though

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It didn’t make me gay, but it made me think a lot more about cheating (myself). I was cheated on in the worst context: SAHM and pregnant with our second when I found out. Worse, he barely did anything to try to make amends, and went after me in family court, and even ended up getting custody of the kids. When I say traumatizing…yeah.

Anyway, I was never a cheater and still am not, but I fantasize about cheating and role play cheating with my new husband. It definitely screwed me up mentally and emotionally. I don’t think I’ll ever fully recover.

+1. I also was cheated on while pregnant with #2. My DH tried to make "amends," but in reality he gave me a complicated, extensive cover story about a kind of cheating that he thought would be more palatable to me. He did not end up getting custody in court only because I had gathered extensive evidence of his cheating. I essentially exchanged my silence in public and with our mutual friends for full custody of the kids.

It definitely is extremely traumatizing. I have a kind of complex PTSD from it, which has taken more than a decade to settle down. Even now I can be triggered. And, it definitely messed me up sexually. It's hard to have good sex without a feeling of safety. And being cheated on really takes away a sense of sexual safety with anyone.

I'm sorry you went through this.

As a man I sympathize with you. Cheating on a pregnant wife or gf in my opinion is the worst kind of cheating you can do, because that's when they need you emotionally the most. I hope you find a guy who will make fall in love again. You deserve one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am bisexual to begin with, and after exiting a multi-decade marriage to a man who cheated on me, I actually don't feel any desire to date anyone. I feel anti-romance in general. My ex cheated with a woman -- both men and women can be liars and cheaters.

I do feel more critical of men though, especially the marriages I have more insight into, like my family and close friends. The men do not seem to be carrying their own water and seem generally unimpressive. That is probably a trauma reaction and I am trying to get past it in therapy.

My exDW was cheating on me with AP ( a woman). I think I was a fabulous husband. So guys behaving badly didn’t make her gay. Also both sexes lie and cheat

You should have joined them for a threesome

[Anonymous]

My gay women friends had been raped in the past.

[Anonymous]

Def would consider it. I agree with the idea that women are likely more open to varied experiences. Maybe I’m bi and don’t know it 🥸

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It didn’t make me gay, but it made me think a lot more about cheating (myself). I was cheated on in the worst context: SAHM and pregnant with our second when I found out. Worse, he barely did anything to try to make amends, and went after me in family court, and even ended up getting custody of the kids. When I say traumatizing…yeah.

Anyway, I was never a cheater and still am not, but I fantasize about cheating and role play cheating with my new husband. It definitely screwed me up mentally and emotionally. I don’t think I’ll ever fully recover.

+1. I also was cheated on while pregnant with #2. My DH tried to make "amends," but in reality he gave me a complicated, extensive cover story about a kind of cheating that he thought would be more palatable to me. He did not end up getting custody in court only because I had gathered extensive evidence of his cheating. I essentially exchanged my silence in public and with our mutual friends for full custody of the kids.

It definitely is extremely traumatizing. I have a kind of complex PTSD from it, which has taken more than a decade to settle down. Even now I can be triggered. And, it definitely messed me up sexually. It's hard to have good sex without a feeling of safety. And being cheated on really takes away a sense of sexual safety with anyone.

I'm sorry you went through this.

As a man I sympathize with you. Cheating on a pregnant wife or gf in my opinion is the worst kind of cheating you can do, because that's when they need you emotionally the most. I hope you find a guy who will make fall in love again. You deserve one.

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doubtful. Most women are naturally bi. She probably just got bored and moved on to whatever was available.

Op here. I admire some women for their beauty as well as some men but I don't want anything sexual with the women. I don't think most women are naturally bi.

I don't know how old you are, and I'm not particularly interested in being sexual with women, either, but I think you aren't giving the younger generation enough thought - young adults, those rising through HS and college and early 20s right now are a LOT more open, sexually, than you yourself may be. Yes, I do know some young women who date men - but mostly I the young women I know date both men and women. Or just women.

I'm not interested in going down on a woman at all, but is that just socialization? Because why in my right mind am I willing to go down on a man? I mean, come on.