Husband wants to take a week long trip when I’m 32 weeks pregnant
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Anonymous
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I think it depends. Does he get paid parental leave or would these days take away from leave he would need once you have the baby.
If he has paid parental leave I would let him go. If he has minimal leave or has no leave at all I would see if he could go for a long weekend/a couple days. When we had our first my DH only got 2 weeks paid parental leave, they offered 4 month paid maternity leave at the time (about a year after his company started offering 6 months paid for all parental leave) so he basically banked up all his leave to use when we had our first. We needed those days and he was able to bank 9 weeks of PTO and then idk how many sick days. He didn't use it all, but it was nice to have. BUT if he gets the paid leave let him go. Honestly your life is going to change and this kind of a trip he really shouldn't be going on once you have a baby. If you have family close it will be fine and just tell him to have his cell on (and get #s for others who are on the trip) in case of an emergency. |
Anonymous
| Not a big deal at 32 weeks. Very rare to go into labor at that stage especially if you’ve had a risk free pregnancy thus far. I went on a business trip (flight) at 34 weeks and everything was fine. And it will be the last time he can do something like that kid-free and much easier for you now than any trip in the future. |
Anonymous
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I was just talking to a friend last week about how insane things have gotten about pregnancy attention in recent years. It started with push presents and babymoons. But lately i keep hearing colleagues saying 'oh my wife is 30 weeks pregnant so obviously i won't be traveling for that'.
This is insane. The likelihood of you going into labor is very remote. You even have parents in town who could step in in the unlikely event of emergency. And you seem like a loon, saying that you'll be lonely and bored without him for a week. Have you never spent a day apart from your DH? Let him go. Because it doesn't sound like you'll be letting him take any more trips in the next 20 years. |
Anonymous
| He should go and you should enjoy your week alone. My kids are 14 and 16 and I love them and my husband very much AND being alone in my house is something I never appreciated until I had kids. |
Anonymous
+1 million Things will change when baby is here. Let him have this. And it’s not his responsibility to be your constant companion. It’s good to learn how to feel content when solo. |
Anonymous
| That's totally fine |
Anonymous
| Why wouldn't you let him go? This might be his last hurrah fir a while. |
Anonymous
| You should absolutely tell him to go!! |
Anonymous
| I would let him go and I wouldn't have needed to go stay with my parents or have them come stay with me. |
Anonymous
32 weeks is still early if you are low risk. Let him go and lord it over him at some point in the future when you want a girls trip 
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Anonymous
| You’re about to be a mom. You should be able to stay home alone. |
Anonymous
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I would let him go
I did when my first one was about same 32 weeks and I was high risk pregnancies As long as you know he’s there for you and this isn’t a guys BS trip that will happen every year etc I wouldn’t want him to miss it. |
Anonymous
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I thought he wants both of you to go together. That would be hard no for me at 32 weeks.
But a fishing trip where DH goes on his own at 32 weeks is not a big deal. Sure anything can happen, but you have local family and he can theoretically come back (I assume he’s not fly fishing in Alaska? Or somewhere else where it takes 3 days to come back). It would be different at 36+ weeks, but that 32, it should be completely ok. |
Anonymous
| 18 hours away, so is this a trip to Alaska? Not some place he can just hop on a plane and get back? I’d be hesitant with those logistics. |
Anonymous
| No one has mentioned how he might feel if he missed the birth, which is unlikely. |